I'm watching a discussion on The View about this. Were you given incentives, monetary or otherwise, to get good grades? Will you do the same for your LO?
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My mom put my focus on being the best I could be... grades were a byproduct of that, not the goal.
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If I got bad grades, I had privileges taken away from me. My parents were strict and scary so I wanted good grades because I was afraid! I will reward good grades but I want to teach my kids to want to get good grades. I want them to enjoy the fruits of hard work.
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No, we were rewarded with praise when we had good grades, but were not rewarded money/gifts/ect. My parents thought that put unnecessary pressure on us, as long as we gave it our best they were happy. School came easy to me, so I always pushed for this, but both of my sisters struggled with their grades no matter how much they tried.
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HA! No. Good grades were expected to be the norm so they were not rewarded. My parents would tell us "good job.. we're proud of you" and things like that... but we didn't get rewards. More like we got in trouble if we got bad grades. If my brother and I weren't both pretty smart kids it probably would have been different but they knew we were both more than capable of always having good grades as long we were trying.
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Good grades were expected of me, and not rewarded. I got into a bunch of trouble if I brought home anything lower than an A, so that alone was my motivator to do well. Plus, it was nice to be considered a smart kid in class (even though I know I wasn't smart. I had to work my butt off for it).
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I didn't get rewards for making good grades. My step dad tried I implement a monetary reward system when I was in high school to encourage my younger brothers to do better. I think it was something like $15 for As, $10 for Bs, $5 for Cs. Well when he started owing me over $100 every 6 weeks he quickly dropped it.
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Like others, good grades were expected in my house, not rewarded. I think we'll do the same with our kids; it worked out well for me!
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We didn't get rewards for getting good grades. LOs won't either.
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If I got straight A's, my dad would take me out to breakfast, just me and him. It was a really special time so I always strived to keep up my grades.
I think I'll do something like that for my LO.
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We were given incentives for grades instead of an allowance. If I remember right, it started in junior high with $3/A and $1/B and bumped to $5/A and $3/B in high school. We got report cards every six weeks, so I think it came out to about $5/week if you got straight A's in HS. I hadn't thought of that in years!
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I did not have any incentive for good grades and I always got top grades.
However, I wish that my parents gave me an incentive in my last year of high school, as I got a little more relaxed about my grades that year and I could have gotten a better scholarship if I had tried harder that year. Still, no regrets.
At the same time, some kids I think DO need incentive to get good grades. It should be based on the kid.
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I tried to negotiate money for grades, like 20 dollars for an A, that kind of thing, but my parents didn't believe I should be rewarded for it. My father always said the rewards would come later if I got good grades...still waiting on that Dad!
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Like others I got no praise or incentive for good grades, and had things taken away for bad grades (anything lower than an A-).
I will always have incentives for good grades. Probably money.
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@Boogs: ps I love your new icon!!! so cute!!!
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I got an incentive once in 4th grade... but it was a moving target. At first it was straight As for a quarter, then for a semester, then for the year. I finally got my incentive, but I never wanted another incentive again since it was so frustrating.
No incentives in our family. Good performance should be its own reward.
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@mrs. wagon: Thanks!
It's so interesting to see the responses. For a while we got $20 for As, $5 for Bs, and we were promised something extra special for straight As. It was hard because we weren't always given what we were promised. I still don't know what we are going to do, but I hope LO wants good grades for himself since that was really why DH and I always tried to do well in school. More importantly, I hope he actually focuses on learning something.
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At first my parents said that we could get something that is worth $100 if we got deans list. But my older brother got deans list every single time, so by the time I was old enough to reap the benefits they were done with that or they'd have gone broke! When I was in college my grandma gave me a gold necklace for getting into the honors society.
We haven't discussed what we'll do yet. I guess it depends what LO likes, but I'd like to do a little something for her if she does good in school.
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This conversation reminds me of an incentive my parents gave my little sister when she was in first grade. Since she was struggling to stay on task and finish her work every day, my mom promised her an "extra special treat" if she could finish all of her work for one week straight. Her prize? A case of ketchup. No kidding - this really happened!
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