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I have to say, it feels like this has been a great month for BFPs, so thank you to allll the ladies in it, bfps or bfns, as well as the advice-givers and cheerleaders. You totally help through this often lonely time. keep em comin and let's finish strong!

@runnerd: boo sorry about aunt flow showing up.

@luckypenny: woohoo! Congratulations!!

@luckypenny Congrats!!

@luckypenny: aww it does look like it! congrats!!

okay here's a question for you ladies--I've written about this in passing before but it's actually happening now and I'd love some other perspectives! dh and I are temporarily ldr, so this past month we were out of the ttc-race altogether because we plain old didn't see each other for most the month, the timing sucked. I'm going home for a week starting tomorrow--I'll be with him from CD 11 to 18. I don't do OPKS or track my temperatures because it doesn't make that much difference for us right now: I can only see him occasionally anyway and we can't really control that at this point. My cycles have been pretty irregular since coming off the pill in April (37, 25, and 33 days), so FF gives me a possible fertile window from CD 11-CD 22. So that seems like a nice overlap....BUT--here's the problem: I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding next April, 2 weeks before a possible due date based on my LMP. The wedding will be in CA and I'm in NYC so there's just no way I could go if I was pregnant...If you were me, would you go back to condoms for this next week? Logically I know this isn't a good month and we should go back to preventing again--I don't want to let my friend down--but it seems so depressing to use a condom at this point

Plus this might be our best chance until November...I won't see dh again until late August, which could be the right timing but maybe not (again, FF is giving me a hugely long window--about half the time I'll be with him, half the time I won't), and same thing with September. Unless things change with my cycle drastically, we'll definitely miss October. So yeah... the calendar isn't really our friend right now, I feel like it's not likely to happen until at least November We waited a really, really long time to start ttc because I didn't want to have a newborn during this period where I had to be abroad and away from dh, but now we're just in this weird ttc-but-not-really stage and it's frustrating!

@HazelEyes: @fussygal: @luckypenny: Wow, looks like I missed a lot - congrats on your BFP's!!

There is going to be a HB baby boom come spring...!

@nana87: That does sound frustrating, I'm sorry! I have a similar-but-not-so-much issue (my BFF is getting married next spring, at least she wants to, but hasn't set a date yet - in my case, there's no turning back now since we're already on cycle 7. We're going to keep TTC regardless if I'm due around her wedding or not because clearly this just isn't happening easily for us!) Good luck deciding!

@luckypenny: zoomed in and it's def there!! Woohoo congrats!!

@nana87: I would go for it and just see what happens.

@luckypenny congrats!! I saw the line right away!

@nana87 I agree with @bao

@nana87: I wouldn't hold out! You never know how it would go & if I had a friend that was in the same kind of situation as you I really wouldn't expect you too... if you could make it, great, if not then you couldn't... I'd miss you but I'd also be ecstatic that you were fixing to give me a bebe to love. lol

@doxielove: I hope you are too!

@doxielove: fingers crossed lady!

@nana87: that's a toughie. I say keep on TTC esp if this is possibly your last chance until November. Even if you get timing perfect, there's still only a 20% chance it will happen each month so I feel like there's no harm in trying. But you have to do what you feel most comfortable with.

@doxielove: I hope you are one of them, too!!! Rooting for you!!

@nana87: I would go for it if I were in the same situation - your friend will understand

@luckypenny: congrats!

@nana87: I have a situation very similar to yours. My best friend is getting married at the end of April in Florida and I live in Texas. She asked me to be her MOH. I'm a teacher so my goal is to hopefully be due spring or summer and when we started trying in April I was upfront and honest with her about our baby plans so she had adequate time to make other plans if needed.

Luckily she was understanding and I'm glad I told her so she wouldn't be blindsided. I'm also glad we made the decision to tell her so that we wouldn't feel pressured to change our baby plans for someone else. Ultimately you have to do what's best for you and your husband.

@nana87: echoing everyone else. I would totally go for it and see what happens. My due date didn't have the best timing but I consider him my little miracle. I feel like if its meant to be, it will be. Do it!!

@luckypenny: congrats, I see it too!

oh wow, I didn't expect it to be so unanimous! @T.H.O.U.: @Bao: @jhd: @AlmostMrsG: @cmbknyc: @wheres_c: @Honeygold89: thanks ladies!!

@doxielove: sorry you have a similar situation! if she doesn't have a date though, there's definitely no planning around her. hoping you get your soon!!

@runsyellowlites: you're right, she's the kind of friend who would be happy for me, though I know disappointed about the timing...but ultimately excited about the bebe

@MrsKoala: exactly, the shots of this happening this month are slim anyway, especially since the long flights and time change will probably shift things around, so maybe we should just go for it...

@SweetiePie: and @Boopers: I would talk to her about it and give her a heads up, but she's taking the bar exam in the next couple weeks so I think I'd be a worse friend for putting this hypothetical situation on her now than actually getting pregnant, haha. I did remembered after I posted though that I had a conversation with her last summer, after their date had basically been set, about both her wedding and our ttc plans for starting this spring, so while she probably didn't do the math and might not remember, I don't think she would be terribly surprised...

I have some more thinking to do about this, but you all are making me feel a lot less guilty about it! I'm leaning towards joining the August POAS board as more than a cheerleader

@fussygal, hazeleyes, luckypenny: congrats!!

@nana87: I agree with @Bao: , too! Go for it!