Who feeds the baby and when?
How did it change when mom went back to work? Or when dad went back to work?
I know that exclusively breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding (breast milk or formula) makes a difference here, too.
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I didn't vote because I'm not sure which option applies to me.
I BF and supplement with formula. When my husband and I are both with LO I primarily feed her bc I nurse whenever I can to build up my supply. But if we were out and about we give formula then he would do it. And on daddy/daughter days (Wednesdays) he does all the feeding when he's home with her. But that's on hold now since I"m PT.
I nurse exclusively in the middle of the night so I always wake up to nurse. If he wakes up before me -rarely- he'll grab her and bring her to me. But I don't like to wake him up if not, no use having both of us up!
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I'm a sahm so I would always do day time feedings. Lo was on a bottle after she was a week old so dh and I were able to alternate waking up during night time feedings.
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I'm just BFing, mainly because she just started taking a bottle. DH will help put her to sleep at night if she doesn't fall asleep nursing. The plan is that when I go back to work he will do a night feeding with the bottle. Fingers crossed that works!
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Dad got 10 days paternity leave and he used to stay up till 3am playing video games and would give LO at least 2 bottles before he went to bed--I had a really hard time recovering from my c-section and so it was a huge relief not to have to get up from bed.
After that... Dad does not stay up to feed baby much anymore, maybe once a month, so mom stopped pumping because it was all going down the drain.
And he started bringing baby to me to nurse in bed. I realized I'd rather nurse him on the couch anyway! Imagine that! LO wakes up less, so it's easier for me.
And I am not at work (yet?). -
Since I'm home with LO all day and ebf, I do all daytime feedings. When I was working part time though, DH gave her bottles and brought her to me at lunch so I could bf. Some nights, when he doesn't have to work the next day, he will wake up and bring LO to bed so I can feed her.
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@BeachMama: Good luck.
@MungBean: He brought her to work? That is awesome! -
@pastemoo: yeah, it made the day go by soooo much faster
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I am her primary caregiver. I do almost all night feedings except once in a while on the weekend when I need the sleep (DH gets up very early, so I don't make him on weekdays). He does help a bit on weekends, but she's down to maybe 5 bottles a day. I would say DH does around 2 bottles per week on average.
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I nurse her most of the time now when I'm home with her. If I'm sore, I'll pump and dh will feed her a bottle. I do overnight exclusively.
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I EBF so I do all of the daytime feedings. We started giving LO a bottle of pumped milk at 3 months and DH usually does that. When we had nightfeeds, I would get LO and nurse in bed and DH would bring him back to his crib.
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DH gives him a pumped bottle at night, usually when I'm making dinner or taking a shower or something, or if we're out on the weekends. I BF during the day when he's at work and overnight.
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If I am home I do all the feedings, including all the night ones, so I can keep my supply up. When DH picks him up from daycare he will give him a bottle if he gets hungry before I get home.
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I ebf all feedings & since I'm a wahm with a pretty flexible schedule DH doesn't do any night wakings. Yea.... He's got it made. Lol
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I mostly feed Lo because when she is home she is mainly breastfed. Sometimes DH feeds her though
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We bottle feed and alternate feedings, although I usually do the "dinner" feed while my husband cooks our dinner, and he usually does the 6am "breakfast" feed when she wakes up. The other feedings we try to be 50/50 on. Before LO slept through the night, we alternated night feedings about 50/50 too. A husband who didn't do night feedings would not fly in my house; it's his baby too and everyone needs sleep whether they work inside or outside the home.
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I do nearly all the feedings as LO is breastfed and I'm a SAHM. We give her a probiotic every day, so we take one ice cube of frozen breast milk (13 ml) and put it in a bottle with the probiotic. DH usually gives her that bottle whilst I get ready to finish the feed with bf'ing. When I feel like having a glass of wine, we'll take enough ice cubes out for a full feed and that's done by DH.
LO has been sleeping through the night since 8 weeks so there's no more night time feeds to worry about. When we did have to feed overnight, I would feed her and DH would burp her and settle her back to sleep.
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@yoursilverlining: Cute. I swear DS only gets hungry as soon as the food is off the stove or out of the oven. If I try to feed him before our dinner is ready he won't eat!
@Ree723: Sleeping through the night since 8 weeks? AWESOME! -
II do all the feeding. I am back at work part time, but even when I am at work DH does not feed her because she refuses the bottle. She does not eat while I am away from her.
Oh, and it'll be the day when DH gets up to bring baby to me. NOT HAPPENING! he sleeps through everything...
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@runsyellowlites: im with ya!!
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@Mrsdaredevil:
That is awful!
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@Mrsdaredevil: DH sleeps through EVERYTHING here too! I try not to think about it b/c yea, I'm just a bit bitter about his ability to do so. LOL... since I had DS 8 years ago I've been a pretty light sleeper. Sigh.
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@Mrsdaredevil: @runsyellowlites: yeah try living with a deaf husband
he hears nothing ever lolI voted for two options: I mainly EBF, but on the weekends I pump at least 2-3 feedings so that DH can feed him for bedtime or naps.
He also will wake up at night and bring DS to me if I wake him up to get him. Last night I woke him up to put him back to sleep because he wasn't suppose to be awake. Before DS used to get up more than once, DH would get him for me. But now that he only wakes up once a night, I usually get him.
I would say everything is fair
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@yoursilverlining: +1!! I said the same thing to DH when I was pregnant; I expected equal share in parenting which included nights, feedings, weekend help etc. DH does SO SO SO great with this. He changes all the diapers on the weekends and plays with DS nearly exclusively. He will get up with DS some mornings as well so that I can sleep in. He is truly wonderful!!
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@Coco Bee: Touche! DH had the same talk but it hasn't really played out that way. He's great in every other area with DD and DS, just not anything the invades his sleep. Sigh. lol
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DH feeds him his morning bottles during the week because I leave for work, or am already working(I work at home 3 days a week) before DS is up. He also feeds him his last bottle of the day(if it comes after he gets home from work). So during the day I feed him. Every other Thursday DH has off and has DS for tr whole day so he feeds him then. On the weekends we usually alternate.
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DH gives LO a bottle once a day and if we take a bottle out with us... which we rarely do. I nurse her every other time. She doesn't wake up at night.
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@Mrsdaredevil: @runsyellowlites: I am right there with you!
She is EBF snd has had maybe 4 bottles ever. DH works veey long hours and I am a SAHM/WAHM so I handle every night feeding she has ever had. DH doesn't generally wake up. Luckily, she still sleeps in the PnP next to our bed, or next to me in bed when DH leaves for work. I never expected it to be any different, though.
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@pastemoo: oh, your LO is up to the same tricks my LO use to pull at dinner! I swear, she would save up her crying all day and then the moment we sat down to dinner...bam! Lol now that she does bath/bottle/bed, we actually get to eat together (although I usually hold her while I eat as I'm the"bed" until she falls super deeply asleep).
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totally jealous (jealous is an understatement) of you ladies whose babies sleep through the night at a young age!
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She refuses to take a bottle, so it isall me all the time:(
That is awful!
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