Or at what age will/did you let your child host a sleepover? I was around 5 or 6 when I started sleeping over a friend's house. I think 6+ sounds fine to me. I would probably require a few play dates to have happened first though.
Or at what age will/did you let your child host a sleepover? I was around 5 or 6 when I started sleeping over a friend's house. I think 6+ sounds fine to me. I would probably require a few play dates to have happened first though.
cantaloupe / 6751 posts
To me, it's not so much about age as it is how well I know the parents and child. There are several other toddlers around my LO's age whose parents I'm very close to. In that case, I would allow her to sleep over at their home as young as age 5 or 6.
I would not allow her to sleepover at anyone's house if I didn't know the parents, no matter how old she is.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
J just had a sleepover at his cousins house and he isn't quite 2 I think it's more up to the child. My little sister couldn't bear to leave our mom until she was closer to 7, whereas I was fine leaving home as early 2-3. Whenever J asks to sleepover at a friends, I'll be fine with it.
But it would have to be with a family I trust.
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
I was not allowed to sleep over unless it was a sleepover party. I am not sure yet, honestly. I don't really see the point of just a random sleepover.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts
We have really close friends with LO's our kiddo's age and if they are 3/4 and want to sleepover at each others houses I am ok with that. A new friend from preschool who we are not great friends with? No.
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
Probably never.
They can have sleepovers at our house though (at 6+ yrs old?)
pomelo / 5469 posts
a year? Just kidding I would guess around 6-7, depends what she's like around that age and obviously the other parents.
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
It will depend completely on my relationship with the parents. For instance our friends' 18 month old will be "sleeping over" at our house in a few weeks but that's because we're babysitting her... not because the girls need extra play time. At this point we have a few friends who I know really really well and trust completely to keep my child for the night. So M can "sleep over" at their houses at any point. But in general she will not be allowed to have sleep overs if I don't have a close relationship with the parents of her friend.
pineapple / 12234 posts
It also depends on my relationship with the parents. If we were close enough that I was comfortable, maybe 6, if my child was okay with it.
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
Not sure. I was not allowed to do this growing up so it's foreign to me.
pineapple / 12802 posts
It really depends on how well i know the parents. I was having sleepovers with my best friend at 6/7 so I would totally allow it at that age if I knew the parents. If I am really close with someone and LO wants to stay over at their house earlier (a friend I consider an "aunt") I would allow that also. I spent a lot of time having sleep overs with my aunts/uncles and I loved every second of it.
pineapple / 12053 posts
@chopsuey: why never?
i slept over at friend's house in elementary school. these were people my family had known for years and they also slept over at my house. so i would say in the 8 year old range?
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
I think I was 8 or 9 and I would be ok with the same age.
apricot / 469 posts
Probably around 7 if not family. We would need to know the family well of course!
I didn't do it growing up (until I was like 14 or 15) as it just wasn't common in our area but I think that it's a really healthy thing for kids to bond their friendships and get some independent experience.
kiwi / 613 posts
Sleepover parties were very common when I was a kid..Most (girl) birthday parties I went to from ages 6+ were "slumber parties". My parents always knew my friends' parents very well, as that was a requirement for me to be allowed over anywhere. DH and I are the same way. We always get to know our LO's friends' parents very well, and that way we can feel comfortable allowing her to sleepover.
watermelon / 14206 posts
If DS had a super close friend and I knew the family well I'd let him now at 6. It just hasn't come up yet.
I'd have to really trust the family though which would be rare. As others said...I don't see the point though. One day is enough.
pomelo / 5720 posts
I think I started sleeping over my bff's house when I was 8 maybe? She and I stayed at each others houses pretty often and she and I still talk about all the fun we had. I will let LO go when he's ready, so long as it is a family/child we are very familiar with.
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
@birdofafeather: I have major trust issues.. Know too many ppl who've been molested as kids.
nectarine / 2690 posts
I started sleeping over at friends houses in 2nd grade I believe, so when I have a child I'd probably allow the same. I probably spent more time staying at my best friends house from elementary through high school than I did at my own house! I consider her family my second family. I even went on their family vacations with them! So, sleepovers are totally normal to me.
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
@chopsuey: Same here. Growing up, I could never go to sleep overs, but could host them. I know my kids are going to hate me for it, but I see how bad some kids are with sneaking out at night and getting into TONS of trouble all without the parents knowing. Or if the parents know they're going out, they seem so non-chalant about it! =\
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
WE are close with several people who I see her being friends with, I have no issue with sleepovers at that age (since we know them well.) We will be in a small community/school so I will most likely know all the parents, I will know who I'm okay with her having a sleepover at and who I think we will stick wtih having over at our house.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
I think that is depends on the child, their parents, and most of all my child. Can they handle being away? Would they know to call us if something is wrong?
pomegranate / 3580 posts
I think I'll let LOs start around 8 or 9 but I'd definitely want to know the parents really well. Earlier with family, but I don't think that really counts.
I started sleeping at a close friend's around 7 and then sleepovers became really big around age 8-9. I think in middle school my best friend was at my house at least once a week! Growing up sleep overs were really common.
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
my parents NEVER let me sleep over but friends slept over at our place all the time!
charlie already had his first sleepover with a 3 year old friend. i'd let him do it now with a really good friend so we could take a parentcation!
honeydew / 7586 posts
I was like 2 or 3 when I started having sleepovers with my best friend (a boy). My mom was close friends with his mom and we were inseparable. I think we had a sleepover most weekends.
If I knew the family well I would let B sleep over whenever he asked.
coconut / 8472 posts
I'll probably let him when he's old enough to ask for it. I imagine I'll be at least familiar with his friend and talk to the friend's mom first. I did tons of sleepovers growing up, both at my house and at friends' houses. Sometimes they were big slumber parties, sometimes just me and a friend, so I guess I never would've thought it being something I wouldn't allow.
coconut / 8681 posts
I'm not sure. It would depend on who it was. The family would have to be very close friends of ours and we'd have to trust them completely. Our best friends have a son who is 6 months older than DS and I think we'd be fine with him spending the night at their house. I honestly can't see myself trusting anyone other than them or one of our siblings.
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