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Diaper change first, then swaddle and feed.

He is so young, he probably still has days and nights confused. I think it will get better as he gets a little older no matter what you do.

But for now I second (third?) doing as little as possible when he wakes up. Don't unswaddle or change diaper unless he feels really wet or poopy. Put on a thick layer of diaper cream before bed. What type of swaddle are you using? Could you change the diaper without unswaddling? Some types unzip from the bottom for this purpose. And turn on as few lights, make as little noise as possible when you get up with him. Naps during the day should be where it's lighter and noisier (if possible- that worked for my second baby, but I know from very early on my first needed quiet for any naps).

But mostly remember it feels like forever but he is still super young.

We had to change this one's diaper in the middle of the night so I understand. He pooped every time he fed, and had a terrible diaper rash from going so often. We couldn't leave it on him. But it would always wake him up and wake ups took at least an hour in the middle of the night. Once we got the diaper rash under control and he stopped pooping every time he ate, things got a lot easier and he could just eat and go right back to sleep. But that took a few weeks.

My DD is 2.5 weeks and doesn't like sleeping any time of day! At night, we only change diapers for poop, use a zip swaddle, and really loud white noise. I'm also bed sharing with her, which was totally NOT part of my plan, but she would not settle in her bassinet and I needed some sleep! The past few nights I've been getting her to sleep in the bassinet for an hour before she wakes up and comes into bed with me - it's a work in progress! Sending hugs!

We just picked him up, kept him swaddled fed him (but we were bottle feeding), burped as needed, held him upright on my shoulder for 10 mins or so (major spitter) and put him back down.

One thing that was life changing...my pediatrician advised me that you don't need to change wet diapers at night. Only poop. So if you aren't doing as many changes maybe that means less becoming fully "awake" at night for baby? Don't need to unswaddle, change, etc.
Our newborn was HYSTERICAL at every diaper change until maybe 6 weeks, so not having to go through that in the middle of the night was a huge, huge improvement.

2-way zipper swaddle, infant gown instead of feeted pjs, very absorbent diaper (we do cough but I've read that you can go one size up to help for nighttime).

Feed one side, burp/hold for 1-2 min, diaper change, feed the other side to sleep, put down in RnP VERY gently.

Around 4 weeks I noticed he wasn't pooping in the middle of the night as much anymore, and his first chunk of sleep was becoming the longest. his first feed was about halfway through our night time. So now I only change him for that feeding, halfway through the night. Other than that, I feed, burp after 15 minutes, feed some more until he sleeps, then put him down.

@fussygal: Do you swaddle for naps?!
DD hated the swaddle and I think by 1-2 weeks we ended up ditching it

@fussygal: so he is in the crib at night but sleeps ok in the RnP for naps? Maybe pm try putting him in the RnP at night too? I know it's one more transition but to me getting some sleep for both of us is priority number one!