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In my former life I was a wedding photographer, and I photographed quite a few dollar dances. I never saw one guest who was put off by it. Everyone always had lots of fun with it! I've been to a few weddings with it too, and they were also really fun. I didn't have one, but our wedding was super low key.
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We didn't have one but I've been to several weddings that have had them and I really like them. I think it's a great way for everyone to get a chance to dance with the bride and groom, sometimes I even dance with both.
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I have...they're pretty common where I'm from, but we didn't have one at our wedding. They don't bother me. Usually you do a shot before you dance with the bride/groom which is always a good time
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: I'm a wedding photographer, so I've seen it all. But, I have to admit that WE actually did a money dance! I think they're actually really fun. We were able to do lots of extra stuff on our honeymoon with the cash! It also gets people up and dancing, which is always good.
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It's not common in my area and I've only been to one wedding that had one. I was pretty put off by it and thought it was weird/rude.
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We left the DJ details til the very end, and I didn't speak with him until 2 days before the wedding, and by then I was so bogged down with details that I told him to just do whatever he wanted to make it a really fun party. He did a dollar dance which I had NEVER heard of before or seen done. He was an AMAZING DJ that everyone absolutely loved, and by the end of the night everyone was TOTALLY blasted (the reception was only our friends and none of our parents' friends) so when he got on the mic and announced what a dollar dance was, everyone eagerly participated. They formed a circle around us and one by one people would come up and tuck a dollar somewhere on us. It was mortifying and hilarious!! We got about $45 and used it on the honeymoon for a nice dinner. And yes, we brought all the dollar bills and paid with ones!
Even to this day, almost 9 years later, ALL our friends tell us our wedding was the funnest dance party they've ever been to, so I guess most people didn't mind it. It's not common at all in my circle of friends or area, I guess, so I guess they didn't mind.
Then he kept announcing that we were off to Mexico for our honeymoon and played the banana boat song over and over. We were going to Florida! Oops. That's what I get for leaving the DJ conversation until 2 days before the wedding.. haha.
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Yes, we had a dollar dance, but it's not the standard "line up and slow dance with the bride and groom" one. The western pa polka dollar dance really becomes this fantastic communal moment at the wedding. Basically at the end it becomes a kind of rugby scrum for the groom to break through to get the bride. Good video/description here:
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We had one... in part bc bil and sil did one and we wanted to 'fit in' if you will. I think we got 20 bucks which was fun.
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I have. I found it tacky and I was put off by it
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It's traditional at Filipino weddings, so I've seen it done and it was fun!
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: why are you peeved about your sister's choice?
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@CatchAFallingStar: Same here! We had a dollar dance, they're very common here and I think it's a lot of fun. I ended up dancing with a lot more people than I would have without it.
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Yes, a few. They were all very traditional - one was at a Filipino wedding and another at a Greek wedding. I like seeing things that are tied to traditions and I enjoyed watching them.
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I've seen many, including my own. People genuinely seem really excited about it when I've watched them, and it's not like it's mandatory so if someone is put off by it, it's not like they had
to participate.I think throwing the big T word, isn't always the nicest thing to do, but I also feel that way about starting threads just to put down others' choices.
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It's common in my area. I would say most receptions have it. We didn't have one because it's not my thing. Tacky is too strong a word. I just felt happy my guests shared the evening with us. I didn't need more money.
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We had one. It's common in my area, and we call them dollar dances. I've always considered them just a fun thing to do, not a money grab.
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I've been to a bunch of Mexican weddings by now and have ever seen this.... Maybe it's more of a Hispanic immigrant thing? Anyway we definitely didn't do one and no one even suggested it.
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Just about every Filipino wedding I've been too as well as Agee others with people from the same community have had one.
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They are really common where we're from, but we didn't have one.
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Yup, tons of them!
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No, I thought it was just a cultural thing.
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I haven't been to one but I don't think I'd mind at all. I also wouldn't exactly consider it a "money grab" or anything like that -- especially if it's a dollar dance. If everyone literally gave a dollar, it's not like you'd get that much money, haha. It just seems like a fun tradition to me
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yep. not my thing, but only because it usually slows down the party! and it can be awkward if guests aren't into it!
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Yeah. They're pretty common in my area. I don't really like them. I already usually give cash for weddings I don't really want to feel obligated to give more.
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: I'm Canadian and I've never heard of this!
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Yes. They're common where I'm from. We didn't do it, but I don't mind them and they've always been fun when I've seen them.
Honestly, it's all in good fun. Tacky is a strong word to throw out there. You don't like it, don't participate. You're not obligated to.
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My family takes it offensively if you don't have one. They say a weddings purpose is to support the couple and part of that means they want to help financially. In our family the money is supposed to go towards the honeymoon. We didn't plan one but were asked to do it last minute, it was fun (:
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It's the norm where I'm from. I've seen people make elaborate decorations out of money while waiting in line. Since it offers a minute or two of alone time with either the bride or groom, I think it's a fun way to personally give the couple well wishes (and a little pocket money for the honeymoon).
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@littlek: People line up to dance with the bride or groom and pin money on them. People come up with elaborate designs and add on to each other.
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Yep. I don't get bothered by it. To each their own. It's their wedding.
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I haven't been to a wedding with a money dance per se, but I have been to a wedding where the tradition is that the marriage is arranged and the bride arrives with money pinned to her hair. The guests then pin more money on her before she meets the groom, the reason for this is that it is "her money" now, as she's going from her father's home to her husband's home and TRADITIONALLY didn't work.
Most of those old norms are gone, but the traditions still remain. I think if you look beneath the actual event to understand why they're done, you might not take such offense.
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Never seen one but I think it sounds fun!
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Nope, never even heard of them
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I think using the word tacky in a thread like this is pretty rude. They are obviously a cultural / geographical thing. I'm a Canadian bee and I've never seen one, but I think they sound pretty entertaining!
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Very common here, but we didn't have one.
Friends of ours did, though
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I have never been to a wedding that didn't have one! They are the norm - we had one and made about $250 which we used on our honeymoon
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I've never been to a wedding that had one, but it doesn't sound bad to me! I bet it's fun! Assuming there's no "minimal" amount you have to pay and the amount given is at the discretion of the giver!
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I usually just leave the room or hang at my table when it's going on. Not my thing.
ETA: I've never seen it done the way most people on here are describing - where people make elaborate designs with the money and pin it on the bride and groom. All the ones I've seen, the MOH and BM stand with a bag and collect money from people as they line up to dance with the bride and groom. I could MAYBE get on board with the way others are describing it, but with the way I've seen it done, it seems to be nothing more than money-grabbing, and I don't like that.
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Yes, my BIL and his wife did one. We all expressed to the immediate family that we thought it was kind of tacky and a little rude, but FIL said that BIL told him it was a big thing in her culture (she's Filipino- first generation) so asked that we all would partake because it was important to her. They pinned money to her dress and I think my BIL's suit too. I don't think we did it (we spent so. much. money to fly there, gift, etc) but a lot of family did. I mean that girl had 20's and even 50's pinned to her! So I guess it was common/expected among the guests from her side!
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@Mrs. Jacks: yay- glad you confirmed what we learned at BIL's wedding! I was wondering if that truly was traditional. Weird question- is corn on the cob for dessert Filipino tradition too? We couldn't figure that one out. Dessert buffet had fruit, chocolates, cake, etc but also corn on the cob! (Sorry for acting like you're some Filipino authority! Just curious if you know!)
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