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Sadly, I ended a friendship (by end, I mean, I just sort of avoided the person), because of this exact reason. She always told me how to do everything (come to find out later, her ways or advice weren't always accurate or the right way). I don't know ... I felt like telling her would really hurt her feelings. Her husband ended up being a total ass, and I used him as my excuse to exit the friendship. I still feel really guilty because of the whole situation, but honestly, I am happy ... I have wonderful friends (who have boundaries and respect mine), and it's really nice. It's tough getting older and having to deal with iffy friendship stuff. I feel for you. I wish I had been brave enough to talk with her with a kind heart (I'm sure it would have hurt her, but our friendship could have been salvaged). Best of luck!

Yes...we have a couple we used to go out with once in a while, and I used to be able to tolerate that the wife had a way of brushing off what I was saying and just telling me I needed to be positive. But when IF hit I just couldn't talk to her anymore because that attitude just hurt so much.

@Mrs.Someone: This is going to sound bad, but we all have different relationships with family and friends.

I only just recently saw my sister in person for the first time since December. She told me she was pregnant with #2 at one of my low points in our fertility journey. And I just felt like I couldn't bare to see her pregnant for a while, give her support, or receive the support I needed from her as I started fertility treatments.

When I found out our 3rd IUI worked, we started to connect again. It's been a slow process. But I had to do what I had to do. And I think it was the right decision - because I'm already a bit overwhelmed by the type of support she may need from me. I think it was best to avoid her for 3 1/2 months.

I'm sure that your friend will understand. Do what's best for your mental state. Everything will work itself out once you're at a place where you can talk openly about things. That's my 2 cents

@spaniellove: It's so tricky, isn't it? Navigating relationships while going through life changing events. Maybe one day you two will talk again - but I'm a big fan of the golden rule. Do unto others, and you would have done unto you.

I have close friends who are pregnant or just gave birth and I'm really excited and frequently ask questions about how they are feeling or doing. But there's one couple that is just hard for me to say anything to them. It's my husband's best friend and his wife. They are really nice and they treat us well but I just can't get the envious and sad thoughts out of my head when I see or think about them. We got married around the same time, started TTC about the same time, they had a medical condition just like us where TTC could have been difficult for them... Well they got pregnant on their first month trying and their daughter is almost a year old. I feel terrible that I can get close with them. It's just too hard for me. When I see them in June, I'll put on that fake smile but I know I'll be hurting inside. I know I'll be short or brief with them when I visit. Why do I feel like crap that I'm actually feeling this way? Maybe I think that they won't understand why it's so hard for me to see them. Maybe they will think I'm selfish. I don't know. Geez, my husband is their daughter's god father and I can't even see pictures of their family without thinking that it could be us right now.

Yes. I have a pregnant friend who talks/complains about her pregnancy all the time. Both she and her husband will "educate" me on pregnancy/baby things, which gets on my nerves.

It's the main topic all the time, and there's not a lot of "how are you?" We were trying to get pregnant around the same time, and once she got pregnant, I just felt left behind. She's seeking out more friends who already have children. Our friendship has already changed, and I know it will even more once she has her baby.