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No advice, just hugs. We had issues both times and I found it harder mentally/emotionally the second time around. Which was not what I expected. Do whatever you need to take care of yourself and make it manageable!

Hugs! As you know, we also had a long struggle to get J. We are wrestling with the same thing.about when to TTC. I really hope you have a much quicker TTC process this time around.

I feel similarly. I had an AMH of 0.99 at 27. No DOR diagnosis but I have PCOS. After 2 years, I got pregnant on Clomid and have a perfect 8 month old daughter. I'll be 30 this year and I'm concerned a DOR diagnosis is inevitable. I sometimes feel it would be better not to try for a second than to try and not be able to.

I don't have any real advice - as we're still working on #1 - but just wanted to say that it's completely normal to feel this way (it's rough!) and there are a lot of people here rooting for you.

I did have some issues with stress-related spotting. I have no idea whether it affects fertility or not, but since in general I'd prefer to be less stressed, I wanted to work on it. What I found helped (I'm sure it's different for everyone) was: 1) spraying on a couple squirts of magnesium oil before bed (it's important for progesterone production and also relaxation, and I think I tend to be deficient), 2) getting lots of b vitamins (also important for progesterone) in natural foods - I also tried taking a supplement but not sure how well I absorbed it. What worked best for me is blue-green algae kombucha, as algae is supposed to be one of the densest natural sources of b vitamins out there, and 3) prioritizing stress management - i.e. self-massage, I got a great acupressure mat on Amazon that's very relaxing to lie on...

I hope #2 is a much shorter journey for you

@periwinklebee: can you link to the mat you have? My dh would love that. Thanks!

@pachamama: hey girl, all I will say is that I am in similar shoes and I feel your pain.

And all those people who ask if we are going to have a second child can suck it.

Ttc can really suck. When we tried for our second we wanted a similar spacing but wound up with more and I was so disappointed but never wanted to complain because we had our first and we had been lucky enough that our first was easy to conceive. Even though the spacing didn't work out the way we ideally wanted it (it took maybe almost a year and a half from not preventing to serious ttc to pregnant eta and I realize that's not even that long compared to what many others have gone through!) it turns out there are pros to every spacing. Sending hugs and well wishes your way.