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@lovelyseeker: I'm sorry for your losses. Have you had a D&C for any of them, did the doctors do any testing? There are tests for Repeated Pregnancy Loss that may shed some insight into why you have had 3 losses

@lovelyseeker: I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm not sure what my answer would be. I know my mom had 5 miscarriages and a ectopic pregnancy before she conceived my younger brother. Back then, she didn't have the option of seeing an RE or anything like that. I think they kept trying because they knew she could get pregnant (they already had me). I know it was really hard on her at the time... took about 4.5 years. But, they really wanted another, so the losses didn't stop them from trying again.

I think after 2 miscarriages I would seek medical help if I wasn't already.

I'm so sorry

I think you might know this, but I've had two, before I had my daughter. I was just recently thinking about what would happen when we eventually try for number 2, whether I would have to go through that again, or maybe whether or not I should be prepared for that happening. If I were you, I would ask for testing. We had some before LO, but fortunately, we didn't get too far before achieving a sticky pregnancy. If we have another loss, we will go back for more tests, and I suspect we will start with a clotting disorder panel. I don't think we'd stop trying, though.

Hoping for answers for you. As far as I'm concerned, one loss is too many for anyone to go through

@lovelyseeker: Has your DH had a sperm analysis? I'm just mentioning this because a lot of times we assume its something wrong with us. In our case, we got pregnant (after 2 miscarriages) just as we were getting diagnostic testing done at a fertility center. While I did have some issues that we got treated, we were surprised to find that it was DH who actually had some serious issues with his sperm. So its very possible our first 2 miscarriages were related to his sperm as much as my own issues. Had I not gotten randomly pregnant this time around, the clinic probably would have wanted us to go through IVF just due to his sperm issues.

One of my cousins had 8 miscarriages before she had her healthy firstborn and went on to have 3 healthy kids total. This was about 25 years ago though so I am not sure of what medical options she had. Sorry about your losses.

@lovelyseeker: I'd have a sperm analysis done on him just to eliminate some factors from the equation, you know? It may not end up being anything, but I'd hate for you to wonder if something was wrong with you when its something else.

I have thought about this a lot too. I have a fairly strong family history of issues with getting/staying pregnant. My mom's mom had for sure one, but i think two miscarriages before having three kids. My dad's mom had three kids, then something like six miscarriages before she was able to carry to term on my dad. It took my parents several years and meds to get pregnant. All that to say, I think now with all the tests and technology we have now, I would be all about the testing to see why this was contuning to happen. And like some others said, it isnt always an issue with mom alone. But I do also think if you start to persue more invaise tests and interventions, you and your husband should seriously talk, before you get more into the thick of it, what you and he are willing to do to have another biological child. And it might surprise you! We have been ntnp for a year with nada, so we are starting to research further into more options. I always kind of thought it we had issues, I would do the charting and temps and such, possibly meds like clomid and blood moniotoring but if it wasnt happening, I have always been okay with having a family that wasnt genetically ours. Turns out, that is pretty important to DH and he is much more interested in getting into the more in depth meathods of having a baby that is genetically ours than I realized.