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A girl I work with just announced her pregnancy. She's due on my would've-been due date. She has a LO the same age as my LO. I feel so angry and jealous.
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@travellingbee: You're allowed to feel angry. I'm so sorry.
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@MaryM: Thank you. I don't like feeling jealous, but it's just too much to take in. Really? She had to be due on the exact same day? And she's already announcing it without a care in the world?! She's not even 8 weeks yet.
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Ladies, do you know how jealous you have made me with your beautiful crochet creations?? seriously, gorgeous! My mum is a crochet master, but I never learnt and I regret it massively. I'm gonna force her to make me that katniss cowl because its just so pretty.
@travellingbee: I feel ya
wish you could take people off your newsfeed in real life.
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@HappyBluebird: I stalk this thread (don't even know why, maybe so I feel like I know I won't be alone if something goes wrong again?), and I have to chime in to say how much I love that blanket! I've been thinking about making one, but I tried a granny square once that wasn't done as you go and I wound up quitting. That looks more like something I'd enjoy!
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@travellingbee: I also agree that you are allowed to be angry and also jealous. Feeling jealous is hard for me but I'm slowly learning that its ok to feel that way. I'm so sorry that she has the same due date
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@FannyMae: It's not too late to learn!! The Katniss cowl is coming along nicely. I thought I'd be finished tonight but I have more than I thought I did to finish! Once its done I'll share a picture!
@Torchwood: I quit a lot of blankets!! I think I get bored or just tired of doing the same thing. This one was the same thing over and over again but its worked in columns so I could see the pattern coming together and it kept me interested. Joining as you go is definitely better for me!
ETA: I think I might make another for myself but make it horizontal stripes instead of boxes. We'll see how it goes
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@HappyBluebird: I love the blanket! I wish I was that ambitious! I'm finishing up a three strand single crochet blanket for my friends baby, not nearly as pretty, but I liked how easy it was!
@travellingbee: I'm so sorry about this. That is so rough and unfair that other's get to keep their babies and announce their pregnancies and we do not.
AF showed up last night a lot sooner than I expected because I never even confirmed that I O'ed, or had any real temp rise. Most of my temps since I started temping again a week ago were at pre-O degrees. I just have to get through this cycle now and I can go back into TTC mode. I'm pretty excited about that.
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I just got a bill in the mail today, from a pathology company. My doctor ordered tests on the tissue from the curette, and I had no idea. Not upset because of costs or anything, just that it was unexpected that it popped up in my letterbox (was told when I rang his office that he always does testing). Kinda makes me feel like, do I want to know what went wrong? will he tell me the gender and then I feel worse because it makes it more "real". I dunno, in my head I keep thinking that it went wrong with the haematoma causing the miscarriage, but now I'm fearful that it might have been something else etc etc. arrghh. I have til mid feb before I see the OB so need to get over it a bit.
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@FannyMae: exact thing happened to me !! I had no idea. You would think they would tell you even if it was standard protocol!
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@TravellingBee: So sorry to hear about the coworker, that REALLY does suck. I hope you don't have to work too closely with her especially as you and your DH are still in the thick of emotional recovery / taking time off from TTC.
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@FannyMae: Mine did this too, although I did get notice. For me, it helped with processing the loss. We found out gender though - so be prepared if you don't want to know this. It also showed us what the abnormality was, which made me feel better that the loss was NOTHING to do with me, and just a bub that wasn't well. x
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@jaguar: I feel a bit silly that finding out the gender might make me feel worse. I think because we have had 5 girls in a row in our immediate family that I feel if it was a boy I might be more upset? like a reverse gender disappointment in a whacky way.
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@travellingbee: Totally allowed to be angry. Even though I am pregnant again, an acquaintance of mine just had a baby on what was my dd. And named the baby the same name we chose. It really, really, really stung. Hugs.
@FannyMae: Only you know what you can handle and need to know. I would have been 100x worse had I found out the gender. It would have been too much for me to handle. We did name the baby (a gender neutral name) and that felt like closure for us.
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@auggiefrog: Thanks! I really like crochet projects where you use more then 1 strand! I'm sure its great!
@FannyMae: We had testing done but I didn't have a choice in the matter. The pathology report did tell us the gender, (and confirmed what was wrong). For us, knowing the gender was a healing step. We gave our little baby a name and it gave us a little bit of closure. My doctor did not tell us, we were given a copy of the report and that is how I find out. If you don't want to know, maybe you can tell your Dr before he starts to discuss that you don't want to know the gender right now, but take a copy of the report in case you change your mind?
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@travellingbee: I think I get most jealous when people are so happy and announce so early and aren't at all terrified by the "what ifs" ((HUGS))
@FannyMae: I only learned how to crochet maybe a year or two ago and still only know the basics. You should try to get someone to teach you!
@auggiefrog: I'm glad AF showed up so you can be moving on!
@FannyMae: I had no pathology run so I have no advice, but I can only imagine it must be hard to figure out what you do and do not want to know.
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I decided to join a gym. How cliché. But I have nothing but time right now.... ugh.
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@jaguar: Hugs to you lady. I hate that you get crap news after crap news. I want nothing more for you than to get lovely news for once.
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thanks ladies, @HappyBluebird: I like your idea, maybe i'll ask him to not tell me the gender info unless its important to the results (i.e. genetic problem). He will give me the report and I'll put it away till i'm ready. I have the report from my daughter's birth and I can put them together.
I found out that a good friend of mine's sister has the same OB as me, she's due in a few months. Actually, I feel so happy for her she's a lovely person and went through a lot to get to this stage with a baby, and she private msg me on FB about how gentle and caring the OB is. Its definitely a change from wanting to hide away from preg related topics on FB hehe
@jaguar: not cliche! its better than ice cream and potato chips on the couch (not that I would know or anything......)
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@MaryM: I showed my mum the link to the cowl/scarf and said MAKE ME PLEASE!! hehe she thought it was beautiful, but she doesn't know how to follow the written pattern directions. She learnt from my granny when she was a little girl, and basically can replicate a pattern if she has a sample or clear visual in front of her (sometimes even a photocopy!) My sister in law started going to a weekly crochet teaching get together at a local pub... beer & crochet, what a combination! She's slowly learning so maybe I should get myself motivated!
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@jaguar: clique or not, that's great!
@FannyMae: I go once a month to a cafe on a Saturday afternoon. Maybe I should see if any of the ladies would prefer we cross the street to a pub. that could be fun!
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@FannyMae: @MaryM: I wish there was a group around me! There probably is but I haven't looked hard enough! Crocheting in a pub sounds like a great idea!
Speaking of that scarf/cowl, I have one more row until its done and I tried it on last night. That thing is huge!! I'm not sure how to wear it
I'll have to do some practice to make it look good wearing it!
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@HappyBluebird: I run mine through meetup. Ravelry also has listings. Mine are the second Saturday of every month if you ever feel like driving a bit
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@MaryM: ooohhh that would be fun! I wonder how much of a drive that is
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So ultrasound showed my uterine lining has thinned and corpus luteum has shrunk, so miscarriage seems to be complete. Waiting for HCG results. Glad to be able to move on!
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@travellingbee: glad things seem to be finished and you can move on
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@HappyBluebird: thanks. They called with my hCG and it is down to 14. We will test in a week to make sure it is down to zero.
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@travellingbee: I'm glad you're almost there. <5 and you're home free, and moving forward.
So... in my WTFISHAPPENING life, I got brown spotting yesterday.
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Okay... yesterday ended up being CD1 and today is CD2 and HEAVY. So I guess AF finally arrived... just late to the party.
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@jaguar: is that a good /expected thing, to get AF with such a large cyst? Also weird bc you just started birth control, right?
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@DesertDreams88: I have NO idea. It hopefully means the progesterone and estrogen have dropped, which would mean the cyst is no longer pumping them out...
And I didn't even get to start the birth control! After our appt on Friday, the nurse told me to wait 5 days, then start it. I started spotting at 4 days, and the nurse told me not to bother with it, since it looked like I was getting a bleed... which I did. Crazy!
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@jaguar: weird! FX that these are all good signs of your body righting itself.
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@DesertDreams88: Honestly? I have no idea WHAT is going on. So I'm just going with the flow.
How are you doing? x
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@jaguar: I'm really sick, I've been laying up on the couch for about 48 hours with fever, aches, congestion, etc. DH has been doting on me, he is such a caring, selfless person. I was having delayed O this cycle and I think I O-ed right as this came on, but I dont know bc of the fever, so I feel a bit frustrated.
We might take February off of TTC, I don't know, November is like the one month I don't really want to have a baby in, as a teacher. But as we all painfully know, you can't time these things!
On the upside, I got offered a great job change for next year!! I will be moving from 5th grade language arts to 8th grade SS, which is my true passion and my original idea when going into teaching. I had really been wrestling for a couple of months whether or not to return to this school next year, so this offer simplifies things, which is great. I basically need to stay with my employer for FMLA / paid sick leave.
Tell us about your upcoming trip to Fiji!! I will vacation vicariously though you, lol.
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@DesertDreams88: Oh no! You poor thing. Sickness is the worst!
Sounds like a great opportunity hon, congratulations! I know what you mean about the 'best' time of year... but you do what feels comfy for you. xxWell, we leave for Fiji on Feb 11th, so not far away now. I've never flown on a plane with Georgia before, and she'll be on our lap for the flight.. so I'm a bit nervous! It's about a 4 hour flight, so at least it's relatively short - but then it'll be another hour or so in the transfer to the hotel. I think I won't relax properly until we're in the room and chilling out!!!
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@jaguar: I can't imagine flying with a baby, but I know there are all sorts of tips out there to help you out! I hope Fiji will be a perfect blend of fun and relaxation for you, you totally deserve it. What are your plans - beaches, local spots, shopping, kid-friendly places, etc?
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@jaguar: even though its a heavy one, glad to here AF arrived. Hope the cyst has disappeared with it! My AF is still in the background, I feel crampy and sore but spotting has gone away. ahhh fiji holiday sounds great right about now, as I'm starting work tomorrow
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@DesertDreams88: We're basically going to spend the whole time as a family - resort and beach and that's it. We desperately need the r&r. I don't even really feel like being touristy, sad huh?
@FannyMae: Good luck at work tomorrow! Thanks, I hope it's all putting things back in order - and that your AF is on the way soon too.
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@jaguar: your vacation sounds wonderful! I'd love to go to Fiji! I hope you have a great, relaxing time!
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@HappyBluebird: Thanks! I'm glad it's coming up fast at least.
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I'll have to do some practice to make it look good wearing it!
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