Hellobee Boards

@LCTBQE: Haha, thank you! Ugh I'm sorry it's so cold by you! That's one reason I love CA

@LCTBQE: it is bitter! We just checked into our hotel in Mass. and the guy at the desk said the wind chill is supposed to be -20 or -30

For any ladies like me, who've had trouble sleeping, I can't sing the praises of Nighty Night Tea enough! I bought it at Whole Foods under the recommendation of my midwife. I have no issue falling asleep, but don't really stay asleep. But two nights with this tea, I've slept great!

@pregnantbee: I swear every week I hear of another acquaintance jumping the NYC ship to move to LA. it's the great migration seasonal; only happens in the winter.

@mrschickpea: ha, I don't know if "cooler" quite captures the misery of single digits plus windchill but I think these few days are going to be the worst of it. I really miss Texas weather, go have an iced tea in the shade for me! and PS how was your visit with your birth mom? hope it went okay

@OldpuebloJenn: great tip, thank you. I think insomnia is going to be a problem for me on and off throughout and don't want to rely on Unisom the entire time. I'll give it a try!

@LCTBQE: you know, it was ok! But it usually is when it's just a visit and not my whole life lol. She is taking it pretty hard that we are Team Green and I have no idea why. She wants us to send her an envelope with the sex in it and I was like, well why? What difference will it make if you know now or then? We don't need any clothes since we have quite a bit of gender neutral clothing since it's what we prefer anyways. There's always time after the baby is born to get something "gendered" if it's THAT important. It was just kind of weird how she kept harping on it!

@OldpuebloJenn: Ok cool. I'll have to track this down

@T.H.O.U.: Hooray! That's so fun! Happy Valentine's Day to you!

@pregnantbee: i took off my rings this week too. What a lovely surprise! Enjoy those massages!
@t.h.o.u.: how fun to spread the news!

@pregnantbee: @OldpuebloJenn: curious how bad you think it would have gotten if you're just left your rings on and they'd gotten stuck until postpartum. My rings are tight to begin with (I had them sized that way because I hate hate hate anything to be loose/wiggly) and I've noticed they've gotten a bit tighter in the past month even though I've only gained a couple of pounds so far (12.5w). Am I going to regret it if I leave them on and they get stuck? I love them and don't want to take them off unless it's a very bad idea not to. What's everyone else going to do about this?

@pregnantbee: PS bummer about work but NICE present!! my husband and I both forgot it was Valentine's Day until my mom emailed me about it. I would totally take a massage though

@mrschickpea: that's great that her visit was easy and drama-free--sounds like you've figured out how to handle her, although I *totally* understand that dread (maybe too strong of a word? anxiety?) leading up to it. about the team green thing, I have to admit that I was (am) annoyed that my sibling is TG for #1 and now #2 because dammmit I want to know! but I've managed to keep it to complaining privately to our parents about my 100% selfish impatience sounds like you're not entertaining giving in to the nonsense though, good for you!

Omg. The pregnancy hormones are real, y'all. My husband just drove a half hour because I was craving Chipotle and he came home with my burrito and it was full of sour cream. I'm allergic to dairy products - to the point where I have anaphylaxis! Cue the tears and pregnant hormonal drama. He swears he told them no sour cream and I believe him...but I was so disappointed. And I told him I would eat something else but he is in the car yet again driving to get me a burrito. Ughhhhh I did not handle that disappointment well.

@LCTBQE: I gained 50 lbs with both pregnancies. As long as you are eating relatively healthy I don't buy into their being an ideal range as I lost all of the weight relatively quickly both times. I just ate until I was satisfied. In fact, with my second I had only gained 20 lbs by 30 weeks and figured that I would maybe get to 35 lbs total -- nope. It all snuck on there yet again!! Note I did have bigger babies though at 9lbs each. I do, however, know a few women who have allowed themselves to view pregnancy as an opportunity to drink a Blizzard a day or eat fast food all the time - and those women not only gained a ton but it has never come off easily, either.

@LCTBQE: I think your OB sounds wise. It really is more about nutrition than number of calories or the number on the scale! I also know a woman who was fairly overweight (and she would say that herself, I'm not being rude here) and she didn't monitor her eating beyond the GD protocol. As it turned out, she only gained like 5lbs but had a very healthy baby and weighed less than she had when she got pregnant when she walked out of the hospital! Our bodies are amazing to know just what to do when given optimal nutrition.

@LCTBQE: eat healthy foods, when you are hungry. That was my approach. Like I said, I gained 35 pounds. I lost it all by six months post partum, I think. I ate a lot during the first trimester, because I was so tired and starving constantly. I did start having a glass of milk every day, and increased my meat intake intentionally.

I haven't gained any weight yet this time- lost a pound, actually. It doesn't surprise me. Eating feels annoying and I'm not that interested in most foods. It's hard to pay attention to my hunger cues when I'm distracted by a toddler.

@coopsmama: Oh no! I'd probably cry too!

@coopsmama: Sounds like a keeper. DH also takes my cravings very seriously

@LCTBQE: another thing to think about would be the need to remove them if you need a c section. Even though my rings fit until 35 weeks or so I knew I needed to take them off prior to the hospital (and sometimes the fluids in the hospital make you swell even more). So it was just better at that point to just take them off safely so they didn't get completely stuck.

@mrschickpea: I'm so glad your birth mom visit went ok. And yea, she has no right to know the sex, especially before you!

@LCTBQE: I do think a lot of it is your body and genetics. I only gained around 22 lbs and worked really really hard to get there (like meals loaded with butter and cream by the end!) But I'm petite and was a good weight pre pregnancy, and my doc was never concerned. I did gain that weight very steadily, just on the low end of the average. I expect to gain more this time naturally because my body is more used to it and has been there so to speak. But I've also been eating like a horse and way more indulgent than I was in early pregnancy with my first. Not to sound weird, but I'd love to gain a little more this time and not field the "you're so tiny!" comments.

@T.H.O.U.: yay for sharing the news! We told a few friends today, but I'm so nervous with my nt scan on Tues. I don't want to have to untell!

@Silva: I love your approach-- only in the past few days have I been pushing myself back towards my low carb, veggie/fat/meat-heavy eating habits. unfortunately I ate a lot of crap (crackers and pasta and stuff) in the first tri, but out of necessity. I know what you mean about disinterest--food aversions ruled my life the past few weeks. cannot *imagine* going through this with a toddler

@pregnantbee: @T.H.O.U.: yep, I thought there might be a worst-case ring scenario, and these sound like it. I am going to start by taking off my slightly-tighter wedding band tonight and will certainly graduate to removing my diamond ring soon enough. thanks for the reality check, ladies! also forgot they always get tighter in the summer--when I am not an extra 35 lbs of blood, water, fetus, and bloat.

@ShootingStar: @T.H.O.U.: @Pirouette: thank you for affirming that the way to go is being responsible but otherwise letting my body do what it needs to do. going into this expecting to be totally average, but I will take a large chill pill if I fall on either side. you all sound super level-headed, which I so so appreciate.

@Pirouette: ha, I'll bet you were so cute! has your body started showing already since you're on #2? and ALL my fingers crossed for a smooth, easy, boring NT scan for you. I forgot, are you doing the Harmony/Panorama, or just the NT? (and if you're doing the blood test are you getting your gender this week?!) Sorry guys, I am practically salivating to find out what everyone is having Except TG-er's who I totally totally respect (really!).

@coopsmama: I'll just put the last few weeks of eating in the same box that I keep ill-advised undergrad tequila benders and stupid mid-twenties flings in it was alllll a dream...