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When I nannied I was always invited to the kid's birthday parties as a guest. I never felt obligated to go and while there I was treated as every other guest was. Unless you are wanting her to work at the party (and have agreed to this ahead of time) I absolutely don't think you should pay her.

So I didn't invite E's in home daycare lady because I was concerned she might be so excited to see T, that she might shy away from family she doesn't see as often, because she looooves T. She leaps out of my arms to go to T in the mornings when I drop her off...

Our nanny was invited and was very happy to come as a guest. She did end up helping with DS a little because she can't help herself, which was incredibly helpful, but we didn't pay her. We did send her home with lots of leftover food though!

I was always invited as a guest and I never expected nor wanted payment. I wouldn't have accepted any; I love (d) "my" babies. Even though I'm no longer with that family I'm always still invited to many of their gatherings and I love being included.

Definitely invite her as a guest - don't pay her for her time. That would get awkward real fast. I was a nanny for a long time and have been to all my nanny-kids' birthday parties and I love going because I love "my kids". She won't feel obligated to go, but I'm sure she'll both appreciate the invite, and also enjoy being there.