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We never cobedded (actually, not because I was unwilling but because it wouldn't help her sleep anyway). But I thought we would room share until 3 months and we ended up moving her to her own room at 6 weeks. We sleep a lot better-- she sleeps a little better because she isn't disturbed by us- DH woke her a couple of times moving around too much or once when his alarm went off, when I nearly killed him. But most importantly *I* sleep so much better. Before I woke up with every little grunt and huff or turn, now I have the monitor next to my head and I still wake up when she wakes, and sometimes when she is just fussing in her sleep, but not every time she moves a muscle. Now when she wakes up at night (usually once a night) I go get her, take her to the glider, nurse her, and put her back in her room, go back to my room and watch her on the monitor until I'm sure she is asleep.

Overall, it works much better this way. We still gets tons of cuddle time since she is a slow and very frequent nurser! And I'll bring her into our bed in the morning if she wakes up too early but I know she'll have trouble going back down, like if she wakes up after 5:30 but before 7. Then I feed her and lay her in our bed still swaddled so I can sooth her when she stirs without getting up.

(Rereading this, it sounds like I think I have it figured out-- to be clear, I don't, but this is what works best for now!)

We never co-slept and didn't even end up room-sharing like we planned because we ALL slept better in our rooms.

I'm pretty anti cosleeping in general.

I don't think you have to close the door forever, says this co sleeping mom to an almost 3 year old.

We didn't co sleep for the first 6 months, but then we had a rough go between 6 and 11 months where we coslept. We were off again between 11 and 24 months, when we started back up again.

We have a sidecar co-sleeper but LO was determined to have her own room from the day we brought her home from the hospital. She would not sleep if I was within 20 feet of her. I convinced a few friends to move their babies to cribs. However, last week at 7 months LO moved into our bed.

I've come to accept that how we sleep is more important than where we sleep and we will just change strategies as LO's needs change. If it's not working for you change it up.

We co slept until 8 months when it was just impossible because he moved so much. We then tried to move him into his room but it didn't work so we brought his crib into our room and he slept there great. We should have done this a couple months earlier. We moved him into his own room just after his first bday.

@grizz: We moved her to her own room really early. I just wans't sleeping hearing her stir all night long.

We never co-slept, but he was in a bassinet right next to my bed for the first 3 months and then we moved him into his crib in his own room after that and we all slept SOOOOOOOOO MUCH BETTER for it! We weren't waking each other up anymore! It was glorious!!!

Ugh. I'm trying to figure this all out too. I don't like co-sleeping, but we do it out of desperation... He sleeps ok for the first stretch at night, but then he's up every hour after that and by 4 am I just can't take it any more and move him to our bed. It kicks my husband out, which I hate, but we at least all get sleep.

We only co-slept for 6 weeks. It was completely fine moving DS to his own bed, first his bed in our room, then his own room around 2 months. I mean, he still slept like crap, but it was no worse than when he was in our bed.

Don't let ANYONE shame you for anything--unless they're the ones waking up with him at all hours of the night, they don't get to make you feel bad!!

I thought we'd have LO in our room for the first few months at least. We moved him to his room at 1 months. Confession: I wasn't even really sad about it! I was happy to have our room back to ourselves!

If it's notworking anymore, then don't be afraid to change things. Nothing is permanent--you can always go back to co sleeping if the situation changes.

@grizz: Yay! Hope he does well the rest of the night

It is my belief that nothing goes as planned, in the infant sleep department. When I was still pregnant, I planned to have DD in a bassinet until she was 3-6 months old, and then transfer her to the crib in the nursery. Now, at 11 weeks, we are still bed sharing - something I never thought I would be enthusiastic about. Truth is, DD is a pretty quiet, still sleeper, and we all sleep great, all the way through the night (save for my usual bouts of mild insomnia). There are no immediate plans to change our nighttime scenario, but I won't hesitate to reevaluate iff we all start keeping each other up.

Do what works for you and your family! No use feeling guilty about providing quality sleep and a restful night of relaxation for all. So happy to hear tonight was a success!

@grizz: Yayyyyy!

We started putting B in his crib Monday night. I cried like a baby.

He hasn't made it a full night yet, but we are working on it. Our goal was also 6 months but his pedi wants him moved into the crib (the RNP is making his head lopsided!)

It sucks. You gotta do what's best for your family though. Screw those mommy-shamers!