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@periwinklebee: @bhbee: Thanks, ladies! I'm starting to see that it's more about catching a "good egg" having amazing timing.
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@bhbee: Thanks
I would *love* to feel movement - I have an anterior placenta so know I just have to be patient! So far we've only told our immediate families, I think it will feel more real once I'm "out of the closet", so to say, but something about loss makes you feel a bit vulnerable telling the world, plus I've just been procrastinating on telling work. It's still a bit weird to talk to my parents, who just assume this is going to happen (in my mind I'm always caveating it, "if things work out"...), but I think it's probably good for me. Anatomy scan is in a little less than three weeks and I'm trying not to get too nervous....
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@Coral: With this pregnancy we only hit o-1, because my husband had to travel for a family emergency beforehand, and then I was away for work. This is probably in almost a year of trying the least we dtd during the fertile window. For me there's been absolutely zero correlation. I also ran a marathon during the TWW, which I thought for sure would be bad for conceiving but apparently not. I think for a lot of us, it's really a numbers game. Just keep at it month after month until finally - for no apparent reason - a good egg manages to get correctly fertilized by just one sperm...
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Hi, hoping it is ok for me to jump in here. We aren't currently TTC, because we just found out we are pregnant. But that is the hardest part for me- staying pregnant.
My history: MC at 8 weeks, MC at 5 weeks, Full Term pregnancy resulting in a son, Blighted Ovum with D&C at 8 weeks, then full term pregnancy resulting in another son.
I got a positive last Thursday night, confirmed Friday morning. Even got a positive on a digital ClearBlue.
Monday afternoon my bHCG was only 39.2, so now I'm freaking out the pregnancy isn't viable. That seems so low for being 3.5 days after getting a positive test.
Someone- talk me off the ledge. I know that it doesn't really tell me much until I get the results back on Wed of the change in bHCG.
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@Dr. Pepper: well I think you're right to be cautious if you're about 13dpo but you really won't know until you see that next beta. For me, it hasn't worked out well. For others, they are just slow starters. Fx you are in the latter camp!! I know that wait is awful. If you need us on this board we are here!
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@bhbee: Well, I just found my distraction. My 4 year old fell down 2-3 stairs today and smacked his foot on the baby gate. I told him he was fine and sent him to preschool. They just called and told me to come get him and take him in. I guess he won't walk on it now and it is really swollen and bruised. Ugh.
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@Dr. Pepper: sorry
hope it's just a bruise!
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@Dr. Pepper: I'm sorry about your son and hope it's just a bruise.
I had something similar happen with a first beta and it ended up not being viable. However, there are various people who've been on the POAS threads who had hcg start out low and everything turn out great - I think being on the loss thread, it selects people who've been on the unlucky side of this stuff.
tomorrow.
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@periwinklebee: Thanks!
You are absolutely right. We BD the day after a positive OPK (I'm guessing O day) and ended up with our son.
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@Dr. Pepper: how are you doing? Any news on the beta? Fx for you
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@bhbee: Thanks for thinking of me. They never called me yesterday with my results. I requested my medical records online this morning and my level was 76.3- which is a doubling time of 49 hours (thank you betabase calculator). So that is good. It still seems low to me seeing as I got a positive on a clearblue digital last Friday (5 days before the blood level of 76.3) and those tests have a sensitivity of 50.
Clearly, I like to overthink things. Now, I will just wait for my doctor to call me and tell the the next plan.
@periwinklebee: We took him in for Xrays and they couldn't find anything broken. They think he sprained his foot (not ankle- like the middle of his foot). He wouldn't walk on it all day on Tuesday, but he was back to almost normal yesterday.
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@Dr. Pepper: hoping it keeps doubling! I think most tests are way more sensitive than they say so maybe you just caught it low to start. Lots of sticky dust!
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@Dr. Pepper: Looking around, I've seen some sites say that clearblue's sensitivity is actually 25 mIU. If you're doubling, I'd try not to worry!
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@Dr. Pepper: Fantastic news that it's doubling!!! And I'm so glad to hear your son is doing better.
@Coral: Fingers crossed that this is your month
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@periwinklebee: Thank you!
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I've been doing SO well at not thinking about TTC or getting my hopes up and then I find myself daydreaming about how great an April due date would be. Ugh. I would rather be indifferent.
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@Coral: I hear ya ... I'm back to cd1 today and I found myself thinking about having twins while doing my hair today. And I wouldn't even wish for that! I also keep thinking about how a baby on this next cycle would be due right around my bday.
Now I'm hoping my delaying plan worked and I won't ovulate until my usual time. I will be back with dh on cd13 and I really never get opk+ before cd15 so as long as I stay close to usual it should be ok.
I honestly spent WAY too much time thinking about ttc over my bcp break and I'm more sure than ever that I'm going to make an appt for an iud at the end of October if nothing works before then.
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@Coral: My angel's due date was in April of this year so I'm actually not sure how I'd feel about another April due date, but part of me is also hoping that July is my month again like it was last year. I was so happy with an April due date last year.
@bhbee: I secretly want twins, but mainly just so I won't have to go through ttc again since this has been a long, miserable journey so far. I never thought I'd lose a baby halfway through my pregnancy and also didn't think it would take this long to get pregnant again after the loss. I'm so sick of anything related to ttc and I know I'll be dreading it when the time comes for us to try for our 2nd.
I'm 29 now and want to be done with having kids by the time I'm 34/35, so if I'm lucky enough to have a baby next year when I'm 30 I'll probably start trying for #2 when I'm 31. I just want this phase of my life over with, which is kind of sad and depressing since in reality it should be a happy time.
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@PeaceLily: hugs
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@PeaceLily:
I also don't want to think about going through the TTC process a second time. I try not to get ahead of myself - I would be so, so happy to have one healthy child and I know many people don't have that. But I know if I get back on birth control after having a baby, I will be dreading coming off of it to TTC again. I kind of don't want to go back on birth control and just let what happens happen. But then of course I'd be that person who ended up pregnant with triplets at 3 months postpartum 
@bhbee: I'm sorry the break was still stressful. Hoping that you only have a few more weeks left to endure TTC before everything works out and you're done with it forever
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Is there some sort of stigma about only having one child? I get that it’s the “social standard" to have two but jeez.. All of the comments. “I’d have to have two kids or I may as well not have any at all.” “Why would you want just one, they will be so lonely!” Ugh.
I just don’t understand why there is such a dark cloud over having an only child.ETA: Sorry to go on a rant here. I know this is a TTC board but I don't know who else would understand.
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@bhbee: That would be amazing if it was easier next time around. It took my parents 2 years to get pregnant with my older sister and a couple of months for me. It's so crazy how that happens! I think setting up a timeline is a great idea. I really hope you end up pregnant before October and won't have to worry about the iud, but I know putting myself on a timeline helps as well.
When we went back into ttc this year we decided we'd give it 6 months before making an appt with the RE, which is what we ended up doing. Totally sucks we got to this point though.
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@periwinklebee: It's really overwhelming when you think to the future too much. I'm so guilty of stressing out over things that may or may not end up happening.
@mrskansas: I don't think there's anything wrong with having 1 child. Plenty of people have 1 and I had multiple friends growing up that were only children. I'd be thrilled to have 1 healthy kid!
I grew up with a sister and we are very close so I think I always just assumed I'd have two, but who knows how I'll feeI if I'm ever lucky enough to get one. I never understood the comment about only children being lonely. I don't know anyone without siblings who felt like they were lonely growing up.
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@mrskansas: my husband is an only and he thought it was great! I had to really convince him to want any more than one because he had a great experience
but yeah people do talk about it ... I think sometimes people just always need something unfortunate to say ... because then when people have more than 2 they also get comments about that! Ugh. @PeaceLily: I am such a structured person by nature the timeline gives me a little feeling of control. Which is an illusion but it helps.
ETA I hope you get good news this month and all the re does is run some betas for you!
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@mrskansas:
I know it's a TTC board but I feel like it's also more than that, I've gotten so much support from you guys. Always happy to hear a rant. And on that note, I can't believe some said “I’d have to have two kids or I may as well not have any at all.” Well, actually I can believe it, but people should honestly think about what they're saying. My husband is an only child and loved it. He's closer in many ways to his cousins that are close in age than I am to my brother. I always get ragey when people say something like "I'd never have an only child because only children are spoiled/maladjusted/whatever". Like, the awesomest people that I know are only children.
I'd *ideally* like to have more than one, but not because I think kids need siblings but because I want to because I think it would be fun. Completely selfish reason, I'll admit, but obviously I'd work hard to be a good mom. But if that's not in the cards, which is very, very possible given my age and our TTC experience with #1, I'd be totally happy with one and am not going to worry at all that somehow being an only child be scarring. People who think otherwise can keep it to themselves.
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@bhbee: Thank you!
I think you're right that people always feel like they need to say something or judge others for some reason. I find that super frustrating. There's really no need to give an opinion if you weren't explicitly asked for your opinion.
My sister's two daughters are 5 years apart and she got judged/rude comments due to their age gap. Like come on, let people live their lives however it works for them.
My cousin is an only child and she loved it as well!
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10 dpo today and I just feel really "off" but I know (logically) it's far too early for symptoms and I definitely don't have my hopes up.
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@Coral: fx for you!!
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@Coral: I'd test if I were you but I have zero willpower.
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Today would have been my due date for my second loss.
I'm handling it much better than I did with my May due date, thank goodness.. that was a rough day.
I still can't believe the position that I'm currently in though. If you would have told me this 9 months ago I would have said you were crazy. I am still happy with my decision to get an IUD and now I'm just hoping my 2+ weeks of bleeding stops soon!
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@mrskansas: hugs
glad you are feeling ok. It's never easy. Just curious what iud do you have? I'm already mentally going there ...
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@Coral: Good luck! Feeling off is a good sign.
@mrskansas: I'm sorry.
Due dates are so hard. For a little while leading up to it I cried anytime I talked about my due date.I have a hard time accepting the position I'm in too. I figured I'd get pregnant within 6 months of trying and have a healthy baby like everyone else I know. It just sucks that everything went according to plan until I reached 17 weeks and found out about the possible issue. I was totally blindsided and the fact that it's taking so long to conceive again just makes everything worse.
I'm glad you're happy with your decision to get an IUD! It must be so nice to not feel the emotional drain of ttc.
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@bhbee: I have the Paragard (copper) IUD. I had it for 5 years before I got pregnant with my daughter and then for six months after she was born. No complains at all!
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@mrskansas: I'm sorry
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@Coral: sooooo close. Will you test before AF is due?
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@bhbee: @mrskansas: @PeaceLily: Thanks for the well wishes!
@mrskansas: So happy to hear you are at peace! @periwinklebee: I always say I am going to wait for AF, don't, and then hold out hope until AF does show, so I think I will just simplify things and wait.
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Hey y'all. I think I might be hanging out here more. I started bleeding tonight, so I'm pretty sure we will be losing this pregnancy also (our 4th loss).
All I've ever wanted is a march baby. I share a march birthday with my mom and I wanted that with my child too. We will now have lost a Feb baby and 3 March babies. Luckily I have 2 fabulous June baby boys. But I'm just broken
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@Dr. Pepper: I'm so sorry, hon.
Be kind to yourself and we are here for you.
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@Dr. Pepper: I'm so sorry
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@Dr. Pepper: I'm so, so sorry. I know healthy children are a blessing but agree with @bhbee: that it doesn't take away the pain of loss. Last night I was feeling so sad for some reason missing the little boy we lost, even though I'm been incredibly blessed with a so far healthy pregnancy now. Thinking of you and sending my best wishes for healing.
@PeaceLily: I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this. I can't even imagine how difficult it must have been to have been told that everything was ok and then to have been completely blindsided later in the pregnancy. Sending so many good wishes and hopes that the RE will have some useful advice.
@Coral: You have more discipline than I do.
Crossing all my fingers and toes for a 
I would *love* to feel movement - I have an anterior placenta so know I just have to be patient! So far we've only told our immediate families, I think it will feel more real once I'm "out of the closet", so to say, but something about loss makes you feel a bit vulnerable telling the world, plus I've just been procrastinating on telling work. It's still a bit weird to talk to my parents, who just assume this is going to happen (in my mind I'm always caveating it, "if things work out"...), but I think it's probably good for me. Anatomy scan is in a little less than three weeks and I'm trying not to get too nervous....
hope it's just a bruise!
but yeah people do talk about it ... I think sometimes people just always need something unfortunate to say ... because then when people have more than 2 they also get comments about that! Ugh. 
Due dates are so hard. For a little while leading up to it I cried anytime I talked about my due date.
Crossing all my fingers and toes for a 
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