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He was so great and so caring.

...the bad.....the jerk kept asking me questions during contractions. Honey can't talk right now, birthing a baby.

The best was he stayed clam the whole time, and was very caring and made me laugh.
The worst was the constant texting (we were only in L&D for a couple hours but the first hour or so he never put the fricken phone down!) and not being able to fill out the paperwork on his own while I was in hard labor, I had to take it from him, and fighting me on the middle name during contractions.

But all in all he was awesome!

Hubs really stepped up when I was in labor! He talked to my family on the phone, he hung out with me while I was in the tub, he held my legs up while I was pushing.

The worst part was probably that he almost feinted when I got my episiotomy and I was all "What's wrong with him?? I'm the one in labor!"

DH was awesome. I have not one single complaint about anything he did. He held one of my legs and the nurse held the other. Could not have done it without him right there encouraging me. And that nurse, God bless her, was amazing.

He was a good birth partner. He was very encouraging.

I guess the worst thing he did was use his phone for a bit while I was going through transition in the birthing tub. I screamed at him.

The best - Was just there for me in the way I needed!

The worst - Took ages to park the car. Haha

He was awesome. He reminded me of everything I would learn from prenatal yoga, encouraging, listened to every order I barked at and most importantly, encouraged me to push even though I knew I was going to poop and he watched me do it and his facial expression never changed. That's love
Worst thing he did - invited his parents in to say hi! Also ate crackers. I was starving.

Best: held on to me and looked me in the eyes during every contraction...he has the dominant color so I knew I would be staring into our little baby's eyes in no time (and sure enough all 3 have bright blue eyes!)

Worst: didn't say enough! He was just silently terrified. I needed to hear, "good job", "you've got this", "way to go" haha!

Best: I had kind of a momentarily scary hemorrhage immediately following delivery (well scary for everyone else, I had no idea what was going on except that my doctor and nurses suddenly started moving faster, but I lost a lot of blood very fast). E was being weighed and getting the APGAR and such, and my ILs were over with him taking photos, but D refused to leave my side. I even told him to go make sure that E was okay, but he wouldn't budge. He told me later that he had seen all the blood I lost, and thought for a moment that I might not make it, and his need to stay with me and hold my hand just in case trumped his desire to meet his son.

Worst: Like @HLK208: , he didn't talk much, and I could have used more vocal support. Also, I was sent home the first time we went to the hospital (my contractions stopped while I was being monitored, and my OB thought baby wasn't ready yet). They picked up even before we left the hospital, but I was sure I was just in early labor. We were home for 2 hours, during which time I back-labored at home alone....while D slept. At the time, I very much wanted to be completely alone, though...

Best: He waited on me hand and foot and did everything I needed him or wanted him to do. He remembered my birth plan and what I wanted and stuck by it more than I did. When I told him I was thinking about accepting the epidural so I could sleep he said "Are you sure? You're doing so well!"

Worst: not even worst really. He wasn't overly involved. No massaging or coaching but I wasn't in much pain even before the epi and I didn't progress far at all before opting for my c section.

Best: Was so involved in keeping me comfortable during my induced-labor. I had back labor so he spent at least 4 hours putting counter-pressure on my back/hips, he pulled my underwear up/down (with a pad in it) when I needed to go to the bathroom. He kept strong for me when I had a breakdown when I hadn't made any progress in 2 hours.

Bad: He spent quite a while on his phone (he wanted to keep his parents and my bff in the loop) I hated when he left to go eat.

Best: Held my leg and encouraged me the entire time..."you got this, I can see her head, you're so close" etc.

Worst: Complained that he was tired and hungry (I labored overnight). Oh hellllllls no!

Best: was involved during the entire process, wanted to stay while I got my epidural (but wasn't allowed to), tried to coach me, etc.

Worst: my epidural wore off during my pushing marathon and I felt everything. I was in a lot of pain, the pitocin was turned up, and I could barely take a breath between contractions. He thought it was hilarious that I was screaming for a c-section and that I couldn't do it anymore. He kept reminding me of those moments for a few months PP until I reamed him out.

Best: Was super helpful and encouraging throughout, carried giant birthing ball through the streets of NYC in the middle of the night when we were sent to walk around so I could progress more.

Worst: As I was getting my epidural, he was sitting in front of me and said, "I think I'm gonna pass out." The doctors had to tend to him while I was getting a needle in my spine.

Best: was excited when I woke him up and told him contractions were 5-1-1, we could start getting ready to make the long drive to the hospital. I ended up riding with my parents while he followed in his car (we needed two cars and he was the only one who could drive stick). He called to check on me every 5 min and kept trying to figure out a faster way through the rush hour traffic (and he did, thankfully)! He was really good applying counter pressure when I asked him to.

Worst:I labored alone all night because he needed to sleep (Not his fault, my choice because he is not someone who can function without sleep and I wanted hin to be awake for the birth more than the labor)...still, it was a rough, lonely night. I got an epidural after 32 hrs of labor (with zero sleep) and he refused to shut off the tv in the room so I could try to sleep...because HE couldn't sleep without it (nevermind that he'd gotten 8-9 hrs the night before and I'd gotten zero and was about to push a baby out...grrrr). If you can't tell, I'm still pissed about it. Then, when they gave me the go ahead to push, he tried to leave the hospital to buy eye drops and coffee...even when I told him to stay. When my parents arrived, they intercepted him leaving and my mom told him there was no way he was going anywhere. He was great while I pushed, but I am also sort of bitter that he never once said good job, I'm proud of you, or anything like that after she was born. He has since apologized for not letting me sleep and trying to run to the store, but I'm still kinda pissed!

@birdofafeather: stupid stuff like "did you know you're having another contraction? Wow did that one hurt? How are you feeling?" I don't know just dumb stuff and I couldn't handle responding to him politely.

My husband was great. My labor was shockingly fast so we were both at a loss and all the stuff we had read in the books went out the window because we anticipated a slow labor. He was just there for me and did what he could and never left my side. Thankfully we had great nurses and they took charge.

The only thing he did that annoyed me was when we were pulling up to the ER bay (it was a Sunday so that's where we had to check in) he started to pull into a parking spot and I yelled at him "PULL AROUND TO THE FRONT!!" I was not going to walk any farther than I had to and he was parking like it was a normal situation! All in all, very minor--that was the only time I yelled at him.

He was amazing. I had the home birth I hoped for. Best part: he acted as my doula. We took classes to prep, and he used the tools he learned to keep me company. He thought he'd suck, but he gave me the strength I needed. I don't have a single bad thing to say.

My hubby was amazing. He held the monitors on place while I thrashed about, he watched the monitor and counted me into and out of contractions - he was incredible.

The best - he broke me out of hospital mid induction (it took 4 days to really get going) and whisked me home for a nap because i couldn't sleep on the hospital ward!

The worst - he kept moaning about how long it was taking for labour to get going and how it was a waste of his 4-wks off work!