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@regberadaisy: yes and then we unexpectedly got pregnant and the discussion ended.. Lol

Kind of? My second is just 4 months old and fairly easy, so in that sense I'm pretty open to trying for our third when #2 is a year old. Because of my age (34) I just want it done sooner rather than later, but our current house is too small for three and I'm so not ready to consider moving.

No waffling here. Two and THROUGH!

Nope, no waffling here! I definitely want more, it's just the timing that is up in the air. For some reason the timing with a third is just more complicated than it was with the other two and I'm realizing that's because this one is going to be planned whereas the other two were more surprises. It's almost easier to adjust to a surprise than to plan for the best possible time for a planned baby!!

DH did more waffling than I did. I was gung-ho and ready to try as soon as my second was 9 months old. But she was an easy baby. LO 3 is 13 months and there is no way I would ever consider trying for another!

When I talk to people with grown kids, I've heard people regret not having a third when they wanted to. Obviously no one with three is going to say "I wish I only had two" though haha

I'm loving being a mama of 3. Feel like our family is pretty complete now. Life is full and busy and fun.

No down time, but that's not a negative for me.

If you do add a 3rd, I would consider spacing #2 and 3 by 3 years. We depend on the girls being mature in a lot of cases.

We are the same. In theory we want 3 but (1) I dread being pregnant again (I am already high risk due to preterm labor and IUGR....doing that at advanced maternal age? yay!) (2) life is pure chaos, my husband works 80 hours a week and I can't imagine how a 3rd will change that (3) I just started working again..... (4) I can see the light at the end of the baby tunnel. I have enjoyed the baby phase so much more with R but it's so limiting in general....

I'm 35. T is 3 years, 3 months and R isn't quite 9 months. I think we want to decide about our 3rd when R is 1, primarily because of my age and frankly wanting to move on to the next phase of life. In my heart, I want 3 though.

Now, I'm rambling too : )

We definitely want 3, but LO2 is only 4 weeks. The part I waffle on is the spacing. These 2 are 20 months apart and it's hard! But, it took over a year to get pregnant the first time and only one month the second time, so you never know about that aspect. Good thing we have awhile to think about it!

DS is 2.5 years and DD is 8 months. DH and I agreed to think about the possibility of having a third after DD turns 1 yo. But I think we are only considering a third because DD has been such an angel baby compared to our spirited DS. We'll see what happens when DD turns 1!

@Mrs. Jacks: don't say that! I'm only going to have 12 months between 2&3.

Yes! I was certain I wanted 3 but my second was such a clingy baby and mama's boy that I would feel guilty having another! He is my baby and that might just be it. I feel like if it were a possibility for us to have 4 we would go for it but more and more I am thinking of the downsides of having 3. Does that make any sense? At the same time though I still really want another. I think we'll decide once and for all next year.

Absolutely! Our timing is almost exactly the same as yours, both age spacing and TTC timing. I was rabid with baby fever for #2 when my first was this age, I have zero desire for a third at the moment.

I am MAJORLY waffling (perfect description too, exactly what my husband and I are calling it) about a third. Three was our original plan, but now I'm really not sure as far as finances, car size, house size, and my sanity. I think my husband still wants that third, based on how much he makes fun of my waffling. We agreed to reevaluate again between 2-2.5 and see where things are at in a year-ish. E is quite the handful, we joke that he is trying to permanently stay the youngest.

Regardless, like @Mrs. Jacks: we are going for a 3-ish year spacing if we go for a third, and while that time is dwindling faster than I like already, I'm weaning so I get a much longer break than I did last time (was still nursing when I got pregnant again). Deep down, I think I still see one more in our future.

#2 is only 8 weeks old but I am already thinking about it. I think I need to wait until hormones stabilize and see how hard life is with 2.

@regberadaisy: We are pretty sure we are done but open to an "oops" if that makes any sense. I dont' think it would be practically ideal for us to have a third (we dont have the savings, we like our lifestyle, 2 are easy, etc) but would certainly be open to it if it happened.

It took us over a year to TTC the second. But I dont think I will factor that into our spacing. When/If we are ready for a third, we would try for a third but not until we are ready.

Ours are spaced 3 years now and like @Mrs. Jacks: said, its nice because we can rely on her to be pretty responsible. But she's still young enough to want to play with her sibling (she doesn't mind playing "blocks" but is mature enough to understand he's a baby when he knocks her tower over).

@HLK208: my mom (kind of?) did. And I'm the 3rd child When we told her we were pregnant with #3 she says that three is so hard and she sometimes wished she'd stopped at two.
I truly don't think she meant it that she didn't want ME. I think it was more of, it was really difficult being a single mom to three, and two would have been much easier.

@BandDmommy: I has no idea you were pregnant again!! Congrats!

@skipra: you second son is just like mine. A big mama's boy and very clingy! I wonder how a 3rd would affect him.

@Mrs. Jacks: thank you for saying this! I've always wanted three but I'm not gonna like, our second has been a bit rough. He doesn't sleep well at night at all and they are two extremely active boys 17 mo apart. The thought of a third just sounds like it would put me over the edge. Not in a "haha life is crazy!" way, but in a "check me into a hospital" way. I see a lot of benefits to stopping now. I could go back to work, life could calm down a notch, we could have money. But I think when the kids are older I would really regret only having two. I think it puts a lot of pressure on one sibling relationship, and a lot of comparison. Plus it just seems a little lonely and small - just not the family I picture in the future. And I like the idea of having one more kid to love. Maybe when #2 is older I will feel ready, but right now I just.can.not.