I did not want Mr. Bee down there and neither did he, so he stayed up by my head the entire time I was pushing with Olive.
Do you want your SO down there? Does he?
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NO. & NO.
if I need extra support, we'll call my mom in. DH will be my head!
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I most definitely did not want him down there and he didn't want to be down there either but at game time, he was down there the whole time. Unfortunately for him, he got to see my damage first hand.
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No, but he saw it by accident anyway. I was pushing for 3.5 hours so I guess there was bound to be a slip up.
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We had planned on DH catching baby so that would be a yes for the both of us.... But since I was on my way to the O.R. that didn't happen, he was still "down there" though since he was following us to surgery.
He said it was pretty awesome.
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The plan is for nobody to be down field except for doctors and nurses. Period. Non-Negotiable.
However, as with everything else in pregnancy, what actually happens is anyone's guess.
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We're planning a home birth, and I don't mind DH being down there at all! He's seen videos of home births and reacted with more amazement than horror, so that's a good sign. He could very well catch the baby.
He'll probably act like his brother when SIL gave birth...cheering like he's at a football game, haha!
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I absolutely did not want hubs to be down there and we agreed that he would not be. But when it came time to me to push, I was having trouble so the nurse asked hubs to help hold my leg. I yelled "NO!" but the nurse said too bad. So, hubs ended up seeing EVERYTHING! I asked the hubs if he was grossed out or was turned off and he said it was very quick and it was like watching a science experiment...He said it was just a very interesting experience for him. :S
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Haha I said that he would be at my head during the whole pregnancy, but that went out the window when I was in labor. I didn't tell him to look...he wanted to see once my midwife could see the head while I was pushing, and after that I just didn't care. Granted, he had helped with deliveries before so it wasn't like he saw it for the first time with me.
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I don't think I want my husband down there and he sure as heck does not want to be down there, but he also said he'll do whatever I tell him to do whenever it's time. Which sounds nice, of course. Our friends had a baby in January and they had strict plans laid out for where the husband would stand, what he would do, etc. and it all flew out the window. He's elusively said he got "very involved" in the end, but won't explain what that means!
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Pre delivery I didn't care either way. During delivery he wanted to look, and I'm glad he did because he could give me a a play by play of what was happening because I didn't want to look in the mirror.
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@Minnie_Girl: That's too funny. Boys!
I don't want the hubby down there when the time comes. No thank you!
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DH wanted to watch LO come out. I'm glad he was down there because he got some great shots of her being born!
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Nooooooo. My husband has a pretty sensitive stomach (he got lightheaded when he had to give me progesterone injections!!!) so I’m not sure it would be wise
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DH is about a zero on the squeamish scale. We figured he'd be seeing all kinds of crazy stuff go on down there, and while I worried that I might care, when it came down to it I could have had my thesis advisor and my grandfather down there and it wouldn't have bothered me. (It probably would have bothered my advisor and my grandfather, but that's another issue)
He held a leg through 3 hours of pushing, me peeing all over the table, and possibly pooping on the table (he can't remember if I did or not, apparently). We're fine. He still wants to have sex with me. We'll probably do the same for our next kid. No big. -
I was very strict about no cameras or video during the actual pushing and delivery phase, but I did NOT want a mirror, and I wanted to know what was going on at all times, so Wagon Sr.'s job was to 1) hold my leg and 2) give me a play by play. I did not mind him seeing everything and he's curious anyway.
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Gah! No! I don't want him to see what's going on down there. Also, he might just pass out. No one needs to be helping my 250lb husband up while I'm in the middle of pushing a baby out. Not going to happen.
@mrs. wagon: I love my hospital - they don't ALLOW cameras or recording devices in the delivery room when you're pushing! I love that!
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@mediagirl: sweet. They know the deal.
I do have to say, sometimes now I still ask him what it looked like when Wagon Jr. came out and how he felt. It's nice to hear his recaps and what the experience was like... that's one experience about childbirth that I'll never have that he has had!
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I didn't have a preference but DH didn't want to be, he stayed at my head through the delivery. However afterwards the nurse needed him to come around to the other side of the bed which resulted in him walking by the "main event" end while the doc was stitching me; DH peeked or saw by accident (he won't admit which it was) then said it reminded him of what it looks like when he is gutting a deer.
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No, first I don't think he could handle it and second I don'tthink I could handle him being dow there! haha he can keep me company up by my face and help keep me calm.
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NO. I don't even think I want him in the room since his presence will stress me out. He tends to give me a deer in the headlights stare when things are going wrong and I can only imagine how horrible that would be when giving birth!
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I don't mind either way. If he wants to look, then that's fine. He's told me though he doesn't want to see since some of his buddies recommended against watching. I kind of want him to watch though, but I'm the type that would probably want the mirror. We'll see when the time comes.
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I don't care either which way and honestly we really didn't talk about it besides him cutting the cord.
During he was super involved! As involved as the nurse, we were shocked just how involved he was but at the end of it we lOved that he was such a big part of her delivery.And honestly he thought it was amazing and I'm kinda jealous at that point the mirror wasn't there and I didn't get to see!
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I had a c-section and DH watched that. But if I had ever wanted a vaginal delivery, Id be fine with him being down there. Ive been front and center for a birth (my best friend's..i coulda caught the baby) and it was absolutely incredible. I asked him if he would have wanted to be down there if I had ever wanted a natural birth and he said yes.
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I don't really care. It's up to him what he's comfortable with. I think in the moment he'll want to see what's going on and watch the baby come out. It's not like I have anything he hasn't seen before.
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DH saw it all and helped hold my legs during delivery. I think I would have been a bit disappointed if he hadn't watched our LO enter the world.
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I told my DH that I didn't want him down there, and he agreed he would stay up by my head but that he did want to cut the cord. Well, when delivery came he basically watched the whole entire time I was pushing...he was simply fascinated and thought it was amazing....I was definitely not in the mood to care if he looked anyway.
Now that it is all over with he said he finds me much sexier and can't believe how "strong" my body is. Who woulda thought?
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@mediagirl: @mrs. wagon: I opted for pictures, because when you're in labor it's hard to think about what's going on. I liked being able to look at the pictures a week or so later and know what it was like/looked like. It was interesting for me.
I totally didn't care what my husband did. He ended up having to hold one leg and I think he liked watching, he got excited when he could see the baby's head! He didn't think it was gross or get turned off. But I wasn't really even thinking about that.
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I didn't have a preference. I honestly don't understand the big deal. I guess it never entered my mind that my husband would be bothered/grossed out/disturbed by watching me bring our child into the world.
In the end, he stood at about waist level. He was able to hold my hand and look down and see everything that was happening. -
Beforehand I didn't want DH seeing anything, but when it came time, I really didn't care. I just wanted that baby out! He was holding one of my legs so it was easy for him to look and he seemed really excited about it.
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When the time comes I'd love for him to look so he can tell me what's going on. He is squeamish though so I don't think he will want to.
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Last time I didn't want him to leave my side but I am hoping this thime I can let go of his hand long enough for him to catch
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I don't mind either way. He doesn't want to see anything, and I'm not sure how much he could really handle seeing anyway, he's fairly squeamish. He can't even stay in the same room when I'm getting a blood test
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I didn't think I did..but I want him to.
Hear me out - DH has a super high sex drive and I know he's not going to last 6 weeks before pawing at me. Maybe if he watches LO come out, he'll be more sympathetic when I say "NO!"
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I definitely don't! Yikes!
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DH held one of my legs along with the nurse & mostly he was looking @ me, but he saw a little bit...honestly in that 1.5 hours of pushing I didn't care anyways! He isn't easily grossed out by that stuff & all he really saw was DD's head crowning he said
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No way. No one needs to see that horror show!
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Umm I would say no, but I think when the moment comes I really won't care
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I'm really surprised about how many people didn't want DH to look!
@sorrycharlie: hahaha! I do think it makes DH more sympathetic about what I've been through.
I had a 'go with the flow' birth plan, and I felt the same way about DH looking: see what feels right.
He was holding one of my legs for the 2 hours of pushing and saw everything and I am glad because he could tell me about it at the time and later. I found the 'updates' and the comments about the progress and that I was 'doing a good job' from both DH and the nurses to be really motivating during pushing. Also, I had him look at my stitches during recovery days after I came home from the hospital.
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i dont think i would care either way.....however i think DH wants to stay by my head and away from "down there", lol. Which i think i will appreciate because i like the idea of holding his hand if needed and just having him to look at me and be supportive that way thru eye contact i guess.
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