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@Adira: this is an intervention. You need a new daycare. They are careless with Xander's well being. His initial allergic reaction is so recent. They should be hyper vigilant about his diet, not "whoopsie fed him formula." Yes it was a mistake, but it was one with very real consequences for his well being. I hope Xander is feeling better. Hugs.

I am sorry this happened. I would be angry too! But in their defense, shit happens and people make mistakes. I try not to worry a whole about what daycare does with LO. As long as she is fed, watered, changed and happy then I am happy. But I do see why this crosses that line and they should be more careful to the instructions you have given.

@Adira: I suspect Xander will love many places. The initial move is hard but you have had repeated issues with this daycare. It seems like lots of signs that it isn't the right place for your family. Is there anywhere else with location and price?

@Adira: I already told you my opinion on this. But I will say Xander will be fine if you decide to go with another place. At this age I think moving centers is much easier then it would be at the age of 3.

@Adira: I also just want to give you a big HUG! I know you are stressing about what to do. I am glad that Xander is ok and sleeping it off!!

I don't think your reaction is ridiculous, and it definitely isn't given that your son had a reaction to the formula. It seems that you've had several experiences where your reasonable instructions were not followed, or were challenged, by the daycare's staff. I don't think that's acceptable.

ETA: I just saw your update. I don't think it's nuts to keep him there if you feel that the explanation was adequate and that there are now sufficient safeguards in place to make sure that nothing similar happens again. My feeling is that instinct should be your guide on this, but I might also look around for other options in the event of another mistake or incident.

I'm sorry this happened. It does seem like your son's daycare is not especially careful about food issues.

However, formula is not poison. I'm not trying to diminish the fact that breastfeeding is hard work...but honestly of all of the things for your child to ingest, formula is far from the worst thing in the world.

Also, my son was dairy intolerant and when I was breastfeeding, I could not eat dairy or else he had a reaction (blood in stool). Since you eat dairy and he has not had issues, it's possible that he had a reaction to something else in the formula...or something else entirely. Every baby is different and I'm not saying he DOESNT have an intolerance....but I'd also consider other factors and what else he ate / what other ingredients are in the formula.

@Adira: I'm all for giving people another chance. As long as you're comfortable with the daycare's response to the issue (and the previous issues you've had with them), then I would leave him there. Should another big incident happen again, I'd probably be out of there faster than you could blink.

I certainly understand your desire to give the daycare one more chance. We have our daughter in a great daycare and we have had some hardships and heartburn. Change is hard when it concerns your child. We have changed daycares once and it was entirely planned. We knew the first daycare we used we didn't want to use beyond one year. We knew exactly where we wanted our daughter to move to and it was still hard.

You have to know your tolerance level and be comfortable with it. I will say that I loved one of our daughters teachers and that's probably what made the decision the hardest. But know this, most of the people that work in daycare environments love children and are great with them. It's why they do what they do. Your child will almost certainly love another teacher elsewhere just as well.

@Adira: Don't worry for a second whether we think you are crazy or not! If *you* are comfortable, believe Xander is well taken care of, and are willing to give them another chance, then that's all that matters. We, despite our good intentions, should really have no bearing on what you do! It's your adorable little man, not ours, and you need to do what you feel most comfortable with.

Lots of hugs to you both!

And one last note! For those saying that they should have the children listed with the allergy next to their name, that's actually a violation of HIPAA without parental consent. Our daycare isn't allowed to post anything like that without parental permission...and even then, are heavily scrutinized by our state for doing so.

@Adira: Sorry you are going through this. Poor little Xander. I second @Bookish in that you are the one who knows best for your sweet baby!
On a side note, LaLeche has an article here:
http://www.lalecheleague.org/nb/nbjulaug98p100.html where they note that a breastfed baby that has an allergy to dairy may have the symptom of eczema, which Xander does.... "Eczema--dry, rough, red skin patches which can progress to open, weeping sores--is another common symptom among children allergic to cow's milk." So even though it seemed like he isn't affected by dairy in your diet, maybe he is? I'll be interested to see what the allergist says.

Yes, my son had mild eczema as well -- particularly when we started trials of cow's milk. he eventually outgrew the intolerance.

Poor Xander, glad he's okay now!

@Adira: how's the little guy doing? is he okay?

I would be feeling the exact same way as you, and you have the right to be angry! I know how hard it is to feel like you've lost control of something as important as feeding. I've been there with my LO and I can relate.

Big hugs to you and X. What a day

@2PeasinaPod: and @Ms.Badger: I taught at a camp this past summer and a little girl had one of these because she is allergic to latex. It was a great bracelet and she knew to ask before she any kind if bandaid.