I work and R is home with a nanny. He's 17m and they go to activities, playgrounds, library, etc. I also take the kids to music class and the YMCA so I can work out. When I do that, both of my boys go to the kid care together (older brother T is 4). T sort of watches over R and makes sure he's happy etc. It's very sweet.

I take T to swimming lessons there once a week. And I leave R at kid care because holding him in my lab at the edge of a pool doesn't work so well. He wants to get down and IN! The problem is that R is hysterical when I drop him at the kid care and then continues to be hysterical until the kid care worker finally has to bring him to me halfway through the lesson.

I've tried the Janet Lansbury approach at drop off. I'm fine with it if he cries a little at drop off. But what can I do to help him not be so upset during the 30 minute swim lesson so that he STAYS there and isn't hysterical!?