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Oh honey I am so sorry ! I wish I had some advice for you but know lots of ladies will chime in with some ! Just wanted to say you are doing great and things will get better whatever route you take ! BIG HUGS !

It seriously does get better. Can you try pumping and bottle feeding until you get the hang of things? It can be so overwhelming at first!

the first few days are so tough! hang in there. i needed my DH to help position her and my mom's set of hands to soothe her by stroking her head to help get her on in the beginning. can DH take her for a little bit to soothe her and calm her down before trying to get her latched back on? when my LO is frantically hungry, she needs a break so my DH takes her and pats her, then gives her back to me and that sometimes works. also when i was stressed, i'd make these fast movements when trying to position her thinking the faster i got her latched on, the sooner she'd stop crying. but that just made her more stressed out and more frantic. so just try to move slowly, talk in a soothing tone, etc. etc. and my baby used to do a hoarse cry too - its ok. she survived! it gets better, promise! you are doing a great job.

It's hard to feed a crying baby so if she would get flustered I'd start the 5 S's to get her calm before trying again. So I sometimes nursed her swaddled. And to keep myself from getting rattled I'd just have a movie or something on so I could just hold her for a bit and relax while I rocked her and she calmed down.
Best wishes!

The beggining of breastfeeding is so hard for soany women, myself included. I was totally unprepared for how difficult it was. Just remember that things will only get better from here. Your milk supply will regulate, Sadie will become a better and more efficient nurser, and your breasts will be more accustomed to the change. Hang in there!!!

You're doing a great job already by hanging in there. It will get better!

We had a latching problem during the first two weeks. My milk didn't start coming in until 5 days pp and we were supplementing with formula. LO had gotten used to the fast flow of the nipple and would only suck for a few seconds at the breast before realizing that milk was not coming out right away and he would scream and scream until I would give him a bottle. Things started getting better when I switched to the medela calma nipple because it made him work a bit to get the milk out so that the switch from bottle to breast wasn't as drastic. I continued trying to nurse him before supplementing and slowly he began to accept nursing and I was able to EBF.

Hope you figure out what works for you soon!

@photojane: she's so cute, saw a picture on the bump thread! Hang in there. I had my husband help us adjust for a while until we got more experienced - I also had him at my LC appointments so his more rested self could see her tips and techniques.

Hang in there Mama, it does and will get easier! You and your wee babe are both new to breastfeeding and it's going to take some time for you to master it but every feed it will get a little easier and before you know it it will be second nature

@Phillybaby2013: I like your idea of nursing lying down, even at four months my LO will always nurse lying down even if she's having a bad day feeding!

Keep up the wonderful job you're doing with Sadie and just remember that this too shall pass!

Congratulations on your new little bundle! I know I'm late to chime in but wanted to encourage you to see an independent LC if you still want to try giving BFing a go. It is SO HARD at first, but so worth it once you get it to work. It wasn't smooth for us til 5ish weeks when his little mouth got bigger. Going to see the LC was a huge turning point for us at 2w when he hadn't gained back to his birth weight yet. If you do want to try pumping, I'd recommend the hospital grade Medela Symphony - it's so much more comfortable than their other pumps (I've had them all, ugh). Good luck, momma, whatever decision you make, you're doing the best for your baby and your family. xoxo

no advice, but just to say i hear you!! it was the hardest thing i've ever gone through in my life, too i found i couldn't even take it 'a day at a time', but had to just focus on one feed at a time. or even less... one failed latch at a time! oh man...

you are awesome mama!!

ETA: i just read your update -- so glad she is gaining weight! what a great feeling!! bottle feeding is great too -- we eventually transitioned to that too in fact in my 2nd week pp, i took a whole week off bf'ing to heal my nipples and just pumped. he still bf just fine after a week of no boob. no pressure at all, just to say that if you are ever curious to try for 'fun' later on, it could work! these little babies sure are smart! your little girl is gorgeous.