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We were TG but told our options, simply because I get drivencrazy by, "We know but don't want to tell". If we we're going to have kept it a secret, we would have said we didn't know yet.

@macintosh: We didn't and I'm SO glad! We had a nickname for him in utero and called him that, but saved his name for after he was born. For one, we wanted to meet him and make sure it fit! For another, I have friends and family who have had super late-term losses, unfortunately, and I was pretty superstitious. I wanted him to be here safely before I shared his name with everyone-thankfully he is! Also, since everyone knew he was a boy, it felt special to have the name be a surprise on his birthday. We loved doing it this way!

We didn't with R, and plan to do the same this time. Part of it is that I worry she'll come out and I'll feel like the name we have picked is all wrong. Part of it is not wanting any crap from our families about it. Waiting may not guarantee they'll keep their opinions to themselves, but it should help. But mostly we like having the surprise, and having it as a secret for ourselves. It's nice.

And it sounds weird, but I'm really glad we waited with R. Announcing her name for the first time at the same time we told that she had died feels like it made it more real to people that this was a baby that we lost, not "just" a pregnancy.

We weren't 100% sure until she was born, but we shared our #1 pick (which ended up being her name) with a few friends.

We told, but dh didn't want to at first. But then his bff got it out of him and he gave up wanting it to be secret haha

Yes, we shared E's name before she arrived. She's named after her grandmothers, and we told our moms on mother's day. We also never received anything but positive comments from people.

We were TG both times and didn't have a set choice for either sex going into it. We had a short list for each both times, but we were keeping our options open. So there was no 'oh it's a girl, her name must be X', everything was a surprise!

ETA: I forgot to answer the question, we shared some of our short list with a few select people (ie my mom, my sister, and DH's parents) but that was it.

with our first, we told everyone once we had settled on a name. we didn't make any sort of announcement, but did share if people asked.

with our second, we couldn't come to an agreement on one name...I had my top choice, and my husband had his, so we knew it would more than likely be one of those, but weren't sure which. we did not share the choices. we chose not to share the choices because we didn't want to be swayed one way or the other. mine was a little bit more different/uncommon than the one my husband chose, so we figured people would try to sway us to one or the other. we didn't pick her name until we were in our recovery room, but once we both saw her when she came out and we were shown her(I had a C-section) we both knew which name it was(and it was my husbands choice, hmph! lol) and sure enough after she was born and people asked when the other choice was we got a lot ofs 'oh, you made the right choice!'...hence why we didn't tell.

No one knew except DH and I. We made that choice after sharing a few general names we liked and MIL criticizing them. It was just easier to keep it to ourselves then called family and texted friends after he was born. DH's aunt actually told us not telling the name was ridiculous but she is a very open and outspoken lady so keeping anything secret to her is against her nature.

We did! Everyone was really supportive and we never received any negative comments about his name.

If people asked, we told them - it wasn't a big secret. No one said anything but positive comments and we got some nice suggestions for middle names.

Nope. His name wasn't decided until after he was born.

We shared when people asked both times. Everyone seemed to love Lucas from the very beginning so it was no big deal. This time when I told my parents what was our leading candidate at the time (and now about 99% sure) both of them seemed iffy about it, but a few weeks later my mom called and told me that she now LOVED the name Jonah and if we changed our minds she would be sad.

I like that when they hear the baby was born their first thought won't be judging the name. It was also important to me that the name had been "vetted" so that, even if people just didn't love it, that maybe something weird about the name occurred to others that didn't occur to us would be brought up before it was legal and difficult to change. Plus, our families are pretty easy going and say things more like, "Oh, well I don't think I would have chosen that" instead of trying to change our minds. When we tell people, after they ask, we always hedge our bets and say that it still could change.

we haven't chosen our name yet (ugh) but i am soooo bad at secrets and i tell almost anyone who asks what our list is! haha. i'm confident enough in my love for the names that other people's opinions don't really affect me. both of our moms don't like our #1 contender but it doesn't bother me really.. they'll love it once they know her, i assume.
i went for lunch with two other preggos on the weekend and both of them know but aren't telling! SO ANNOYING. i said ugh why couldn't u just lie and say you don't know???

@loki: they'll get over it My mom was a bit iffy on our LO's name. Not so much that she disliked it as she liked our second and third choice better. After we decided she asked a few times "are you suuuure you don't want to call her [second choice name]?" and I'd just say YEP. But once Fiona was a few months old my mom said she had come to really love the name and couldn't imagine her with any other.

We shared the name as a potential name but considering my husband and I couldn't agree on any other names, the name we shared ended up being it! Generally, I don't like to share ahead of time or officially name baby before he/she arrives!

We did both times with just my family a d both time have gotten negative reactions. So hopefully next time we don't make the mistake sharing again.

I shared it but only if people asked. It was surprising how many strangers asked! So it was a little weird that some strangers knew but not some family and friends just because they never asked. It wasn't a big deal to tell people but I just got tired of having the same "how did you come up with the name" conversation over and over.

We shared it at the baby shower and I started calling her by her name since she was in my womb. We loved the name for her since early on so it was fun to share it with family and friends.

Not really...because we hadn't decided on it until after she was born! We did share her middle name though and a few choices for first name, but honestly they weren't met with the greatest reactions and I definitely wouldn't share anything next time!