So so mad... Have a friend who is visiting next month from another state and she wants to meet the babies. She and another good friend both have young kids. So he is like no, they can't see the kids before the whole two month rule. I was like are u kidding or are u friggn serious. I mean come on, da heck. Who's friggn paranoid? He thinks people are only careful about their own babies and don't care about others. And mentioned my bro, who is extremely paranoid about his baby, but was wanting to bring his 19-month old son to our hospital room saying he was my son. Ugh so annoying and UNreasonable. I'm still pissed at him...
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Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! Vent, sista, vent! I hear ya. *interweb slap* to your hubs. (Just kidding).
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@Rubies: serious. It's cuz he doesn't care about other people, he thinks they're the same! Ugh!!
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So what was the resolution? Can they see the babies or not? He just wants to play it safe .... but I think it is ok. We had some young kids come over to our house to visit before 2 months. They didn't get to hold the baby or anything. As long as they keep their distance and are not sick at the time it should be ok ....
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OMG my husband was the same way! His little cousin came over once to help watch our son (who was 3 months at the time) because we were heading out to run some errands at Ikea. He calls her while we're driving and reminds her to please wash her hands before touching the baby. She was soooo upset and offended and so was I! I mean, seriously, she's not gonna contaminate the baby and she's responsible enough to wash her hands (she was 21 years old!). She was doing us a favor by babysitting and he's calling her out on her "dirtyness".
At first I was super annoyed but then my best friend pointed out that it's because he loves the baby so much so it cant' be a bad thing? He said it out of love.
But still, I feel you girl! I was mad too! It's not like your friends wouldn't be careful around your baby. They have their own! They know what's it like right? GRRRRR
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Is he not okay with your friends themselves seeing the babies because their kids are young? Or does he just not want the kids to come? Maybe you can compromise and tell him that if the doesn't want the kids around he can take them to a playground or to ice cream while your friends visit with the babies.
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We had DH's nieces (4 yrs old and 2.5 months old) come to visit early on. Both girls are immunized and didn't have too much interaction with our lo.
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@Andrea: resolution is that fine! I won't let them see the baby but im pissed off at him and don't want to talk to him. He thinks I am childish when I don't get my way and I think he's an overbearIng brute that always gets his way. Annoying.
@banana: totally @ grrrr!
@joyjoy: It's my friends since they have young kids and could be carrying something. And yet he's fine with me hanging out with them myself.... What if I catch whatever theyre carrying? Unreasonable.
@chopsuey119: Yeah, it's not even the kids themselves! I mean come on....that's why they have sanitizers!
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@tequiero21: I would totally overrule him on this. Seriously. Pull the mommy card! But I am also super stubborn.
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@Mrs. Yoyo: right? I really think he's being absolutely ridiculous. And what, does he really think I wouldn't put the kids first?!
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@tequiero21: I hate to cause marital dissension, but ... dude needs to chill. I mean, can't you tell your friends that he's super paranoid, and then they would be more than happy to sterilize everyone until the cows come home, no?
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@Mrs. Yoyo: I know! Why do u think I'm so pissed! I'm so pissed I don't even want him at the delivery!
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@tequiero21: oh really?? i think you should win this one. it is kind of overboard.
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Oh man! I'm so sorry. If it helps, we didn't really worry about that and our newborn did just fine.
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Well seeing as you're still here chatting and not in hospital, your babies will be neither premature or tiny. You win this one!
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i guess we'll see. talked to him last night and i told him if he's that paranoid, i'll make them wear masks when they handle the babies or something. but i'm still annoyed at him.
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If its any help, that rule doesn't seem to exist here at all. No kids other than siblings in hosp, yes, but that's all. Once people are sensible and don't visit if they have anything catching , and when they are visiting are sensible about clean hands etc, you're fine. Really, would there be seven billion of us if babies were that fragile?!
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@aunt pol: i know, right? and he's a doctor. i'm not sure if that's making it worse. 1. should he know better? or 2. he knows too much?
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That's sweet that he's so protective of his babies! But I agree, as long as they sanitize I wouldn't have a problem with it. We were careful about taking LO out in public before her two month shots, but you do have to leave the house and there are always people around and you never know what they could be carrying. You just have to deal with it.
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