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@abbydabbydoodlebug - I'm so sorry for your loss. Your story is pretty similar to mine (low heartbeat at 6 weeks, gone by 8). I ended up having a d&c and I was happy with that decision. It was quick and essentially painless. My dr wanted me to wait two cycles before ttc again, which has been the hardest part. But, I'd still have a d&c again if given the choice. I'd be happy to answer and questions you have.
Speaking of waiting until the second cycle, I'm wondering of what I'm going through is normal and I'm hoping some of you ladies can help me out. I got my first post-d&c period 6 weeks after the prodecure. It lasted for two weeks - ugh! I think I ovulated one week after it stopped. I expected to get my period next Monday, which would have been three weeks after my period ended, but guess what made a surprise appearance this morning?! I only ovulated a week ago, do this is all totally off. Did anyone else experience something like this? We're going to start trying again now, and I am just curious as to others' experienced.
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@DesertDreams88: thanks for the good wishes! I'll keep all of you updated! And, glad to hear I'm not the only one with wonky cycles!
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@poppygirl15: So only 2 weeks between bleeds? That is definitely odd. After your loss, did your doctor do an ultrasound to confirm everything was gone?
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@DesertDreams88: hi - no, he didn't. He didn't even tell me to come back in for a check up. I think I'll give him a call now and request an appt
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Hello! I just got off the phone with my primary care physician and she said that it could take 3-6 months for my body to regulate itself after a miscarriage and that I shouldn't even try until after my third cycle (my OB/GYN had said second). I am happy it sounds my irregulars cycles are likely "normal," but could cry at the thought of possibly not being able to get pregnant any time soon due to irregular periods that could last for months. Ugh! It just adds insult to injury, doesn't it? Also, about to lose my mind when people ask about when I'm going to have a second!
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@poppygirl15: I haven't had a d&c, but the waiting to try again after the miscarriage was the worst. It definitely took a few cycles to regulate after my natural mc, so I would think it'd be similar after a d&c. I hope it regulates quickly!
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@abbydabbydoodlebug: I am so sorry for your loss. For what it's worth my d&c was actually a really positive experience. I was terrified to miscarry at home.
@poppygirl15: Hope your periods sort themselves out soon. Are you taking any vitamins or anything to help? Mine seems to be ok after my d&c. I am about to ovulate and it's weird to think we could be trying but aren't.
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That's how I felt too. I don't think I could've dealt well with it at home. So I had my d&c today and am feeling OK so far. It was done at a Catholic hospital where they do burials for all the miscarriages, which gives me some closure and makes me feel better about it all. My husband got teary a couple times talking about the burial though. Sweet man. But I'm glad it's all over and we can move on now. I'll be able to start trying again after I get my next cycle.
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@abbydabbydoodlebug: I'm glad you don't have to wait very long before trying again.
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You guys, I am having a total freak out this morning. I have to have bloods and a scan for my IVF cycle this morning and my new clinic organised them for me. well, it's in the building of my old OB - where I found out that Noah had died. All I can remember is my heart being ripped out of my chest, and sitting out the front waiting for Jason to come and collect me, because I was too distraught to drive myself home. All these pregnant women are here, and I'm still not pregnant, and paying out the eyeballs for this IVF stuff .. It all just feels really hopeless today.
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@jaguar: I'm so sorry to hear of the rough spot you're in. Grief compounded by infertility and physical reminders is just too much. Maybe next time you talk with your new IVF clinic, you can ask for bloods and scans to be done at a different facility?
also, glad the ball is finally rolling on your next IVF cycle!! Best of 
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@jaguar: You can do it! These reminders hurt but you are strong! Every bit gets you closer to a babe in arms.
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@jaguar: that's a lot all at once! Any chance of getting the labs done elsewhere? Can DH go with you?
I should find out tomorrow or Friday if I'm going to lose our current baby. I am so stressed out and scared.
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@aprilfool & @crystal - good to know I'm not alone and this might not be abnormal. I'm taking prenatal vitamins and I'm going to see a new dr. tomorrow just to make sure everything's on the up & up. My second cycle is now technically over, so I'm ready to start trying again.
@jaguar - I am so sorry you had to go through that. I had to go back to my OB/GYNs to schedule my D&C and they sat me outside a room where they were listening to a baby's heartbeat on the ultrasound - this was right after I'd miscarried having first been told my baby's heartbeat was low. I totally lost it. So, I can only imagine how you felt. Hugs!! Let us know how it went!
@crystal - Hope you get good news this week!!
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@Crystal: Thinking of you and wishing for good news!
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@poppygirl15: I HATE going to my OBGYNs office for just this reason. When I had my IF appts, i felt like all the pregnant ladies and babies were mocking me.
@AprilFool: @poppygirl15: thank you.
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Hello! I met with a new dr. this morning and it went great. I really liked him. He's going to have me come in on day 23 of my cycle to check my progesterone levels to make sure that I ovulated, but his exam showed everything looked a-okay and he said I should go ahead and start trying!
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@abbydabbydoodlebug: Am glad your d& went well. That's lovely about the burial.
@poppygirl15: That's good news!
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@Crystal: I didn't know you were pregnant - yikes, sorry chick. Have been avoiding most of the boards, so must have slipped through. What's going on??
*hugs*
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@jaguar: newly. 6 weeks 2 days. Had some very bright red spotting at 5 weeks 6 days, and have been spotting old blood on and off since. Dr brought me for at appt the next day (6 weeks exactly). They found three sacs, but no fetal poles or heartbeats. I had betas drawn 2 days ago, and again today. I hope to get the results tomorrow. I'm so scared. This is exactly what happened the last time I miscarried.
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@Crystal: 3!!! Omg. I am keeping everything crossed for a positive outcome this time around. Let us know, hon. x
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@jaguar: thank you. It's so hard to keep Hoping and praying and wishing after not only dealing with IF, but possible repeat losses. It's not like I get pregnant easily or quickly, it's a time consuming and expensive process. This pregnancy and my previous one are over 1.5 years apart... With continuous trying the entire time. I know you have also been through so much and can understand what I'm saying.
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Got my results back. Progesterone was 15.7 at 6 weeks exactly.
First beta was 3516. Second beta 48 hours later was 4648. (doubling time of every 108 hours)
Dr says he is feeling pessimistic about it. I have another hCg test Monday and a second ultrasound Tuesday. He seems convinced I'll miscarry...
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@Crystal: ugh, no.
that is seriously crappy news. I'm so sorry.
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@abbydabbydoodlebug: I don't even know what to think. I have to believe there is a fighting chance if he is sending me back for more bloodwork and ultrasound instead of just calling it, but how much hope do I hold out? I hate this waiting game so much, and every day I'm told it will just be more and more waiting.
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@Crystal: I really really hate that you're going through all of this. Waiting is the worst thing ever. I hope that the Dr's feelings are wrong and it'll pull through for you! Try to keep busy this weekend to keep your mind occupied!
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@abbydabbydoodlebug: thank you so much.
️ I can't figure out what to do- take it easy so my body can focus on taking care of whatever it needs, giving me way to much time to think, or be extremely busy and end up overdoing it? Ugh.
Thank you so much, again, for listening and being sympathetic. I know you are still recovering from your D&C, I am so sorry you are going through that right now. How are you and DH holding up?
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@Crystal: Hey, it's what we're all here for, right? *hugs* I'd find some fun relaxing activities that'd keep me out of the house mostly and nap. Always nap. And ice cream.
Thanks for asking. We're doing surprisingly well. We're, of course, really sad about this baby nor making it, but we both feel that the baby is in heaven and we're at peace with that. I feel like I did a lot of grieving the week I found out there was no heartbeat. DH took a bit longer I think. I need to ask him how he's doing and check in with him emotionally. We've recently moved to a new house, so there's endless projects to do, which is helping with coping with the loss. I have a couple friends in real life who have had one or more, so it helps talking with them too.
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@abbydabbydoodlebug: I'm glad you have some good friends IRL to lean on, and you have good constructive projects to keep you busy. You sound like you are doing extremely well under the circumstances, you are incredibly strong.
I'll have to talk to DH about coming up with some activities like that, we definitely need to do something fun.
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@Crystal: Still on the up, so that's good. have they got you on any additional progesterone support? x
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@jaguar: no. Dr doesn't seem concerned about it, but if my next beta looks good I'll push for it.
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@Crystal: Yep, that's what I was going to suggest. You can't really have too much after all. Good luck for next beta!
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Hi ladies! Just wanted to check in and see how everyone is doing this lovely Monday? One of my good friends just found out she's havhng a second girl. I'm excited for her, and she had a miscarriage and rough start to this pregnancy so it's great that everything's going well, but getting the news still causes a twinge of sadness/jealousy for me. If I hadn't miscarried, I would have found out a couple weeks ago the sex of my baby. And, instead, we're back in the TTC stage. Sigh.
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@poppygirl15: It's the 'I shoulds' that make me sad. I was watching a quiz show on tv last night and someone announced their pregnancy for around the same due date as mine and all I can think is 'that should be me'.
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I wish that stuff went away.
Those reminders are really hard. And you can definitely be happy for other people and sad for yourself at the same time. Happysad. We are moving forward to a FET in the coming weeks (I hope) so feeling a bit more positive. At least we're doing something, you know?
Big hugs, girls. x
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@AprilFool & @jaguar - thanks ladies - good to know I'm not alone in these feelings. Good luck to you, jaguar, in the coming weeks!
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Hey @crystal....just thinking of you and hoping things went okay at the dr's today.
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Betas are still slow to rise, but we saw a heartbeat. We lost the two other babies in there, but feel so grateful for the single one we saw. We aren't out of the woods yet, but are trying to let the stress go. Its hard.
@poppygirl15: Thank you.
@AprilFool: @poppygirl15: @jaguar: I completely agree about reminders being hard. My cousin gave birth today. For months, I have been hearing about her baby being the first great grandchild and all of the plans they are making. I can't help but think my baby was the first great grandchild... S/He would have been a few weeks shy of 2... It still hurts some days.
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@Crystal: Heartbeat!
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@Crystal: sorry to hear you lost two, but yay for a heartbeat!! Hope those betas continue to rise!
keep us updated
also, glad the ball is finally rolling on your next IVF cycle!! Best of 
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