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Hello and welcome!

I've only got hugs to give you I'm afraid because I SUCK at waiting! Baby fever is REAL!

Welcome! Cute screen name too!

You can do both- live your life and have baby fever. There's nothing wrong with doing a little TTC prep, I wish I had, meaning taking prenatals and being healthy overall. Outside of that you're still you and your relationship still has to be nurtured. Besides, you can only get pregnant a few days each cycle although the 2WW can be a bitch!

Last year I had a MC and we took a couple months off before TTC again. We made spending FUN time together outside of the house a major priority. I'd see babies at the festivals and outings we'd go together and instead of aching for one of my own I was actually excited I didn't have to pack up baby, diaper bag, stroller/ carrier just to attend! I guess being happy and finding the positive with where you are at the moment no matter what is how we got through the past year.

@Mrs. Blush: welcome to HB ! I think you should get on that baby making business sooner !! Sounds like your ready!!! Lol

Well, I would just say enjoy the present and the season of life you are in and not let your vision for the future be what you're focus is on. That time you have has husband and wife without kids is precious - like it wont come back around for a really long time! So I would really soak it up, kinda like how people tell you to soak up that first year with your baby. It goes so fast and its so fun.

My husband and I started TTC 6 months after we got married and with a bunch of health issues, it took us 3 years to have our son. Looking back, we are so grateful for those 3 years we had before our son was born. I just have this huge sense of gratitude for the years we could just be best friends living out our random adventures. We were trying for most of that time, minus the months I was recovering from MCs or brain surgery, but we also just kept working on our relationship and bonding and spending time with each other as much as we could because we knew that had to be rock solid for a family to work.

Having a baby is totally consuming. Unless you have childcare, its hard to get out on regular dates and some days you can barely get a chance to talk to each other before falling asleep to a dirty house and an exhausted mess. Is it worth it? Of course. And our son, despite being a terrorist infant for the first 4 months of his life, is still our favorite little guy. But there are some days when I just miss being able to take spontaneous trips or doing dumb stuff together. We agree that season is over (at least until the kids are out of the house), but we also don't feel like we missed out on anything of being just the 2 of us.

So I say be excited for your baby and have fun TTC but also really love on your husband and enjoy wedding planning and just all of THIS that you have right in front of you because you'll never have this time again!

@Mrs. Blush: Welcome! and to answer your question we waited 2 years before TTC. I just tried to keep busy and have something to look forward to each month even if it was just a really good movie coming to theaters. It helped the time pass faster. The other thing I really enjoyed doing before TTC was renovating our home. Mostly minor stuff - Painting rooms, putting in new tile floors, etc. Once your pregnant everyone tells you "you cant do that, your pregnant" ("that" being climb ladders, put together Ikea furniture, painting, etc)

@Mrs. Blush: Oh, I feel ya! When I was in the throes of the fever, time felt like it was passing soooo slowly. I'm going to wall you

@Mrs. Blush: We decided to TTC because we were 30 and I had just taken the Bar Exam so that was out of the way. I guess we just felt like it was the right time to start trying. (DH and I had been friends for about 4 years before we even started dating so I guess we were on quicker about TTC). But I never really felt like there was this time before TTC and after TTC. It was more like pre-baby and post-baby.

There was a point where we weren't sure if we could have a baby and I remember DH telling me "You know, even if we never had a kid, I'd still be perfectly happy. I love our life now - I don't feel like this is some lesser version." I loved that he said that and it really made me feel like we were right for each other and living a fulfilling life anyway.

Before our son arrived we went to Hawaii twice, did several weekends in Napa Valley, and just went out on a lot of dates. There was about a year of recovery from my surgery during which we just hung out at home a lot and had a lot of homemade dates. Oyster platters and champagne on a weeknight, eating warm cookies and watching hockey games, going on long drives, etc. We just liked (and still like) hanging out with each other.