I know this should probably be gold, but since I'm not a gold member that would do me no good

We entered the infertility world in December and it's been a wild ride since then. Looking back I am wondering if we should have gone about it differently. We had our first apt on cd4 so when they said we could start on cd5 THE VERY NEXT day we did it. Bc after all my age is a factor and waiting any longer didn't seem like an option... However, now that we are 5 months in and still no BFP I am wondering if we've made a mistake. Maybe we should have shopped around more? Maybe I should have done more research... I know, I know... you should always research this kind of stuff. But the clinic I am working with was recommended by my OB and it's very well known in the area and has good success rates. I also know that sometimes you pay more for better care/higher success rates.

I do feel though that when I read about fertility treatment that sometimes I feel like we paid and are paying more... and when they gave me the projected cost for IVF I was floored and saddened that we just can't afford it. So I'm wondering if the costs of my clinic are just more or if I am just naïve bc the expense shocks me......

We are in our 2nd IUI. The cost is $1600 global fee, this includes all monitoring and ultrasound appts. The meds are approx. $650 on top of that so $2250 per IUI cycle.

When they gave us the breakdown for IVF it was $15k-$18k per round plus $6k-$8k for meds. Or $21k-$28k. They did say we could do two rounds for $18k plus meds for each cycle ($12k-$16k) so that would be $30k-$34k. We just can't do that. We have no insurance coverage for this so it would be all out of pocket. How do people do IVF? How do they do round after round? I sincerely give everyone who can do it soooo much credit!!! The emotions, the money and the whole uncertainty are overwhelming to say the least!

I'm not sure really what I'm looking for, maybe just some commiseration? Or maybe others to say, yeah, that's exactly my story... or maybe woah.. that's crazy, go to a different clinic asap!!!

Hoping some of my fellow fertility challenged mama's respond.