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@Adira: Glad to hear it's only one teacher and one issue! How soon can X switch up to the next class?
This teacher sounds like a major pain!
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Ugh! So frustrating for you!
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@RubyCali: Unfortunately, he'll be in this room for a while. This room has both the Infant 1s (new babies who are non-mobile) and the Infant 2s (older babies/toddlers who are crawling and learning to walk). Xander's still an Infant 1, so he'll be there for a while.
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At the very least, leave a message for the director and have her call her asap.
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@Adira: You should report this to the director. Her behavior is 100% unacceptable.
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@Smurfette: +1 to your post!
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@MsLipGloss: Yeah, I'm going to talk to her today!! I'm nervous, but I'll do it!!
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@Adira: Don't be nervous. I have talked to many a daycare director. If they are good, they should appreciate the fact you are bringing your concern to them.
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@littlek: Yeah, I think I'm just nervous because I've never done it before! And I have no idea how she'll respond! The only person I've talked to about my concerns is the teacher doing it and she seems dismissive and defensive, so I'm worried the director will be like that, but I obviously don't really know!
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Good luck! I had to talk to teachers and directors about pacifiers!
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@littlek: I agree. A good director would appreciate a parent bringing it to their attention. This information will give the director important information about this caregiver (maybe she has history of similar behavior, and if she doesn't, this puts it on the director's radar.
@Adira: You are advocating for your child. This isn't a pissing/ego contest, it is about the caregiver taking liberties and substituting her judgment for yours and disobeying your express instructions. Absent an emergency, that should never happen.
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@MsLipGloss: Yes, I know you're right!! And Xander deserves a mom who will stick up for him!! I just need to stop being such a wimp and do it! I will talk to her tonight!!!
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@Adira: Definitely give the director the benefit of the doubt here and approach the situation with a positive goal/outlook in mind. Just calmly explain what happened, that you asked the caregiver not to do it again, and then explain what happened when you arrived yesterday. If the Director (and others) are made aware of your direction it will likely force the caregiver to comply to the extent that now everyone else knows that Xander is not allowed to have solids (if that makes sense . . . sort of like peer pressure to do the right thing).
And as always, DOCUMENT this.
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@Adira: FWIW, I would be nervous too. Any kind of confrontation is intimidating! BUT, you will be so glad you did, AND, it will be that much easier the next time around (in any kind of situation) to calmly but firmly stand your ground.
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@MsLipGloss: My plan is to first ask what their policy is regarding solids for the infants and then to let them know what my preference is (that I don't want him eating solids at daycare until I give the go-ahead) and that I've told the daycare teacher that on multiple occasions and have "caught" her giving him food anyway, against my wishes. I'm also going to tell her my concerns (what if he had an allergy to something she fed him and I didn't even know he had it since she's doing it behind my back and only tells me about when I "catch" her doing it - I have no idea if she's been doing it more often or giving him more things than the things I catch her feeding him).
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@Adira: I would call and make sure the director is going to be there tonight. Also, make sure you have dates as to when you have caught the teacher giving him puffs.
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@Smurfette: So I was just going to take your suggestion and call and see if the director is going to be there tonight, but what should I do if she's not?
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@Adira: Set up an appointment for when she will be there.
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@Smurfette: Okay! I'm scared, but here I go calling!
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@Adira: you got this!
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@Adira: You can do it!
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@Adira: Unfortunately, you can't worry about teacher retaliation when it comes to your LO - especially with health and safety issues. It is awful though to think your kid will get less care because you are concerned and stand up for them.
We had to speak to the director at our daycare about the teachers smoking and not washing hands. The daycare teachers started ignoring us after that. And then we had to speak to the director about why there was an unlocked screen door in the infant room. While they just wanted air circulation it was a blatant disregard for the safety of the entire room. The teachers definitely give us attitude now. I'm fine with attitude for myself, just treat my daughter with respect and care. Luckily, we only have 1.5 more months at that daycare!!!!
Good luck and you are doing the right thing!!
This teacher sounds like a major pain!
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