My LO started solids a month ago and last week his nanny started feeding him "lunch". I noticed that he wasn't really interested in eating at dinner time or his bottle before bed. He also started waking up more frequently during the night. So over the weekend I cut back how much he ate at mid-day, giving him about half of what his nanny had been feeding him - he was back to taking bottles at his normal frequency and slept through the night.

My husband and I spoke with our nanny on Monday, telling her what we tried over the weekend and asking that she reduce how much he is fed at lunch time. I also mentioned to her that nutrition-wise it is most important that he drinks his bottles and that solids are for "fun". On Monday and Tuesday she fed him half of what she had been giving him and it seemed to go well.

On Wednesday I came home to find she was back to feeding him twice what we agreed upon. I thought it was weird, but maybe he had a hungry day. Today I came home from work and found again that she fed him a large lunch and he was barely interested in his bedtime bottle and dinner!

We are going to sit down with her on Monday morning to discuss this all again, ask why she is feeding him more and reiterate the negative impact this is having on my LO's sleep. This isn't the first time I have told her how I would like things done, only to have her disregard it - so I don't know how it will be received.

Has anyone dealt with something like this before? Or have any ideas or advice on how to frame this discussion?