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If he says no I'd start picking him up and say "ok, you don't want kisses. Let's go to the car!" And just leave it there and not give her a chance to do this.. and hope it takes. I follow a similar thought about not forcing touches. I have the hardest time with my side of the family.

My parents do this and I’m so nonconfrontational that I can’t even bring it up directly with them. Instead I say to LO “ok, you don’t want to give a kiss, how would you like to say goodbye instead” and he generally offers up a high five or wave which appeases everyone.

I would bring it up with the teacher directly, but not in the moment where she's trying to touch your kid. I would say something like on a Monday morning during drop off:

"Hey, so my husband and I have decided that we are going to start teaching X body autonomy and body safety - you know, with how crazy the world is getting these days with all the sexual harassment and assaults. We want to teach him to ask permission to touch people and to have his permission before touching him. So we are enforcing a new rule on everyone he interacts with that they not touch him without asking and not force him to hug or kiss or anything. I know you're super loving towards him, and I really appreciate that you care about him so much, but its just very important to me that he learns how to keep himself safe and learn to trust himself when he feels uncomfortable. Anyways, I just wanted to let you know so we can all be on the same page at home and at school."

There's literally no teacher I can think of worth their salt who would be offended by something like that.

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I don't think you should need to do that, but since I really try to be on good terms with my kids teacher/s I would try to see if she catches on first and if she still kept doing it then I'd bring it up directly. I have gotten to be a little picky choosing schools and met the teachers for both years of my daughter's preschool before enrolling her, and just have been lucky with her first elementary teacher.. Since I've been lucky with teachers, so I try not to ruffle feathers. But I know that may be the minority here...

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: just two- preschool and now elementary. No daycare, I stayed home. 6 classes in 14 months would bug me. My daughter's preschool had pretty low turnover with the lead teachers and for assistant teachers I would say lower than average turnover too. The lead teachers that were there when we toured stayed for at least three years in the same classroom that I know of. And I know at least a couple had been there for years before that. I think I'm ECE that's pretty good. But that's not infant/toddler so it's a bit different. Hopefully your Lo does well in the backup place and can sort of start over around preschool age.

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: This is really weird and it would really bother me if any teacher was kissing a student with or with out permission. In my opinion that’s totally inappropriate. I’ve worked in several day cares and preschools and I would never consider kissing one of the kids! Even just on the cheek or whatever. So weird.

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: ah I see. It's not so much the rooms but I thought you meant six new sets of teachers which would be too many for me! Glad they seemed to understand!