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I know its none of people's business, but eventually, it got to the point where I just had to say "Its not as easy as you'd think." or "We're working on it, thanks."
Not sure if you have that type of relationship with them or not, or if you want them to know that you're struggling. Just my two cents!

Do they know you are trying? Not that you have to tell anyone, but if they know and are still bugging you then that's not cool!

@pui: Yep, people need to learn to STFU And I agree, I don't want everyone knowing, it would just change the TTC questions, not stop them...

honest answer.... i find a quiet place & cry. my GMIL is the worst, she speaks little english, but enough to get across her disappointment. she grabs my stomach and asks, 'why you empty?' and then goes on and on about how i disappoint her by not making a great grandchild. thanks lady, 'cause ya know the past two years have been stellar for me too. at our last family dinner at my ILs house, they all prayed for us to make them a LO (some might find that to be kind, i'm an atheist so i have no interest in their conversations with god over my womb and find them discussing our reproductive plans publicly to be inappropriate and hurtful).

i won't tell them about my CPs or that we've been trying. that would just make it worse. i may ask DH to tell them to back off soon because it's to the point where i avoid them now.

My mom and my sister are on our case constantly about it... all I hear about is how much they want a grandchild/niece/nephew and how it's "all on me". They constantly remind me about my fiancé's age (and mine too) and how we shouldn't wait much longer.

So far I've been able to control them by saying that we're not even married yet (3.5 months away!) and we're not even thinking about it. But, I'm not sure how to deal with them after the wedding since I will NOT be telling them about our IF struggles.

DH and I just finished our 2nd year of TTC and we have finally broke down and told our parents and hinted at it to a few people in my extended family. The questions at family gatherings are starting to get to me a little more, and I decided that letting people know we were having trouble was less stressful than worrying about the questions every time we got together.

my dh and i are pretty private about ttc and the issues we've had (besides my closest friends and some of my family) after almost a year of trying and now moving on to an RE, i lately have been getting asked a lot -- mostly by people who i wouldn't even tell if i was pregnant

my best friend who got her bfn after only 1 month off bcp keeps asking me when we will get pregnant and then saying to "just keep doing it".. and i no longer bring up ttc to her..

and now that we've reached the point of going to see an RE and starting our first IUI this cycle (hopefully), dh told me last night he wanted to tell his mother.. my mil is a typical italian mother who worries about everything and throws guilt around like none other! so of course i was worried when he said this. but he told her that we've been having some trouble and went to see a specialist and to please not ask about it or bring it up and that we'd be sure to update her when we feel the time is right and/or when we get our bfp..

@pui: My dad used to CONSTANTLY ask about babies or drop hints, etc., and it was driving me insane. One day I just told him point blank to please stop asking me about it, and if and when the time came, I would let him know. He hasn't said anything since. I didn't have to go into any reasoning, I simply politely asked him to stop and he did.

Some people of course ignore even polite requests, and to them I either just change the topic of conversation or ignore their question completely. Or I just say "it'll happen eventually" and leave it at that. For most people, it's absolutely none of their business, whether you are having difficulties or not, so don't feel bad about not telling someone the full story if you don't want to.

@alie: I actually gave my dad a mean one after that too. He emailed me something inappropriate in relation to having kids. So I had my mom suggest that maybe we're having trouble and he should leave me alone. It was WAY before we were TTC, but unfortunately its now true I'm very glad I got it to stop before it really hurt though! Some people just don't realize it...