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I'm really sorry

I've been trying for 2 years and had three losses in that time. There have been countless announcements in there and the only thing that has really helped is time passing. It does still hurt sometimes but not nearly as bad as when I was fresh off of a loss.

Hugs

It’s sucks. I remember right after my first MC, my best friend announced her pregnancy. I was happy for her, but also was so sad for myself and wanted to be pregnant again immediately. I was lucky enough to get pregnant again the next month, but the superstition never goes away and it’s hard to enjoy the early stages of pregnancy.

I found it helpful to unplug and not visit social media so much. It just eases the pain a bit.

Sending ️.

I had a close friend get pregnant shortly after my last miscarriage. But this was after her fourth round and final round of IVF, so of course I was happy that it worked out for her. I tried to remember that pregnancy is not a zero sum game. It’s not like she was the reason I couldn’t get pregnant.

I have had three miscarriages. I know it’s hard. Trust me, they don’t get easier with more experience!

I'm so sorry. Hugs to you.

@creativemomma15: I totally understand this. I had multiple friends due within a few weeks of when my first would have been due. For me, I had to be willing to distance myself from those people a little bit or it would have been too much. I bailed on a girls trip last year that I go on every year because 3 of 5 other women were pregnant, 2 of them within days of what I would have been, and the group chat leading up was too much for me even. Also know that you can mute people on social media, which was really helpful for me, and seriously cut down on the number of bump photos, etc. I was exposed to. The relationships will still be there if they’re real, even if you don’t tell them about your mc. People get busy and lose touch for a little while all the time. Focus on yourself and what you need right now, once you’ve healed some it will be easier to be happy for them.

I'm sorry for your loss. I had my second MC this summer, and it's been really hard to hear about other people's pregnancies. A family friend who didn't know about my MC was going on and on about how her daughter was pregnant with her third and was so tired and having a rough pregnancy. And I wanted to be like, I can't even stay pregnant with a second kid. I'd love to be tired and nauseous. Instead I just left the room for awhile.

@creativemomma15: sending hugs. Your loss is a real loss for you so there is no reason to minimize it.

I had a friend who had a history of losses tell me “they don’t have my baby” when I asked how she handled other pregnant friends/births. What she explained was that she didn’t want their babies, she wanted her baby who had passed. I am not sure I am explaining it right but it helped me separate my loss from other people’s outcomes.

I'm really sorry for your loss

I had a couple of losses before my first viable pregnancy, and so many friends happened to be due around the time we would have. Like others have said, I think the main thing that helps is time. Meanwhile, be kind to yourself and give yourself as much space as you need to process the feelings.

It doesn't help when it's someone I'm not expecting, but I have unfollowed people on social media who have announced when we were going through our still birth and then again during our miscarriage.

I'm so sorry

I don't handle pregnancy announcements well. It's been almost a year since my miscarriage and it still really stings when I see one.