Hey guys - I am currently in the process of miscarrying. It's uncomfortable and sad. I'm doing ok mental health wise because I saw it coming, but can I vent for a moment? I have to go to the OB tomorrow for a follow up. I'm considering cancelling. First, not only are things a little gory at the moment, but second I don't think I can sit in the waiting room with all the many ladies having healthy happy pregnancies. I am an infertility veteran so to conceive on my own was a moonshot and then to lose the pregnancy is totally gutting. Has anyone ever had to go to an appointment like this in the midst of miscarrying? Help me be strong. Or should I just cancel. My heart can't bear it. Thank you for reading this sad lament. Xoxo
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I'm sorry you're going through this. If you think a couple extra days would help make it easier, then you could certainly postpone the appointment. It might be better to get it out of the way, though.
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I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I agree that you should postpone if you can't handle it right now, but you will need to go get checked out eventually.
Maybe you could ask if you could go back to a room right when you get there, explain your circumstances? I know that after my losses being in the OB's waiting room was SO triggering.
Hugs.
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I'm so sorry your going through this but I would say that you probably need to be checked by a doctor to see if they want to do any bloodworkd or anything. But that can probably wait a few days until all this wraps up. I would call the office and explain and say you aren't comfortable coming now but would like to reschedule if they advise that.
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
I've had many losses, including a recent loss at 18 weeks. It is very, very hard to go back to my OB right now. If you can postpone the appointment for a few weeks, then perhaps you should? If not, I would just allow myself to feel every feeling you are feeling and acknowledge those feelings. I let my sadness and grief walk beside me every day. I also don't make eye contact with pregnant people when I'm in those situations.
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I'm sorry you're going through this.
I had to go to an appt during my miscarriage. They took me right back so I wouldn't have to wait in the lobby with the expectant mothers. Hopefully yours would do the same?
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@mopeybuthopey: I'm so sorry for your loss. I didn't go in the midst of my mc, but a couple days later, & even though going through blood tests, exams & u/s that would otherwise have shown a baby was tortuous, I also felt better to know my mc was resolving & I didn't have residual tissue or tubal damage. I was going to suggest what @ValentineMommy: said & request they take you back right away. Surely they'll accommodate you this way.
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I'm so sorry. I did have to go to an appointment like this, kind of - I was miscarrying a random natural pregnancy after 3 years of infertility. I went to my RE's office, which shouldn't have been so bad but it was during the time of day when they do ultrasounds for all their successful pregnancies so while I was waiting for my ultrasound to confirm the loss two nurses were excitedly cooing over another couple who had just seen two heartbeats. It sucked.
Maybe you could tell them you're going to wait outside and ask them to call your cell when they're ready for you and then you could go straight in?
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Thanks everyone. I so appreciate the support – it lessens the sting a little bit. I'm rescheduled for next Friday and feeling so much better about it
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I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had a loss at 13 weeks a couple of weeks ago and I have my follow up appointment on Friday which I am dreading. Can your husband or someone go with you for support? I don't really have advice, but know you aren't alone
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I'm so sorry. I had two. One was at the high risk ultrasound center where I could keep hearing the ultrasound heartbeats of alive babies and the second was a follow-up from a D&C. I think people got what was going on when they saw my puffy eyes and that I was there alone. As hard as it is, I was happy I went so I could get answers
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I'm so sorry you are going through this. After my loss (I was 23 weeks so I delivered in hospital), my husband was able to come with me for my two week check-up at my OB's office. I couldn't go alone. Luckily the nurse put me in a different room compared to when I found out there was no heartbeat or else I probably would have lost it. I do admit, I was more anxious leading up to the appointment instead of actually being anxious at the office, if that gives you any hope. Thinking of you.
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Thanks so much everyone. My heart aches for you ladies who have also suffered losses, especially you @littlecasita1122, @ocean81 and @winniebee
heartbreaking. I hope we all get our rainbow babies soon. Sub/infertility is incredibly unfair.
heartbreaking. I hope we all get our rainbow babies soon. Sub/infertility is incredibly unfair.
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