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I think it's a great idea for this thread!

I'm going to knock on wood and say that I think we're finally over our sleep issues, but it took us a year before she STTN regularly. Even though the pediatrician said she shouldn't need to eat anything overnight at 6 months, she still continued to need it until about 11 months. Just want to say "hang in there" and "this too shall pass"

This is the thread for me!

How old is LO: 7 months

How many wake ups per night: 5 - 10. typically every hour....

Bedtime routine: Bath (every other night), diaper, pjs, nurse on one side, sleep sack (start crying), nurse on other side, read a book, her dad rocks her to sleep with a paci. She is usually in bed by 6PM, but we are hoping to push back bedtime when the time changes. Maybe it'll help??

How do you handle wake-ups: If it's been less than 3 hours, I'll send my husband in to put her back to sleep. She usually wakes up screaming, this typically starts about an hour after we put her down. If he can't soothe her, I'll go in and nurse her back to sleep. Sometimes she wakes up when i put her back down or wakes up 5-10 minutes after I put her back in crib.

Methods you are trying/considering: We don't know what to do at this point. I have read all kinds of sleep books but we haven't been consistent with anything. We have let her CIO on occasion, but it hasn't helped. I am going to start putting her to bed awake and staying in the room with her, but I can't imagine she'll like it. I don't expect her to STTN, but waking every hour is getting old quickly. She just gets ANGRY if we go in and don't pick her up, and she usually cries more when my husband goes in there. She just wants comfort from mama.

Yes! good idea!
How old is LO: 4 months

How many wakeups per night: anywhere from 2-5
Bedtime routine: Bath, read a book with daddy, swaddle, white noise, nurse to sleep, pop in the paci. Bedtime is between 6:45 and 7:15.

How do you handle wakeups: Usually the first wakeup I'll nurse, as long as it's 1am or after. The next few, depending on when they are, I'll either try to offer the paci or I"ll nurse.

Method you are trying/considering: I'm happy do do 1 nursing session a night, I'd like to just cut out the others. I would consider doing ferber's method, but we need to swaddle wean first. We started that yesterday, but then his hand was freeeezing in the middle of the night out of the swaddle. I then swaddled him for a nap and he slept for 3 hours! So maybe he's not ready yet...

Naps are really more of a challenge in terms of getting him to sleep...we still have to rock to sleep for naps and they're very very short, resulting in an overtired baby!

@katyh: ugh that's awful

Here's one to make you feel better -

How old is LO: 17 months

How many wake ups per night: 0 on a good night (and then up very early) or 1, and up a little later. It's about 50/50 at this point.

Bedtime routine: Bedtime book, family snuggling on her floor bed, and then I nurse her either to sleep, or for 10 minutes, and then my husband snuggles her up until she falls asleep.

How do you handle wake-ups: My husband goes in and snuggles her back up. We night weaned at 13 months. Sometimes he'll spend the rest of the night with her if he can't get up without her waking. Thankfully, he sleeps pretty well like this.

Methods you are trying/considering: This method is what we eventually settled on. Nursing overnight for long periods was really impacting me. Sleep training isn't for us, so we settled on this method. He doesn't sleep perfectly, and I sure don't like sleeping without him, so it's a less than perfect solution. But it meets everyone's needs in general, and it's working.

You did not do anything wrong. 2 wakeups at 16 weeks is good, to be honest. Some babies are crazy and sleep all night at this point (mine did). Some will do that forever, some will stop (mine did!). Some people will have successfully sleep trained at this point. But it is absolutely, biologically normal for a baby to wake twice over night at 4 months. It isn't about you at all!

How old is lo: She's 10.5 months

How many wake ups per night: 1-2 before we go to sleep and 1-3 after DH and I go to sleep

Bedtime routine: Bathtime, dress, nurse, sleep. We've tried adding a massage in there while dressing her but it just makes her mad and she prefer to nurse.

Methods you are trying or considering: None. When she wakes I nurse her & if we're already asleep I bring her into bed with us & nurse her there. I know that these are common sleep patterns for her age & don't expect her to sttn at this point, although it would be nice... If I could drink coffee again I'd be golden! lol

Oh I'm so happy this thread exists....

How Old is LO: 6.5 months

How Many Wake-Ups Per Night: 2 on rare nights, usually at least 3-4, 5+ on bad nights.

Bedtime Routine: Starting somewhere between 6:30-7 - Nurse, bath (every few days), PJs, swaddle arms, sit in rocking chair and read a couple of songs, white noise on, music on, lay down in swing and hope he falls asleep haha!

How Do You Handle Wake-Ups: If it's been less than 3 hours, DH will try to go in and soothe him back to sleep (shhing, patting, or walking around/bouncing). Other than that I always feed him, and he always eats. Usually around 4-5am I bring him into bed with me because getting him back down at that point is tough.

Methods You Are Trying/Considering: Well, he's tough because he doesn't take a paci and doesn't suck his thumb - so he basically has no way to self soothe himself back to sleep. If I let him CIO - he will cry for hours....literally, hours. So that's out for us. We tried the No Cry Sleep Solution - but it didn't end up working well for us. We're currently trying out putting him back in the swing to sleep but slowly lowering the speed on the swing during consecutive nights. The hope is to get him down sleeping in a still swing and thus putting himself to sleep. If he can do that then he should be able to put himself to sleep in his crib.
We had originally transferred him from a Rock n' Play to the crib, but every time we put him down in the crib he would wail until we picked him up again (yes, he's got it all figured out). I'm pretty sure we'll be seeking out a sleep consult from my local mom's group soon too.

@NovBaby1112: Last night was a little better! It took the same amount of time to fall asleep but she only woke up one time! It was 11pm so I let her cry a little bit but her crying was not stopping so, I went in and fed her. She fell back to sleep and slept until 5:30 (after my alarm went off). I'm excited that this seems to be working right now!

So last night was crappy again...he was up 4 times (12:50, 2:30, 4:50, and 5:30). I think part of the problem is that with our monitor, I hear every little sound. So I hear him when he's "talking" (fussing, grunting) in his sleep and I'm afraid that it'll turn into full on crying, so I go in there to try to pre-emptively soothe. But maybe if i left him, he'd work it out on his own? Or he might need to cry for a few minutes. I don't know...I don't want to wake DH up, who needs to go to work in the mornings, and if he's fussing in his sleep, I'm not getting any sleep either!

How old is LO: Almost 6 and a half months.

How many wake ups per night: This is where it gets confusing - he has a really late last nap, around 5pm. He doesn't nap well if not being held and/or slept beside, so his wake up could be as little as half an hour later, or 1.5 hours. Then he's up until 10 or 11. He's always woken up around 3am, and again around 5 (give or take an hour to all of this). That's on a good night. Bad night he's up 3-5 times.

Bedtime routine: We don't really have one. If we did it would be nurse or bottle/rock to sleep. Some nights he gets a bath and I find he goes to sleep quicker on those nights. I need to start giving him a nightly bath.

How do you handle wake-ups: If it's after we've gone to bed, I roll over and feed him (we co-bed). If it's before, I'll still nurse him. If he falls asleep, great. If not, sigh. He's up.

Methods you are trying/considering: I would love for him to stay asleep when he goes down for his last nap (and I would love for his last "nap" to shift later to about 7 or so), because it's really exhausting to basically deal with him from 6am to 11pm every day, especially on the days he doesn't nap well. I'm against CIO and would like to continue to co-bed....I'm just not sure how to make that happen? Right now he sleeps when he's tired, and I don't really want to impose an arbitrary schedule on him just to suit my needs. (really bad explanation...sorry).

I can deal with the night wakeups, especially since I'm on mat leave and can always nap with him if I really need it. It's naps that are really stressful - if he's not being held or napped with, I'll be lucky to get a half hour nap out of him. I can get an hour if I hold him and longer if I sleep beside him.

THANK-YOU for starting this thread. I definitely have envy when I see STTN threads, especially with LOs younger than my little lady.

How Old is LO: 19w

How Many Wake-Ups Per Night: 1-8 (shoot me)

Bedtime Routine: Every other night bath, if not bath, cuddles, her getting to sleep is never a problem, she loves her bedtime, lol. Bath/no bath night cuddles/quiet time, bottle, burp, sleep sack, paci, and a kiss goodnight. She is in bed by 7:30 on a bath night, just after 7 non-bath.

How Do You Handle Wake-Ups: If before 3am, paci back in, 3am onward (I try to push 4-5am) bottle. If I cave and bottle before 4am, guaranteed she'll be up early or need another bottle 5-6am and then I get too close to the danger zone of early up for the day.

Methods You Are Trying/Considering: CIO, but not ready. Cutting the paci would be nice too as that's I think the reasoning for the wake ups (she quickly falls asleep, spits it out, and then wakes at whatever point and loses it. We have only recently switched to formula/bottle feeding from EBF, sleep habits haven't changed, but I am still really trying to figure out a solid feeding (amount/frequency) schedule.

@anbanan15: So there is hope! I just have to wait it out... I would co-sleep if she would acutally sleep, but she just wants to play or nurse all night long. I'm holding out for that magic moment....

It's likely a fluke but last night P slept from 10-7 with only one wake-up at 11:30.... I went in & nursed her and she went right back to sleep! When she woke at 7 I pulled her into bed with us, nursed her and we fell back asleep until 8. Last time she fluked on the side of sttn was a little over a month ago (was the 2nd time since she was born)

I know it seems most of us are actively trying to "resolve" these wakings but I thought this info from kellymom might help you other ladies feel better... I know it helps me tons when P goes through bad weeks or seems to "regress".

http://kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/sleep/
http://kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/sleepstudies/

@NovBaby1112: I miss coffee dearly! I've gotten pretty used to not having it..... now I try and make me a green smoothie most mornings instead. Figure it's a healthier option anyways. =)

@katyh: We co-bed & P does spend alot of the night nursing.... I'm able to sleep though and it seems to be helping us all the way around as she learns, at her pace, how to sleep longer. (I silently hope it's sooner rather than later but know it may not be) *fingers-crossed*

How Old is LO: 14 months

How Many Wake-Ups Per Night: anywhere from 1-3 times

LO is currently on a crib strike. She freaks out and all out screams if we put her in her crib. For the past month, we've had to put a comforter on her rug and DH or I will have to lie down with her. She drinks her bottle and then falls asleep cuddling. Once she's really asleep, I transfer her to her crib. She wakes up screaming and will stand at the end of the crib and if one of us doesn't go in right away, she will throw her pacifier across the room.

Bedtime Routine: starts around 6-6:30... bath, brush gums/teeth, lotion, book, lights out, bottle, and pacifier

How Do You Handle Wake-Ups: give another bottle (sometimes she'll only take a few sips) and pacifier

Methods You Are Trying/Considering: we spoke to her new pediatrician. She said since this is something that started once we moved here to Beijing, LO is still trying to adjust to the change. Plus she just started getting her first teeth. The pediatrician told us to give LO a little more time and indulge her. Once her teeth (she has 5 coming in right now)have come in and she is still doing this, then we should think about trying to fix the situation. I'm not a fan of CIO but it this keeps going, we may have to try it.

I just wanted to pop in and say we have had a DREAM day when it came to LO's sleep! He took 3 naps and each were over an hour long!!! & went down for the "night" (fingers crossed) around 930.

Holy hell! Today was just so EASY. No fighting with him to get him to sleep for naps! No stressing out! No whiny overtired crying (well, not excessively, anyway). It's 11pm and he's already asleep! I'm not sitting with him and begging him to just go to sleep already!
Thank you, DS!