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Just wait and see. If you leave and your supply drops then so be it. If not then keep going!

@LulaBee: Well, I would probably still go and pump, but I'd only pump a couple times and call it good enough. It's just for a couple days. But I wouldn't want to NOT pump since it might get uncomfortable if you really are still producing a decent amount of milk.

@LulaBee: I think it was harder for me than him lol. When we left, he didn't seem to care that I was gone. I was sad to be weaning even though I wanted to wean.

I would doubt that she is still getting much milk during these night sessions (or even the day). I would go, sleep through the night, pump maybe twice during the day (hand pump and only for like 5 minutes each side), and have a blast!

Also, I'm guessing you've done every night waking since she's been born since she requires nursing? I would try to remember that when you are feeling bad for your husband if (and that's a big IF) she's a hot mess a few nights. It might even have the benefit of night weaning her.

I would go and bring a pump just in case, knowing you probably won't need to use it. I left DD while she was still nursing when she was 16 mos and she did just fine and we picked back up when I got home. I did pump but not a whole lot came out. It was the first two nights she had STTN ever!

No chance I'm missing a girl's weekend to nurse my 19 month old. Go on the trip!

If you want to wean, go, and don't pump. When you get back your supply will likely have plummeted enough that if you let her try she won't get much and she'll lose interest. This is what I did with my son when he was about 15 months old. I went away for 3 nights and he didn't give my a husband a hard time while I was gone, I let him try to nurse a couple times when I got back and there was no milk and he got over it.

If you don't want to wean, go and pump morning and night to keep up your supply and otherwise enjoy yourself!

@LulaBee: Sorry if others have said the same thing but I think it all depends on whether or not you are ready to wean. If you aren't, than definitely bring the pump with you and pump when you feel full/to keep your supply. If you want to wean, I would start trying to cut out some of the feeds now (particularly the night one.) I would still bring the pump but only express to relieve pressure (you could also just bring a hand pump for that.) Ultimately, I think it depends on what you want long term.

Oh yeah, to clarify - we ended up doing SEVERAL 1- and 2-nighters away from DD and she still picked up nursing 1x-day after we got back. It wasn't like the decision to wean was made for me. I got to decide. And I didn't pump at all for any of those occasions. I put that pump COMPLETELY away when she turned 12 months, no way I was hooking myself back up to that thing again!

I weaned both my girls around 18-20 months based on trips I was taking 4 day trips at that time. (and the fact that I was happy with our nursing journey and ready for a break) each time we were down to once a day, every other day so I haven't had to worry about supply/engorgement as it was pretty much gone. DD1 was over it after I got back, but DD2 would have been happy to keep going. I just stood my ground and gave her a cup of milk instead.

Don't worry about your husband. It's always easier when you're gone for them than when you're there! Go on the trip!

I have gone on a few nights away from my 22 month old (only 1 night at a time, but more I would likely do the same thing). I brought my pump and pumped AM and PM. I am nursing him a few times a day. I am making enough milk still that I would be super uncomfortable if I went like 24+ hours without expressing some. It is a hassle but it was like, I don't want to deal with boob pain on my trip.

My son is similar with the nursing, but when I've been away, he's been fine without it with my husband. It's like "out of sight, out of mind." He drinks milk anyway.

BUT if you wanted to wean, it could be a good opportunity to do so. My son just picked right up nursing and acting like nothing had happened when I left, unfortunately.

@PawPrints: hearing that you missed a day or two when you were down to once a day and she still nursed after that is really nice to hear. I both want to be done and am not at all ready to be done, but I definitely am ready to have a night away when someone else puts her to bed!

@LulaBee: I did exactly what you're proposing at 18 months. 3 day girls trip, hand pumped about once a day when I felt engorged. She was fine and returned to morning/evening breastfeeding easily when I returned. Enjoy!

I didn't read all the responses but I'd just go and don't pump and see what happens! That's what I did-- lo1 was 21 months when I had a week long work trip. I figured that was when we'd wean so I only brought a manual pump for when I felt engorged, and I didn't save the milk. It was a long week so I thought that would be it but the first thing she said when she saw me was "nurse!" Lol. We kept nursing for a month after that before wearing for real

Eta she was fine for dh while I was gone

Go and pump when you get uncomfortable if you aren't ready to wean. I've been there, everyone will be fine for a weekend. You need it, they need it because you need it. Enjoy! Sleep!