I'm having a really hard time deciding if I'm having any BH or true contractions. I've felt tightening and thought back in the 2nd tri I had a number of BHs, and now I've had a few days where I've felt lower-mid back pain with cramping into my stomach, but I'm second guessing myself because I don't know if my stomach is uniformly hard or hard enough.

How hard does your stomach feel to the touch when contracting? Is it generally as firm as it feels when baby is pushed out against your tummy? And how far to the sides of your stomach can you actually feel your uterus?