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Breastfeeding. I have tried so hard but my supply is almost nonexistent. I wish every package of formula didn't say that breast is best. I would have loved to be able to breastfeed.
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@jhd: Breast isn't best for everyone. I hate that phrase.
Hugs, mama. Ive been there.Right now the only thing Ive been feeling a little weird about is when to start potty-training. A lot of people I know are already trying but I still feel like she's a little young and Im not in a rush.
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@loveisstrange: @jhd: There is a commercial making the rounds of my radio stations right now that is extremely pro-BFing, and every time I hear it my guilt flares up and I punch the radio off.
Not having mom friends... I don't have anyone IRL that I can talk to about or commiserate with on mom/baby topics... and it's starting to really suck.
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Probably breastfeeding. My son just turned a year and my MIL has asked me numerous times about how I will continue to bf while working, how long I plan to bf for etc. it really bothers me since I think she's sort of judging me.
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@Charm54: hugs. If it makes you feel better, I have the opposite problem. We love our daycare and feel bad taking LO out of it while I am on mat leave, but we can't afford it whe I'm not getting paid. Everyone comments about how we should just get a nanny, but to us it's worth paying for a place we feel really comfortable with. Sometimes it can be a really good situation!
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Sleep (tired of the comments abt why don't we just sleep train)
Being a SAHM (feel like a couple of my working mom friends judge me for it)
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@QBbride: yeah my mil recently asked if I would wean at a year. She's convinced dd doesn't sttn bc she's breastfed.
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@Zbug: yes I'm sure MIL thinks this too. I think she thinks I'm crazy, so I just don't discuss it with her.
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For me it's judgement by a friend who acts like the only person to ever have a baby. Her little one is a whole year younger than mine and I wish she would wait until she had to be in my place to judge.
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@Bookish: am I nuts or are you in Boston?
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Spoiling my kids. My mom and stepdad say LO is spoiled, but they are the ones who let her eat popcorn twists and watch Shrek for hours on end.
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@Cherrybee: yea even in the context that she brought it up , as if the commenter were the crazy one, that was still pretty sh *tty to relay to you
hugs
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Screen time. I feel so guilty giving it to DS but lately we just both need it sometimes.
Quality time with my baby. I feel like I'm always running around trying to get things done or keep DS happy. Even though DD is always with me I feel like I should be doing more activities, etc with her. -
@MrsLilybugg: you're nuts
I'm in TX!
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@2PeasinaPod: we also still have the paci for naps and night time at 20 months! I figure I'll deal with it when he's 2 (which is quickly approaching!
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Maybe being one and done, and the guilt (or rather, the guilt over the real lack of guilt) over being a WOHM.
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@hilsy85: @2PeasinaPod: we have a pacifier addict here, too. it's gotten worse lately!! she is obsessed. she only gets it for bed/naps and occasionally in the car though..I feel like I read that as long as it's gone by the time adult teeth are coming in it doesn't affect development?
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@Running Elley: same!
My sister blames all of my LO's tantrums on the iPad. B gets an hour a day of screen time and E gets about thirty minutes. I really don't think their tantrums are related solely to screen time...and honestly, I can't make it through my 14 hour day of solo parenting without a 30 minute break. Especially on no nap days.
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@HLK208: Ugh Elliot gets 35 minutes...one full showing of Leap Frog's letter factory DVD. Usually it's just enough time for me to either shower and pull together our stuff for the day or make dinner. And he's totally learning from it but still...gahhh the guilt.
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Joining the sleep camp. She's been getting up a ton at night and...I still nurse her and she naps on me for...most naps. Sigh.
Runners up include breastfeeding (mom and DH seem to be thinking she's getting too old...she's a little over 7.5 months...) and my "needing to leave her more." Blah.
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@Running Elley: oh that's way better than what B and E get haha - I mean, the best we do is Super Why, but the worst? Ninja Turtles (for B only...but still, I cringed while typing that). I just realized that I mostly allow screen time while I'm getting ready for the day just to keep it peaceful. E's favorite thing to do is copy B and use whatever toy, book, etc. he has which unless I give 100% of my attention to mediate what goes on, then things get crazy. Hoping it's just a phase
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Yes. I'm sensitive that everyone has their opinion about how I'm raising my baby wrong. I'm holding her too much, I need to let her cry herself to sleep, she needs rice cereal, she cries because she's wearing a cloth diaper, she shouldn't sleep in my bed, she needs a babysitter more so she won't cry when other people hold her. It's just too much. I get that I'm a ftm and don't know anything, but freaking let me explore it on y own and figure out what works for me. I'm not doing what I do to try and ruin everyone else's life. It works for us. And I'm going to freakin hold my baby 24/7 when I'm not working because I miss her. Give me a break!
That's all haha.
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Hugs to all of you.
My touchiest subject right now is my seeming inability to get and stay pregnant. I know I want a second, and I wish that was enough.
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@jedeve: thanks
I'm hopeful she will like it as much as your LO does... I feel so lucky to have had a long mat leave but in a way it makes it harder to leave her. For the past year, it's been C and I, going everywhere, doing everything together. I don't want to be a SAHM...I miss my co-workers and I love what I do, but I don't want to go back to work and put her in daycare either.Basically I want to be on mat leave forever, hahaha.
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J was born early and more than once MIL has suggested that I did something for that to happen. As if I don't feel guilty enough. He's now sick with his third bout of bronchiolitis and May gave asthma and I am already dreading the comments that it's my fault.
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Being a SAHM. Honestly though, it's mostly my husband who makes me sensitive about it.
Also, feeding. We've had lots of feeding issues with B and I have a lot of mom guilt over it.
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@sorrycharlie: ha well at the rate L is teething, he's not going to get adult teeth til he's like 10!
so if I get to put it off til then, sounds good to me. I was mainly sensitive about the paci because I felt like others judged me when he used it in public...now that he only uses it in his crib, I feel better about it--but now it feels like a dirty little secret!
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Sleep and solids. EBF and solids at 6 months are extremely rare where I live...now that T is 4 months everyone is asking what foods he's trying. I cringe when they give me a look when I say he's not...that we're waiting a few more months before trying solids. They look at me like I'm nuts and even though I say it as gently (and hesitantly) as possible, they act like I'm judging their decision to feed solids earlier or something. I get a lot of snarky comments and that "he can't be satisfied just on milk. That's not enough for him"
Also he doesn't STTN anymore. He has about 2-3 wake ups a night and if I mention it offhand to someone they say I'm supposed to give him rice cereal or formula and he will STTN. When I say I'd rather wake up at night (I seriously don't mind and I don't feel like I'm losing sleep with our arrangement) and have him EBF they again look at me like I'm nuts.
I just cringe whenever these topics are brought up because I can never make my case and just have to nod and smile when I get judged.
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Food. Xander's 16 months in two days and he's still primarily just eating purees.
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@lovehoneybee: I understand the lack of guilt for being a WOHM. When I went back, life centered better for me among the chaos of his first year. The routine of work and support of my boss helped me immensely through that time.
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Weaning my 22mo. I get a constant "when are you going to do it? Probably never. I know you," from my DH (yes, so caring...and yes, I do want to smack him when he says it). Then at a baby shower this weekend I got "wow! Most doctor's tell you to stop around 1. You'll never just stop making milk on your own...it's like a cow." (Firstly, incorrect. And secondly...just rude).
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@Bookish: dang! I was totally like "hey we can have play dates!"
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@Keppa: Dang. Yes, incorrect and insanely rude. Sorry!
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@sorrycharlie: Our dentist said it can make their jaw change? Idk. I had them til I was two/three and I just gave them up on my own. I think it was three years old. I dumped them in the trash one day and never looked back. I do have a jaw issue but it's not what is caused by pacifiers and my teeth are pretty straight...so I'm not too worried.
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Sleep. I can count on two hands the number of times she slept through at nearly 18mo. And we're still in molar hell with her waking up at least once a night every night and screaming hysterically for two hours while we madly run around trying everything. I am somehow surviving despite working full time.
But the constant suggestions that I should try cuddling my baby or co-sleeping to fix the problem are a huge sore spot. Because, seriously? OF COURSE I'm cuddling her while she's upset, but I'd really rather not be doing it for two hours in the middle of the night every night. And she has never, ever co-slept. She just screams hysterically in our bed rather than her bed if we try.
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My student status- I'm really sensitive toward comments that question my decision and state I'll be missing this time in my son's life- "he'll on,y be little once!" Has become the most irritating phrase to me.
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Justifying keeping LO#1 in daycare while I'm on mat leave for #2.
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@jhd:
YOU are what is best for T!The list is long, even though it is from well-meaning people:
*do you think she is little because she spits so much?
*do you think she spits because you are BFing?
*do you think she is allergic to your milk?
*do you think she cries so much because you are BFing?
*just let her cry, she needs to learn to settle herself
*why do you hold her so much?Hugs to you all
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Quite a few but I keep reminding myself "this too shall pass."
Biggest issues right now are:
1) Finding a compatible daycare for DD so I can return to work with as much peace of mind as possible.
2) Confused and worried at how she became such a picky eater overnight. She use to eat everything!!! I don't know what happened. She has good days and bad days of eating so as long as she is happy, I am mostly okay. I get so happy when she poops because I know her system is working okay. I never thought in a million years that I would look forward to clean poop. Gross!!! LOL
3) Tuning out my inlaws on their illogical and rude parenting advice.
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My topic is "sibling spacing" - we just went through a miscarriage a few weeks ago and three of my friends who have asked us this question are pregnant. They are all due within two weeks of our supposed due date - one of whom I would have shared a due date with and has a dd the same age as my dd. That was the hardest one to take in. Dh was excited for them, but I was saddened that we would've been the same number of weeks pregnant.
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Hugs, mama. Ive been there.
hugs
I'm in TX!
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so if I get to put it off til then, sounds good to me. 
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