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he did the first night just because I was exhausted and needed help (I was up all Monday, didn't get to sleep til 12:30-1 am Monday into Tuesday because my toddler was having nightmares, and then went into labor at 1:30 am). He went home and stayed with DD1 the second night though. I enjoyed my quiet, no-snoring time

Same here. He stayed with me the first night and then went home to be with DS the second night. I wanted to leave the hospital as soon as possible to be back home with DS.

We are very lucky to have my parents near by to look after our first LO while we were in the hospital so DH stayed with me the whole time and that was always the plan.

I'm not sure what we would have done if we didn't have family near by to look after him. DH would have probably stayed home with him if we didn't have help.

Our plan right now is for Dh to be with me the first night/day of labor and then go home w Ds (who my parents will watch the first night) once ds2 is here.

No he did not. The plan was to feel it out. My sister was watching DD for us. I had DS at 5 am and we had been up all night so I sent DH home to get some rest that afternoon. I ended up calling him around 2 or 3 am asking him to come help me because I was so exhausted and still had not really gotten any sleep. He had come down with a bug/flu and so I had to to it by myself. I was in no rush to leave, I wanted to spend as much time with DS as possible and just snuggle him while I did not have to worry about doing anything else. I ended up staying an extra day because everyone was sick at home. For us I think it wasnt the greatest because DH had a very hard time bonding with DS, and I think it had a lot to do with him not being there the first couple of days

DH stayed the whole time (2 nights). M was at our house with my mom and my parents brought her in to see us once. I was worried about her feeling abandoned but she was thrilled to have so much Nana time!

My in laws kept LO1 but DH still went home there was no bed at the hospital for him and it was 15 mins away no point in him sleeping in a chair

He stayed with me and DD stayed at our house with my parents. We were only in the hospital one night so it wasn't a big deal.

DH will sleep at home with LO1. We don't have the childcare to do it any other way, but i would actually prefer him to be with her regardless.

He stayed with me.

He stayed. Our hotel has a sleeper bed and I needed help getting the baby situated in the middle of the night. DH also changed him and woke him up for me, got me water, etc. it was nice not being alone and E had fun at MIL's

He went home to be with DS. When #1 was born he went home too(except the first night). He couldn't get comfortable, and wasn't sleeping and keeping me awake. I told him to go home and sleep. We both slept much better. So with #2, we didn't even entertain the idea of him staying at the hospital. Plus we wanted him to be home with #1 at night, and be there in the morning when we woke.

Mine didn't stay with the first! He'd go home to sleep and come back in the morning so I could rest. It wasn't that bad.

We are still trying to figure this out. #2 is due in 2 weeks. We don't have any family locally. We have a friend who will come over if I go into labor in the middle of the night, but she has a family of her own and cannot watch our daughter for multiple nights in a row. I think I will probably send DH home to be with LO#1 at night just because of logistics and to make the experience less traumatic for her.

With LO#1, DH stayed with me the entire time. While it was nice being able to bond as a family of 3, he complained A LOT about the convertible bed not being comfortable, the limited cable channels available, the food, etc. He sort of drive me nuts!

With LO#2, DH stayed home with our daughter and my mom stayed with me in the hospital (2 nights - my doctor required it). She was amazing and I felt like it was a really special mother-daughter experience. She never complained once about anything and was always running to get me water, food, or whatever else I needed. I was in a ton of pain, and it was very comforting to have her there with me. No way would I have wanted to be alone - I definitely needed the moral support. She lives across the country, so it was nice that we had a lot of time to talk, snuggle the baby, and catch up on trashy tv (The Bachelorette). DH and DD#1 had special time at home and came to visit everyday. DH brought me flowers, balloons, and a surprise Ergo360. It worked out perfectly in my opinion!

Our plan was for DH to stay with me during the day and go home to E in the evening to get her ready for bed and stay with her overnight since we had no family nearby and were relying on friends to watch her. Had we had grandparents watching her, our plan might have been different.

That being said though, it was all for naught as I felt amazing after giving birth and was able to go home only four hours after LO2 was born! Eight hours total in hospital - I loved it and would do it again in a second.

He left really late in the evening and came back early in the morning. My firstborn was with his aunt though and they came and visited when LO2 was about 20-22 hours old. It was fine, we got to enjoy some bonding time (around 9-10hours or so) with LO2 but he was able to sleep in his own bed.