Before you started TTC, did you worry that it would take awhile to get a BFP? This is definitely a fear of mine. There isn't really a reason I should be worried, but I can't help it (I'm also a worrier in general). Did anyone else feel this way? Were you pleasantly surprised with a BFP early on?
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I did - my mom & sister had fertility issues and I was irregular so I thought for sure I would too. But, we did a lot of prep work (who knows it it helped or not) and were surprised the 2nd month we stopped preventing. We were shocked! There's really no way to tell I guess.
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I'm not sure what you define as "awhile"! I was worried because we started trying when I was 34, and got our BFP cycle 6. This was longer than I would have liked but obviously shorter than what I consider "awhile".
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I am very worried about this, although like you, there is no real reason it should be a problem. I can't vote though, because so far I only know it didn't happen on the first try. It's one of my biggest fears at the moment. I guess once I do get a BFP, I'll have 5 million other things to worry about!
I will say that going off the pill and starting to chart early helped alleviate some of my fears, since at least I knew my cycles regulated quickly and that I was ovulating. That helped me stay sane for the final months before we started TTC. -
Yes, I worried because I am 36, overweight, and it took my sister a year TTC with her first. We are waiting to see if cycle 11 was our lucky cycle.
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I was 33 when we started and DH travels during the week, so I thought for sure it would take us 6 months. #3 was our lucky one.
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I didn't start worrying until after the first six months. My situation definitely isn't the norm. I don't think you have anything to worry about! You are going to get your BFP quickly, I just know it.
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@Foodnerd81: I am so glad I started charting! I originally thought I would just do it for a couple of cycles to confirm that I was ovulating, but I just love knowing what my body is doing, so I plan on continuing!
@Leialou: And you are going to get a BFP soon and our babies are going to be BFFs
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It was in the very, very far back of my mind that it might take some time, but I was never on BC so I thought we should conceive fairly quickly (within 3 months), but we're on cycle 7 now, and it sucks. Hoping we all get our BFP soon!
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While I was wedding planning on weddingbee I started reading about some of the TTC posts on there and I did start to worry because I never new how hard it is for some couples. But fortunately for us, we got pregnant a few months after getting married, we werent even officially trying yet
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Yes, I worried. I worried hard! It's partly why I wanted to bring TTC forward. But I agree that it depends on what you consider "a while". It took my BFF a year (including 2 m/c) and she doesn't consider that a long time, whereas I consider more than 3 months a long time and, with my long cycles, we're approaching 3 months since I came of the pill. ARGH! It's my worst fear that it might take longer than that (or we wont concieve at all)....
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I worried about it taking awhile. I also knew that there was a possibility of miscarrying so that helped make the decision to just take the jump and start trying. We were lucky to get pregnant during the first cycle but then miscarried at 12 weeks. I selected "Yes, but we got a BFP quickly", we did, but now it is three months after we began trying and I'm currently not pregnant. I'm hopeful we'll be lucky and it will happen quickly the second time around!
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I'm in my third cycle and I am a little worried, just because I am a really impatient person and the work of TTC and the waiting has been pretty stressful for me. If I had to predict, I would say it will prob take us (hopefully no more than) 6 months?
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I worried about how long it would take because I'm 34 and when I was younger I had really irregular cycles (though they'd evened out before I went on BC).
Turns out I was right to be worried. I basically don't ovulate at all on my own due to PCOS. We've technically been trying for 4 months, but it's only been 3 cycles, and I haven't ovulated on my own yet. It's kind of hard to consider us "trying" when it's kind of pointless :-S. I started seeing an RE this month, and I have my fingers crossed that ovulation is imminent.
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Yes I worried. Then we got bfp cycle 1 and ended up mcing. Now I'm 6 months out from our mc but only on cycle 4. It's taking longer than I thought it would.
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Yep! Only because I've had a lot of gf's who experienced m/c in the last few years... and also because DH used to be on medication that had potential effects on fertility.
We NTNT for a few months then actively TTC for a few months, luckily we got our BFP on the third cycle. DH said I had nothing to worry about... oh dear hubby.
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I worried after the first cycle failed. I just had a feeling it would take a while even though I had fairly regular periods. It ended up taking a year and a diagnosis of unexplained infertility. On the second round of Clomid and and a trip to Paris, we got pregnant!
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I always had a gut feeling I'd have problems getting pregnant. I didn't have a reason to worry (regular cycles), but I sort of felt like because I wanted it so badly, it wouldn't come easy (that's sort of a sick way to think, haha). I'm on my 8th cycle TTC now.
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@Shutterbug: I think that way too, sometimes. Ugh I wish I could just relax!
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I didn't worry for the first few months. I thought for sure it would happen quickly. Now we're almost 9 months in with no luck, so I'm certainly starting to worry.
@Shutterbug: I feel that way a lot too. I want this so much, so of course it won't be quick.
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@lawbee11:
They will!
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I was worried because I had been sexually active for like 10 years with absolutely zero pregnancy scares. But I had no trouble getting pregnant. Just had birth control doing its job correctly all those years!
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I thought it would take 3 months to get pregnant and it ended up taking 6. So certainly not "awhile" but definitely longer than I was expecting.
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I am definitely worried about this, even though I don't have any health reasons why I should be...I feel like I read/hear so many stories of people who have trouble, I am just assuming it will happen to me also! Hopefully I'm wrong...
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yes i was so worried bc i wanted to be a mom soooooo bad. we got pregnant the second cycle (i was hardcore into using a fertility monitor! lol) but we miscarried, that upped the worried feeling 1000 plus. but we got pregnant 3 months later and got to bring our baby home this time
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I was worried. Both DH and I have chronic illnesses (migraines and crohns) so we've both been on lots of meds for a long time. I thought that it had to effect at least one of our bodies, if not both. But I got pregnant after my 2nd try. I ended up miscarrying.... and then got pregnant on my first try with my LO after that.
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I did and I got a BFP on my fourth cycle (so I voted I got it quickly). I'm a compulsive worrier though. Then when I got pg I was worrying all the time anyway
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I worried because I'm a chronic worrier but I never ever would have guessed that I would be still TTC on cycle 8.
I knew we weren't going to be lucky and get it on the first try. I thought between 3-4 months is what we would need. Not in my cards... 
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i worried. i've worried about this since i was a teenager. my cycles have always been very irregular which made me concerned about my fertility. i was so convinced it would take us a while, i went off bc months before our wedding & didn't try to prevent just because i didn't think it was even a possibility, but if it happened to happen, we'd both be thrilled. now, i've been off bc for 17 months, and no pregnancy so far. unfortunately, my worry was warranted, hopefully yours is not.
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I was very worried, but we were very lucky and got pregnant on the second cycle.
I have polycystic breasts and horrible periods (heavy bleeding, cramps so bad I couldn't get out of bed, etc), so I always wondered if I had PCOS. But we got pregnant right away, so I never got checked for it.
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