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There will be 3-4 monitoring appointments during the stim phase, and one prior to starting. I can't imagine how that would fit into the work schedule if it's 2 hours away. However, if it's come to IVF, I can't imagine waiting until next summer. If I could take the days off for the appointment or somehow manage it, I'd probably start now since I'm impatient. But if the work schedule is not flexible, it seems like it would have to wait.

Not to be the Devil's advocate here...but with unexplained, there is always a chance that you might unexpectedly become pregnant (even after 1-2years of trying). And I'm a believer in staying relaxed as much as possible during a cycle (I don't know to what extent, or if, this influences your outcome, but it sure does feel better). So, if work is crazy right now and the travel is an additional burden, it makes more sense to me to wait until summer, when you're more likely to have a (relatively) positive experience.

I didn't vote because that's a hard one... We're in the middle of IUI cycle #3 and if this doesn't work we will have another consultation to discuss where to go from here (I presume IVF if we're ready versus continuing IUI). If it comes to it, I'm torn between getting it done this year while the deductible is satisfied OR waiting until the new year with a new deductible but more flex spending money available. Good luck with whatever you decide and definitely let us/me know!!

@winter_wonder: That's a tough decision. I had 5 monitoring appointments before retrieval (stimmed for 9 days) and I couldn't imagine trying to go somewhere 2 hours away from my office. I understand not wanting to wait but like another pp suggested what about over Christmas break? Do you have a flex/planning period during the day?

Satellite/remote monitoing can be pretty awesome! And timing things over a shorter break may work perfectly...but also can be tricky, because you can never know ahead of time exactly how long you will stim. (BTW-- my situation is/was similar to yours, as I'm unexplained with a crazy job and an educator husband...and my clinic is really far away. ) It's a tough decision. Best of luck, whatever you decide!

Like others have said, I would find out more from the clinic to see what an actual week with three or more appointments would look like with your work schedule and talk it over openly with DH.

If it were ME, I would put it off. I did put it off for a year, but because of insurance purposes (current insurance wouldn't cover it, but I knew that DH's next job's insurance would). For me, I didn't want to make the baby my #1 priority until I was pregnant. I had done that in the past with my IUIs, and it made me miserable. I handled it badly, and I'm glad I had a chance to breathe and wait to do IVF in the summer.