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@jaguar: just saw this thread pop up, so will start replying here.

1. What is your story? I went for my routine pap on Oct, 28th, and asked my OB to check up on my ovaries (PCOS) as I had some pain on the left hand side. I mentioned to him that i was mid-cycle and maybe ovulating, to which he said there was no egg happening and perhaps my cycle was anovulatory. He sent me for a 21 day test, which showed I HAD ovulated, and a few weeks later I got (5) positive pregnancy tests. I booked a appt with OB for 8 weeks, and when he did the US he noted that the baby was only measuring 6 weeks along. He thought I had ovulated much later in my cycle, but the size difference along with a subchorionic haematoma set off alarm bells. 3 hcg tests later, levels had dropped down and he booked me in for a D&C (2 days ago)

2. How do you feel today? crappy. sore bloated tummy. bleeding. achey all over. emotionally, I can feel my hormones crashing and finding myself teary/anxious.

3. If you have any "next steps" what are they? recover from the curette, try and rest up and relax over the next 4 weeks that hubby is off work, and think about TTC at some point next year. Morning sickness was bad, so its putting me off a little at the moment.

4. What coping strategies have worked the best for you? Trying to distract my mind with endless repetition of random songs in my mind... then I remember why I'm acutally hurting physically, have a bit of an anxiety cry, give my daughter a super cuddle.

1. What is your story? Wanted to start TTC in March 2014 but a snafu with insurance pushed us to wait until August 2014. BFP in Oct, blighted ovum discovered / miscarriage started at mid 6 weeks. The MC was incomplete and so I had to take misoprotol Nov 8-10, about 3 weeks after the MC process had started.

2. How do you feel today? Eh. Happy about holiday break and getting to rest and reconnect with DH. But frustrated that AF hasn't come back yet and it is day 45 of the cycle started by misoprotol, so I am creeping up on 7 weeks here.

3. If you have any "next steps" what are they? Not sure. Thinking of calling my obgyn about the lack of AF but I don't want to dredge up memories of the MC by going to her office or talking to her. I am switching to a new doctor in late January.

4. What coping strategies have worked the best for you? Talking about my baby and miscarriage openly with close friends and family, asking for prayer, praying, and reminding myself that eventually, it will work out.

1. What is your story? Got a BFP in July, had our first appointment at 7w5d and saw our little bean and the heartbeat. Went back for our 12 week appointment and had another US, no heartbeat and we were told our baby stopped growing around 8 weeks. Had a D&C a few days later.

After the D&C, the doctor called to tell us the pathology report came back as a molar pregnancy but we would need to wait a few weeks for a definite answer. It was confirmed as a partial molar pregnancy about 4 weeks later. Now we are in the waiting game- Dr says 6 months from my last weekly negative HCG test, but I got a second opinion from a Dr who specializes in Molar Pregnancy and the possible disease than can occur from it and he suggests 3 months wait.

2. How do you feel today? Most days I feel ok. Sometimes I have sad days. My SIL just had her twins at the beginning of December and the constant facebook posts of pictures and statuses from my FIL about how perfect life is now that they are here are very hard to read. (My IL's know about our baby and also know of the molar pregnancy so I think that's why it hurts so much) But I'm trying to remind myself that this is a happy time and I should be happy for them. (Which deep down I really am!)

3. If you have any "next steps" what are they? I just had my first monthly blood draw (should get the results today) If I follow the specialists advice and as long as my HCG level stays at 0, we have 2 more monthly blood draws before we can TTC again. Right now we are looking at mid February for my last draw

4. What coping strategies have worked the best for you? Mostly understanding that its ok to be sad and frustrated but also trying as hard as I can to look for positive things. Also all of you wonderful ladies, I don't know what I would have done if I didn't have you to talk me through the hard times

I feel much worse today than I have the last 4 days. I just rang my OB's office, i've had severe cramping for the last 12 hours, painkillers aren't even touching the pain. Passed a fairly big clot 20 mins ago, but bleeding hasn't increased. Just toe curling, back acheing cramping pain Waiting to hear back from him in the next hour to see if I need to go back in.

@HappyBluebird: haha my dog is my baby too. She literally sleeps next to my hip all night.

@FannyMae: Hope you're feeling better soon and hope that time with your family goes smoothly. There's nothing wrong with getting some quiet alone time

I'm heading to the hospital in a few hours to meet my OB, I rang this morning and asked to see him as the pain was intense all night. Hopefully can get some answers, and then I will head over to dinner at my in laws for Xmas Eve.

Do you ladies have any big plans for the holidays?

@FannyMae: I'm sorry to hear about all the pain, I hope your doctor is able to help you out as soon as possible! it's so hard to emotionally heal while your body still isn't physically healed.

We are painting pottery, going to the movies, and going to midnight mass on Christmas Eve; then skyping with my family Christmas morning and then seeing more movies Our goal this break is to relax as much as possible.

1. What is your story?
We were TTC for 6 months before I finally got a faint BFP on Thanksgiving. I went to see my GP to confirm about a week later, and that Thursday I had some moderate cramping and began brown spotting. The following week I went in to check it out and was told my HCG numbers weren't doubling, and on Dec 15 I miscarried just shy of 6 weeks.

2. How do you feel today?
Meh. It's Christmas Eve. We were planning on telling our families today and tomorrow, and now I'm just doing my best to hold it together. I felt like I went through my grieving before I actually miscarried, but I got emotional again last night. I'm just hopping I can hold it together until we're back home again.

3. If you have any "next steps" what are they? Getting through Christmas. My GP recomended taking 2 cycles off, but I think I'll only take one. I just want my sticky bean.

4. What coping strategies have worked the best for you?
Trying to focus on other things for now, trying to keep myself busy.

@auggiefrog: I'm so sorry you are joining us, but this is a great support group. It was hard for me when we got to the point of when we would have been telling extended family and my young siblings. I hope you are able to have some peace during the holidays and we are here for whatever you might need- vent/cry/talk, etc.

@HappyBluebird: thanks! I feel like if I can just make it through these next few days I'll be okay. Sounds like you have a pretty busy Christmas as well, good luck!

So I just had a bit of an overreaction probably stemming from our loss and I was hoping you guys would understand....

My ILs are all coming out here in a couple days. My SIL said they wanted to go to the zoo, the science center, outdoor parks, and Sedona. So I go ahead and research the times and prices of all those things, put it together, and write out a tentative calendar based on factors like the zoo is cheaper on Wednesday, the weather is better for Sedona on this day, etc. All of the places were picked with kids in mind, and 5 out of the 7 locations were ones they explicitly said they wanted to go to.

We send them this idea calendar based on their stated wishes. Not more than 5 minutes later, my BIL is calling my DH, repeating over and over how they "don't want to be pressured into doing any of these things" and "you need to realize that kids need naps, kids get bored easily and quickly, vacations change when you have kids" etc. etc.

Um, I AM considerate and realize kids needs naps, and I was thoughtful enough to research all these kid-friendly places THEY said THEY wanted to go to, and give them all the necessary info they needed to make decisions..... and their implication that we're inconsiderate to the needs of children, that we couldn't possibly realize these things because we're not parents..... oh gosh, just knife to the gut, why don't you?

I realize I'm probably overly sensitive, but... couldn't they just be sensitive and not say things like that?? So I spoke up respectfully on speakerphone and asked him to not imply that we don't understand kids, because it's hurtful but that I know it's not his intention .... blah blah. Of course he was all like "Well, that's not how I meant it" but.... it IS what he said.

Boo.

Also the entire family knows about our loss and the protracted, confusing aspects of it and our visit to the emergency room....

@DesertDreams88: I'm sorry they said that after you went through all the trouble and they were insensitive. I struggle with this too. People in our family say some things that really hurt and I take it like they meant to hurt me. It's a work in progress but I do agree with jaguar that it was insensitive. Hopefully they are more sensitive when they are with you

@jaguar: we're getting ready to start Christmas day here, wishing you and your family lots of love and miracles!

@DesertDreams88: After reading your post, I wish you were my aunt and had organized all that for me!! You're amazing that you went to the effort to put all the info together for them so they could make decisions about where to take their kids. I think its not just insensitive, but just plain rude that they made it out like they were being forced. I hope you're coping ok if they are staying with you now.... I'd be all like, "go to the f*n park yourselves!"

I'm now 38 hours post taking the misoprostol.... had mild cramping last night, still nothing. Blood flow is now completely zero. nothing at all. arrrrrrgh

@DesertDreams88: good thing they're not staying with you, gives you both some air to breathe and maybe they might realise it was insensitive.

I'm not sure what the dosage was, he just said insert the 2 tablets at night and expect bleeding within 48 hours. He gave me tramadol for the pain and some antibiotics. About 4 hours after I inserted them I had one small clot (nothing compared to the giant ones I passed the day before) and then I had minimal bleeding (like dripping while on the toilet). He said that there were a few clots in there on the ultrasound, so unless they loosened and passed as blood they might still be in there. Scared outta my mind of another curette

@Crystal: so sorry you have to have surgery. One of the hardest things for me is having bad, jealous or sad reactions to family and friends pregnancy announcements. It didn't seem to be getting any easier. I'm sending out positive thoughts and prayers for your surgery