I went to the dentist today and DH's aunt came over to watch LO. I prepared lunch for our aunt, but didn't pay her anything...
Not sure if I was supposed to!
I know I wouldn't pay my mom if she sat with LO for a couple of hours...
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Does she love babies? Or was she doing it as a favor...
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@mrbee: This was the first time we had her sit with LO. She's been wanting to and LOVES babies..!
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@chopsuey119: If a relative loves babies and has been asking to babysit, then I wouldn't offer to pay them in case they were offended!
But I would maybe order in some awesome food, or give them a gift certificate as a thank you. Depends on how regular it is though, and whether or not you can afford to give thanks in that way!
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I don't think any of my relatives would accept payment for one-off babysitting jobs.
When my mom becomes primary caretaker when I go back to work, our plan is to give her money every week, whether she takes it or not! She doesn't want money, but we want to pay her at least a fraction of what we'd spend on day care if we didn't have her offer.
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@mrbee: Yeah I was thinking about sending her a giftcard in the mail or something..! I'm sure we'll be bugging her to babysit again
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@mrsjyw: That's what we do too. My mom watches my LO everyday and won't take the money. So we set up a savings account for her and have been depositing money in there for her to use once she's done taking care of my LO. And I also buy her nice birthday and Christmas gifts too.
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@mrsjyw: So nice that you have your mom to watch your LO! I would totally pay my mom if she were my LO's primary caretaker too.
I'm actually planning on flying my mom out here and paying her to stay with us for a month when we have baby #2! -
@banana: So nice! The savings is such a GREAT idea!
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My mom will watch lo daily for 6 weeks while I recover. She would never take money from me. She loves every second of it anyway.
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@chopsuey119: now that we're pregnant, DH and I are so so so happy with the decision we made to buy our house where we did and also the decision to stay near our home town.
Both our parents are 20 min away and we're so lucky to have their help!
@banana: I was just about to Wall Post you about what you guys do for your mom! That sounds like a great idea and something I will look into fo rmy mom!
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I don't think you have to pay family members (at least my family members would never take it) unless it was a younger cousin then I would since they are trying to make money!
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My mom or aunts would be offended if I offered to pay them. My younger cousins wouldn't ... but I wouldn't feel comfortable with any of them babysitting.
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@mrsjyw: Both of our parents live 20 minutes away too. Can I just tell you.... it's a LIFE SAVER! You'll see...
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@chopsuey119:
My mom's coming up for 3 months when our LO arrives. And the plan was my brother #2 was going to drive her up. But he can't now so she'll be flying. I intend to buy her airfare but my brother #1 might end up doing it. Because we're waiting till SIL#1 delivers before having my mom fly up. hahahaIt kinda skipped my mind but I probably should give my mom a red envelope when she heads home! Even though she will not want to take it!!! And even though we won't let her pay for anything while she's here I also don't want her to have to dip into her savings for whatever reason.
You ladies with moms nearby are SO lucky!!! Especially if they are willing to want to watch the grandkids. Don't assume that they want to now means they will after they start watching the kids. Sometimes some grandparents forget how much work it is! But oh well we made the decision to stay here near my ILs for different reasons. We live with it.
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I don't think any of my relatives would accept payment for watching our LO ever....we would cover the cost of food if it were for a few days or so but other than that? Yeah, we wouldn't pay them.
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no, but i would give her gifts!
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If my mom ended up watching my future LO full time, she would be quitting her job to do it (something we've talked about) so we'd pay her, and she'd be ok taking it. But if it was just for a few hours here and there, no, I wouldn't pay her, and she wouldn't take any $$. If it were someone I had to beg, I would definitely pay them - but if they're excited to watch LO, I think it could maybe come across as insulting.
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My mom is helping me out for about 3 weeks so I paid her a good chunk of change (like a couple grand)... She literally does everything and my dad really needs her at the store but she's helping me out. I also stayed with her for almost 2 weeks before the babies came. Ordinarily she would never accept, but they need the money right now and this is a good excuse to take it. I really want to give them more, but we gave them a lot already.
If they aren't babysitting on a regular basis, I wouldn't give money. If u wanted to offer, you should offer when u ask them to babysit...
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My mom is coming to live with us on and off for at least 6 months for this baby, and I plan to offer her money... I do not think she will take it, but I know she will take gifts. She doesn't accept gifts very well (she's a shopaholic and very picky!) so I'm planning on treating her to spa treatments, mani/pedis, etc. on a regular basis. We'll also be paying for her train and plane trips to and from home when my dad can't come get her.
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I nanny my nieces for my job, so my bro and sis in law pay me. But if I was asking to watch them or take them somewhere special and it was on my own time, then I wouldn't expect anything.
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@chopsuey119: I don't pay relatives but they always offer or ask to babysit! I think a giftcard or making or ordering food is a nice idea
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So I ended up ordering a Macaroni Grill giftcard online and sending it to her. Emailed letting her know to expect it and thanked her again.
This is part of her reply back!
"Always great to hang out with you. My "rates" are cheap though for errand and date night sitting: hugs!"
Haha.
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@chopsuey119: Hugs from you or the LO? Hehe...
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@mrbee: Today she got hugs from us both!
Definitely going to have her babysit for us more often. Woohoo date days/nights!
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@chopsuey119: Seriously, that's huge!!
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@mediagirl: Ditto to this
ETA: My mom is so excited for this baby to be here, I'm pretty sure she would pay US to get out of the house so she could watch LO.
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Your aunt's response is so cute!
This thread is making me so excited since we are moving closer to family soon! I was literally thinking about this very issue this morning.
Definitely going to have her babysit for us more often. Reply
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