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Things are getting real here, it's been a tough few days. Two of my friends are pregnant with their third bubs - and their second babies were conceived and born in the time since we lost our pregnancies last year. I'm happy for them but feeling completely useless right now. Some days I'm doing really well & looking forward, some days just kick me right in the belly.
Sorry, just had to breathe. xx
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@jaguar: That's so hard. Some days feel like a baby boom and we just keep getting left behind. I try to remind myself that its a marathon, not a sprint and we'll get there in good time. However, as I'm nearing 36, I get more and more worried...
Hoping tomorrow brings you peace and contentment.
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@jaguar: Aww, I'm so sorry to hear that..,that is so very hard.
you are still a good friend even if you feel sad on the inside for yourself, you know? 
Try & take each day as it comes...
I can't remember the exact quote at all, but it was something along the lines of realising that even though your life looks different to how you imagine it, that is still okay. And I know that probably doesn't bring heaps of comfort right now...but I know for me, I have had lots of curveballs happen that have made some parts of my life pan out so differently than what I had hoped or even just imagined (career & life wise), But slowly am learning to enjoy the present and not freak out about the future.
But sorry again & hopefully the weekend cheers you up!
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@jaguar: What a hard day *hugs* Wish I had magic words.... or just some magic in general. Hope tomorrow is easier. xx
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@jaguar: I'm so sorry, friend. Some days are just like that, and I'm glad you tenjoyed on your moment to breathe.
@Nutella: that is a good, if hard, reminder. My life is amazing with my DH, but 10000% different than I thought it would be. I'm trying to be ok with the continual curveballs and have faith it will all work out as it's supposed to, but same days are just hard.
@Autumnmama79: it's definitely a marathon! I just hope we are all getting close to the finish line.
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Thanks guys. Back to my normal self today, for the most part. It's so hard to pick up & carry on, but that's what we do, isn't it?
I gave miss G extra cuddles and she's been incredible, so I'm reminding myself how lucky we are to have her. She (and hubby) is my shining light in the hard times. -
Hi all, hope everyone is doing ok.
Feels like forever until my next cycle starts, not even sure when that will be
Anyone else eating a lot more junk food at the moment?! I can't seem to go a day without wanting something sweet - need to break the cycle and get some healthier treats in the house.
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@Nutella: ugh, I'm doing this too. I'm mindlessly eating all the junk food in sight. I couldn't sleep and was a little hungry, so I just had 3am chips and salsa.
When did you all start to feel like a normal functioning person again? I feel so lost right now, and still so numb.
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@Crystal: aww, sorry to hear. maybe started feeling less awful after a week following d&c? I still am lying pretty low though.
I had a few social things lined up on the weekend & they all cancelled on us at the last minute. But I was actually quite happy (how bad is that!) so that I could just do house stuff & watch movies.
I heard from a few friends who have had losses in the past, they just checked in via text & it was nice to hear. Sometimes feel like everyone else has moved on & I'm still processing!
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@jaguar: hello! I was just wondering if you can recall roughly how long after your d&c you had to wait to receive the anaesthetist invoice in the mail?! I haven't received anything yet (now that I say that it's probably arriving this week
) but just thought you might know? I was quite $100-200 by the OB office at the time but they wouldn't really know as it's not their function. Maybe they were kind and just bulk-billed it! Dreaming! Still glad I went private though, whole thing was over so quickly which was pretty priceless. Thanks in advance!
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@Nutella: Mine actually DID get bulk billed, I was so happily surprised. I did, however, get pathology bills for the testing that was done on our bub, so that was a hard reminder.
I think it came a good 3-4 weeks post D&C though, from memory. Check your medicare statements, because that's how I found out our anesthetist had bulk billed!
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@jaguar: oh amazing!! That's a nice surprise indeed...thanks for the tip, I'll check that out!
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@Nutella: I hope you have it bulk billed too. The added costs are just injury to insult.
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Hi, I'm posting because I feel a little lost in this situation. After some spotting I had low hcg numbers Friday night. Was to,d to come in Saturday to rule out an eptopic, ultrasound revealed only a sac. I should be 7 weeks tomorrow, and I'm certain enough of my dates to know what this means. Doing a final hcg tomorrow to confirm. I need to talk more with my doctor, but am planning to request a miso. Prescription so that I can get it over with ASAP. I'm optimistic that things were so small in there, and my hcg is so low, that it will be straight forward with the miso. And I can avoid an invasive procedure.
Right now I'm just in limbo, waiting for something to start. I'm cramping and still spotting. I'd just like to get it over with.
I didn't feel especially bonded to this pregnancy, and was surprised by it because it happened on a month when my cycle was crazy and I thought there was no way. Right now I feel a little numb, and everything seems surreal.My doctor gave me the go ahead to try again after one cycle post mc.
What can I expect here? My friend recently took miso, in a different situation, and said she really only needed one day off (although she did take ibuprofen around the clock for three days). I'm self employed so I don't have paid time off, and given the hospital bills I just racked up I'd rather not miss much work (plus things have been slow lately, so I'm stressed about it already).
I could wait until next weekend, my daughter and I will be at my parents house (my husband is working). Or I could take Thursday off by rescheduling some clients, and send my daughter to daycare anyway. But I'd really want to be able to go in on Friday....but I really want to get this over with ASAP. I go to the bathroom constantly, hoping it will just start.
Right now I feel most upset about all our plans and timelines being messed up. And the age gap. I'm trying to get excited about other things, but it sort of feels like a lot of... "Blah" in my immediate future right now.
Anyway, sorry for the dump of information and random thoughts. I know one friend who had a m/c recently, and I'm waiting for her to call me back. In the mean time I feel a little at sea.
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@Silva: I'm so sorry you're going through this.
I don't have any advice on the miso, but I'm sure some people will chime in. For my losses, once I started the bulk of the bleeding, they were all fully done within that evening. It could take a while to get there, though. For my first, I started having slight spotting on a Sunday and then it wasn't till the following Friday when the real bleeding started with a big rush of blood (this continued on and off all evening until the loss was complete). I would definitely advise wearing a pad just in case things start naturally without the miso - once mine started they were pretty intense and fast (although luckily no pain.)
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@momazon: thanks. It would be great if it just started naturally in the next couple days or before I decide to take the miso. I did buy some pads, and I guess I will start wearing them when I leave the house. Another friend said the same thing- it can start fast and intensely, so I guess I should be prepared.
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I had so wanted to offer hope to this group with my pregnancy and was so thankful to reach viability...
My baby passed a couple days after my 24 week appointment. I've been in l&d since yesterday at 4. Four doses of miso and still waiting...
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@marym: I thought about you all night and remembered you when I woke up this morning. My heart just aches for you and your husband right now. I hope at least that your doctors and nurses are being wonderful to you and that the whole process is the best it can be, health-wise. I don't know how it will feel to see your little girl this early, this way, but I hope that in time you'll be able to treasure at least a couple memories. Are you at a Catholic hospital, by any chance?
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@Silva: I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a similar situation with my ob fearing ectopic, sending me to hospital, empty sac, etc.
For me, I started naturally, but it was incomplete. After light bleeding for 10-12 days and passing tissue; my ob had me take 400 or 600 mg misoprotol orally over a 3 day period. I needed all three days emotionally and physically. From my research, taking it vaginally or at a 600-800mg dose is more quickly effective but can hurt a lot more. My doc gave me percocet but I didn't really need it, pain wise. If I took it vaginally or at a higher dosage, though, I would have. I hope this info helps you make the right decision for you. If it were me, I'd be leaning towards waiting, doing it over the weekend at your parents house.
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@DesertDreams88: it's not a catholic hospital, but my doctors and most of the nurses have been catholic. Our intake nurse called my pastor as soon as the doctor couldn't find the heartbeat. They've been really great and have helped us plan for a burial. My mom is talking to our priest at home where I have a cometary plot (morbid much? Yes I'm 35 and have a plot...)
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@Silva: I'm so sorry
I wrote about my (good) experience here. Also was only measuring about 6 weeks (should have been 9 when I found out, 10 when I took the miso.
So sorry for your loss. http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-misoprostol-experience-for-missed-miscarriage
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@MaryM: I am so, so sorry for your loss.
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@MaryM: I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending thoughts of healing and hope your way.
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@MaryM: I'm so glad they've been kind during this awful time. I am so sorry you have to talk burial so soon, I hope the process brings you a bit of peace... Do you get to see your dr?
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Last nights dr was amazing. She lost s baby shortly after birth and "gets" it.
The one on call today isn't my favorite (she's the one I've seen for IF who can rush and be short), but in this circumstance, she's been great too
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@MaryM: I have been staying off of here since my 3rd loss earlier this year.. I just got back on and saw your news and am heartbroken for you. Have they found a cause for the loss?
Please let me know if you need to chat. Xo
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@mrs bunchy: they'll do some testing (if she's ever born!). And they took a ton of blood from me, I think mostly to check for blood or antibody disorders
But she was fine for the anatomy scan a couple days before she died
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@MaryM: that's terribly sad! I recall reading you had a large cyst- do they think that had anything to do with it? And was this your first late loss?
All of mine have been before 10 weeks, and no explanations were ever found.
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@MaryM: I hate that anyone has to go through this stuff, but it helps so much when they can understand and act with compassion.
They should be able to do genetic testing (if that's what you want). I hope your blood tests give you an idea.
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@mrs bunchy: yes. My first loss was around 9/10 weeks.
The doctor said the cyst shouldn't have caused it, but I wonder if low P caused the cyst and then the loss. The cyst didn't appear until I stopped P around 16 weeks
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@Silva: I am so sorry for your loss. I had a D&C but I remember desperately wishing that it would just start already. Our girls are the same age and when we first found out I was so upset about the age gap but I figure what will be will be. Not the most helpful sentiment right now I know.
@MaryM: I am so incredibly sad to see this update. Sorry for your loss and thinking of you
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@Silva: I'm so sorry about your loss. In na understand even if you weren't bonded, it's still an emotionally draining event.
I don't have any advice regarding the medication, as I went the d&e route for my 6.5w MC. They used suction and it was super quick & surprisingly painless afterwards (had general anaesthetic).
I did a lot of digging beforehand as I wasn't sure which option I wanted either, but can say that once I made up my mind and had a plan...I felt loads better. Limbo and uncertainty is horrible at that time.
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@MaryM: I am so heartbroken for you, I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I hope you have lots of loved ones to lean on for support. Sending healing thoughts.
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@MaryM: My heart just sank. I'm so utterly sad, and heartbroken, and just plain distraught for you. Sending you so much strength right now. I don't have a lot of faith anymore, but whatever I do have left, it's being sent your way.
@Silva: *hugs* I'm sorry. I took Miso BEFORE a d&c for a later missed m/c, so it's not quite the same, but I started cramping very shortly after taking the pills & it didn't take long to work. That said, I didn't experience the 'after' from it, as the d&c did the rest, but I hope your recovery is minimal.
I'm so sad to see these losses. Ladies, my heart is with you.
We've just hit the 2-year mark of trying again for #2, and our two miscarriages are the only thing we have to show for it. I'm still so sad that this is where we are, no closer to a baby.
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@jaguar: I'm sorry your journey has been so long and difficult. Do you have some friends in your area that you can rely on for support?
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Blood test confirmed it as non viable. I'm going in tomorrow when they open to pick up a script for the miso, nausea meds, and painkillers. My husband is taking the day off to take care of our daughter in case I'm really under the weather.
Our original plan was for me to wait until the weekend at my parents house, but I just can't stand to be "pregnant" a second longer, i want this all to be over with ASAP so I can move on.Hopefully it goes smoothly for me tomorrow!
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@Silva: sounds like a good plan. Will be nice to have your husband home so you can just try and look after yourself. Hope it all goes well.
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@Silva: im so sorry! I hope everything goes well. I posted my experience above.
I inserted the pills and lied down and watched tv all day. I took an Advil and felt ok. Hugs.
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@Mrs. Champagne: thanks for sharing your experience. I have a friend who had a positive experience with it as well, so Between the two of you I'm feeling reassured!
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@Silva: my friend had almost the exact same experience as me about two months before I did, as well. Good luck and sending you healing thoughts.
you are still a good friend even if you feel sad on the inside for yourself, you know? 
I gave miss G extra cuddles and she's been incredible, so I'm reminding myself how lucky we are to have her. She (and hubby) is my shining light in the hard times. 
) but just thought you might know? I was quite $100-200 by the OB office at the time but they wouldn't really know as it's not their function. Maybe they were kind and just bulk-billed it! Dreaming! Still glad I went private though, whole thing was over so quickly which was pretty priceless. Thanks in advance!
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