Hi All! Would love some advice. As I write this we are hours away from bringing my MIL back to our house to spend some time with our 4 week old and help us out since I go back to work part time next week. I am nervous/paranoid that this was a mistake.

So our situation is slightly complicated, although definitely not unique. My MIL is from Eastern Europe and her English is poor (despite having lived in the US for over 30 years, she pretty much only talks in polish at our house making me the third wheel). We can barely communicate and have vastly different views on just about everything, especially childcare. For example, although not a huge deal (feel it is indicative of our differences) she insists that he lay in a soft bed with a huge fluffy blanket (my hubs has yet to explain SIDS to her). I am really on edge with her because she is notorious for not listening, doing whatever she thinks is best and on top of that, making everything about her.

As a first step, my SO and I have discussed laying some ground rules about how we care for DS, etc etc. and what we would like help with. I should also mention that this is kind of a trial. We would really like to only have family help with childcare until DS is 3 months. Any advice you have is greatly appreciated. Wish me luck!!!