I am not super into spoken word poetry but this was awesome...
So thankful I have not faced this type of opposition. I mean, it's not easy but people have been pretty supportive.
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@sloaneandpuffy: I saw it on Facebook and loved it too. Thanks for sharing it here.
I actually started crying when I saw this... I didn't realize this issue was bothering me so much.
It is actually my DH who is most against me nursing in public... he feels like other people will be grossed out or think it's weird... he really pushes formula when we go out to eat or asks me to nurse in the restroom. It's tough because I think it's stupid but I don't want to battle with him over it and I want to respect his wishes. Our compromise is that I can nurse in public but only in a discreet place (i.e., corner of a booth) with a cover. Often I choose to go to the car to nurse because my LO hates the cover... I wish I could nurse in public without my husband or myself feeling embarassed.
I did run into an issue at a retail store where I asked if I could nurse in an empty changing room. The woman said she had to ask if it was ok... she went and conferred with two other employees and then came back and said no, but I could nurse in the restroom. I was so angry! I handed the woman my full shopping cart and said ok then, I'll just go home. They lost my business and I went and nursed in the car. Ridiculous!
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@78h2o: I am so sorry your husband is being like that
I think it's admirable you want to respect him although obviously it's frustrating!! My husband has always been super supportive but he liked me to cover which I did with my first baby. Now he's the one who tells me not to bother covering with our second baby! And I have just unexpectedly gotten comfortable with that. No one has ever said anything although I can tell sometimes people feel uncomfortable. Oh well, not my problem!! I think if someone told me to go in the restroom I would totally flip my crap on them though. You should sic the lactivists on that place for sure!!Hang in there and let's help our babies have the beautiful lives they deserve
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This is absolutely beautiful. I ff this baby but I hope with #2, if I bf, I can have the strength of this woman. I'm sorry bf'ing moms have to go through this.
If it makes anyone feel better (doubt it) ff moms get the looks too. You can never freakin' win.
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@sloaneandpuffy: I saw this on FB and bookmarked it to watch later. Glad I just watched it, this is awesome. I have gotten some looks and stares but have never had to nurse in the bathroom and I nurse her in a baby carrier or with the one shirt up/one shirt down method (she hasn't liked covers since she was about 5 months). My breasts are never exposed but you would think I was walking around topless sometimes. DH is completely supportive of public breastfeeding. I'm not one of those "whip it out" type ladies (not that I think there's anything wrong with that) but he'd be totally fine if I was.
I'm sorry your husband isn't supportive of public breastfeeding. Honestly, who cares what other people think? But some battles aren't worth fighting, so it's good that you two have come to a compromise.
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What a beautiful piece of spoken word! I've been really lucky to be supported in bf'ing P, but even so it's been that twinge of "not totally okay-ness" from DH & my mom when it comes to NIP. DH has come around after getting into a few tiffs concerning G's friends coming over while I might need to nurse P and my mom is in the "okay *as long* as it's discreet" so even though it's *okay* I still always stress about the possible "flash".
I wish I could just totally not care, but I haven't gotten there yet.
@78h2o: I'm so sorry you haven't been supported.
That makes is SO incredibly difficult to continue! You're doing amazing & I think you did awesome leaving that place.... I would've wanted to just whip it out right there is someone treated me like that. lol -
This is beautiful. I scrolled past in on FB when we were coming home earlier (DH was driving) and meant to go back to it when we got home but forgot.
DH has been sort of supportive--in the "I guess if you want to..." way. I've never been asked to stop or leave, but I've definitely gotten some dirty or disapproving looks, mostly from older (and many younger) women, which makes me sad. I don't usually nurse in public anymore, though, because E's current preferred method of nursing involves having both breasts bared to him so he can go back and forth between them and pinch the other (youch!). It wouldn't be a sweet nursing now, it would be an all-out there exposure, and though a possible nip-slip wouldn't bother me being completely bare would.
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What a thought provoking video!
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That is fantastic. Thanks for sharing!!
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@sloaneandpuffy: like @FutureMrsMcK I saw this and meant to get back to it- thanks for posting! so moving.
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@sloaneandpuffy: thank you for sharing this. I teared up a little too. I haven't had to nurse in a restroom but my own sister does leave the room/house when I nurse (and yes, she's a mother).
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Hollie Mcnish is wonderful. She does another brilliant poem called mathematics about immigration - look it up on youtube if you have a spare few minutes.
This is brilliant. I hope I will get to the point where NIP is second nature. It's weird how comfortable I am wearing low cut tops but how nervous the prospect of NIP makes me feel. It's like exposing one's breasts is only appropriate if it's in a sexual way... very strange.
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@cmomma17: Gosh, I am sorry. That sucks. But good for you for recognizing SHE's the one with the problem!!
@Cherrybee: She IS wonderful! I have just listened to a couple of her poems from youtube but I'll look for that one. @78h2o posted WOW in another thread and I found that one on youtube, too... so great for us mamas!!
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@78h2o: I'm so sorry about your husband and those retail clerks! I'm actually surprised you asked them. I always took Cobi into dressing rooms with me and they never knew I was nursing. And seriously why should or would they care?! I'm giving my baby his food!
I saw this video on fb and really liked it. Beautiful poetry.
I've always been fine NIP but usually wear a cover. I definitely never wanted to advertise and just wanted to feed my baby in peace. For that reason I usually tried to find peaceful places to do so. A lot of times I would end up nursing in the car though. It was a matter of where me and J were most comfortable, not what other people thought. I would be upset if anyone had ever said anything negative to me before.
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@Mrs. Pen: I only asked because I was in TJ Maxx buying home goods - I didn't really want to try anything on. I never thought it would be an issue since there were a ton of empty dressing rooms!
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@78h2o: That is ABSURD. Like @mrspen I do this all the time!
@sloaneandpuffy: I just watched that one, love it.
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just saw this on facebook and was coming to share it! looks like i'm a few days behind!!
i've never had an issue, or had anyone else make an issue over me nursing in public. there was one time dh said "um, maybe you want to go to the bathroom to do that..." at a crowded restaurant with all of *MY* family. I said to him "sure. as long as you want to go eat your dinner in a bathroom stall too." he got over that pretty quick
I think it's admirable you want to respect him although obviously it's frustrating!! My husband has always been super supportive but he liked me to cover which I did with my first baby. Now he's the one who tells me not to bother covering with our second baby! And I have just unexpectedly gotten comfortable with that. No one has ever said anything although I can tell sometimes people feel uncomfortable. Oh well, not my problem!! I think if someone told me to go in the restroom I would totally flip my crap on them though. You should sic the lactivists on that place for sure!!
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