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Anyone else get an itemized bill for a d&c? My lord, these costs!! I work in healthcare- so I have an idea of what something's cost, but over $3,000 just for the operating room for 30 mins??!! What!
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@LulaBee: Great news! I hope things continue to improve for you!!
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@mrs bunchy: No bills yet. I'm dreading it every time I check the mail box.
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I'm a bit surprised by my emotions lately. I'm feeling generally good, have discussed my miscarriage twice now with no tears, etc. Then today I was with two pregnant friends (one who knows and one who doesn't), and they were complaining (just a tiny bit, things I totally would have said during my first pregnancy), and it was all I could do to hold it together. Ugh.
I'm actually starting to look forward to TTC. We haven't "cuddled" yet given my slight complication, but we should be in the clear after my appointment.
I'm thinking of all of you and hoping that each day is getting a little bit better!
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@Jess1483: I feel quite similarly! It's strange how we cope. My SIL had her NT scan today and sent me pictures of her little one, and I was surprisingly ok.
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@mrs bunchy: seriously. It's insane. My 2 procedures were also over 2000 different. It's ridiculous. My stay in the recovery room was $1500. Very expensive graham crackers and apple juice.
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Add a chemical pregnancy to my list. DH and I had a moment of pure insanity when I thought I had ovulated already but got a bfp at 9dpo. Went into doc for blood draw at 10dpo and it was a whopping 6. They started me on progesterone. But now it's 12dpo and my frer has only the faintest line and I started spotting even on progesterone. I'm supposed to go back Tuesday for another blood draw but I'm thinking of canceling.
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@Tidybee: I know!!!! My recovery was $1500 because it was a level 2? Did the recliner cost extra??
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@Tidybee: sorry about the cp. that just sucks.
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@Tidybee:
Sorry, that does suck.
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@Tidybee: Oh love. x Big hugs.
I hate that this is so freaking hard for us. Hate.
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@Tidybee: ugh...
I'm so sorry.
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Just checking in to see how my ladies are going?
We're just... getting by. Sad but a little less sad/more frustrated every day. Waiting around sucks!
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@jaguar: I know the feeling!! I'm doing just about the same! Waiting for DH to get home before I crack a beer. I need to cut his hair tonight and would hate to do it intoxicated
ha.
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@mrs bunchy: Haha, that could be dangerous!!!
Waiting, waiting, waiting. *yawn* xx
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@jaguar: Doing well. I feel I turned a bit of a corner this weekend from "dreading doing this whole thing again" to "I'd really like AF to show up and to get this show on the road!" I'm feeling far less sad, although far more nervous. I'm still missing my little one, but feel like I could still enjoy my next pregnancy.
We have also had a big weekend around here, as we switched DS to a toddler bed. It's a bit bittersweet, since the whole idea of getting moving on it was to make the crib available to the next little one, but still pretty exciting.
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@Jess1483: That is very exciting! We were talking about getting Georgia into a bigger bed at the end of this year, but we'll just play it by ear now, I think.
x
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How is everyone doing this week?
I got another
this cycle. So onto cycle 3 I guess. I feel so bummed about it because although I have fertility issues and long spells (years) without ovulating I got pregnant twice easily, once we had me ovulating again. That was when I was with the fertility clinic and now I don't have them anymore. Makes me wonder if something else is going on. I know I'm being ridiculous and it can take many more months and I should really stop complaining. I just wish I was still pregnant and most of all I feel like I let my LO down because even though she didn't know she was going to be a big sister, now she isn't going to be and she would have loved that baby so much.Vent over
Hope you are all having a good week!
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@Tidybee: I'm so sorry about the cp
@jaguar: I hope you're feeling less and less sad as time goes on. I think I am, but it's still a day to day thing. It's so hard, no matter where in the grieving process you are, you know??
@Jess1483: I know how you feel about turning that corner! Getting AF definitely does help you move on, once it does happen. How old is your DS? We've talked about switching our DS soon, but keep changing my mind lol
@travelgirl1: I totally understand where you're coming from. I fear that it will take DH and I a long time to get pregnant again and make DS a big brother. I feel badly for telling him about the other baby and then it not happening (not that he remembers), but still. I'm sure you will have that rainbow baby soon - fingers crossed for you and lots of hugs
I should be o-ing at the end of this week, and I'm super anxious about it. Moreso than normally. Like I've said time and again, we got pregnant so easily before....I'm really scared of it not happening so easily again. Anyway, we've been busy bd-ing and hoping and praying. Hope everyone is well!
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@travelgirl1: I'm so sorry
I'm praying for a BFP next cycle for you!@ValentineMommy: DS is 21 months. Part of me wanted to leave him in the crib after the miscarriage (because it was easier, and the reason we wanted to move him was so he didn't feel like the baby was "taking" his crib), but he was so darn excited about it! I also feel bad about telling him about being a big brother. It took a few weeks for him to stop kissing and hugging my stomach. I just told him baby was in heaven (not that he has any context for it) and eventually he stopped. He obviously won't remember, but I think next time I'll wait. Fingers crossed for a sticky baby for you soon!
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@travelgirl1: I hear ya. DD has been saying that she wants a baby like her friend (our best friends) and that she likes when mommy holds the baby.
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@Tidybee: I wondered if she left too...but also remembered she's a teacher (isn't she?), so maybe she's just not checking in much now that school is in session?
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@ValentineMommy: thank you, and good luck with the big O
@Jess1483: Thank you
@Tidybee: DD's BFF is getting a baby sister in January. A is to young to know she was supposed to be having one too. I'm looking forward to seeing her with her friend's little sis though, it's the next best thing.
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@Jess1483: Thank you! I agree, next time I'll wait longer to tell him, as well. How did the bed conversion go?? Was it easy?
@travelgirl1: Thank you!!!!
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@ValentineMommy: I'd say it's going fairly well. He does better at night than nap time, but he's getting it. We only give him two times out of bed before we move the mattress back to the crib and put him in there. He's only gotten that far once, though I will occasionally sit on the end of his bed (only at nap time) until he falls asleep. My biggest fear was that he wouldn't sleep as well, but once he's asleep, he does just the same as he would in a crib. And bonus! He comes to me in the morning instead of me having to go get him. I am cautiously calling it successful (but we aren't taking down the crib yet...)
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@travelgirl1: I'm sorry for your negative.
I don't know what I'm more terrified about - BFN's and cycles failing, or actually getting a positive test again. *hugs*@ValentineMommy: Definitely a day to day thing. Good luck end of this week. I wish I was ovulating so we could even have a SHOT at getting pregnant. Limbo sucks.
@Jess1483: Oh, that's so sad. My daughter was only 16 months when we lost this baby, so didn't understand what was happening yet. I'm so sad she'll never get to meet that sibling.
@SimplyFelicity did decide to step back for a while. x
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@Jess1483: That's great! I'm glad it's going so well!
@jaguar: I definitely know how that limbo feels. The 8 weeks after my d&e were pure torture. And the waiting for AF after that wasn't much better. It's slowly getting there though, and you will too!
I'm sad @SimplyFelicity has stepped back. I hope she is doing alright and comes back soon.
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@jaguar: When I got the BFP with the CP, I started shaking and thinking - I can't go down this road again. Then of course, once the reality sunk in, I felt so much better and totally excited.
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I definitely understand why @simplyfelicity stepped back, but I hope she still feels supported. She was so sweet and kind. For me, "talking" is how I process, so the more I talk about it, the better I feel. For my husband, it's the opposite.
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@Jess1483: I'm the same way as you - talking makes me feel better. My DH is the opposite as well, so it makes it hard! I'm having a really bad morning - hope yours is better than mine!
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@ValentineMommy: I'm so sorry about the rough morning
I hope something happens to turn it around for you.
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@Jess1483: @ValentineMommy: I'm the same! Hence the total emotional breakdown last month where I sat up in bed one night bawling saying "Do you have ANY idea how alone I feel?!?!"
woof
thankfully once I say something he does his best to improve. We're still not talking about it (thankfully I have secret online friends to take care of that!) but he's been incredibly sweet lately.
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@MaryM: Haha. DH is really good about listening to me and talking about it, it's just that it doesn't make him feel any better. It's much better when he can just not think about it (or just talk about having another one). I bought a small willowtree figurine yesterday that we'd talked about, and when I showed it to him, he cried
Poor guy.
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@Jess1483: My husband is very old-school in the "I won't show emotion, I have to take care of my woman" way. It's awesome that he always seems so strong...but in a way, it makes me feel like he can "forget" about everything so easily.
The only time I've really seen him cry was when he read a blog I wrote about his father after he passed away. And it was so foreign, I couldn't tell if he was laughing or crying!
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I finally had my OB follow-up yesterday. Nothing new, but at least this phase is over and pretty soon I should be able to have RPL testing done. The last few days have been up and down...mostly just feeling frustrated that this is our reality.
I'm hopeful that we get this "right" soon...because I'm not sure how many more times I could set myself up for this kind of devastation...ETA: my DH is trying really hard to "get over" this...I think he's mostly through his grief process...but he's tried lots of different tacks to cope...some of which have been a bit questionable, but different strokes, I suppose...
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@FliegepilzHut: I'm sorry you didn't get any new information. How frustrating. Prayers for a sticky baby for you soon.
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@Jess1483: I just found out my birth father died overnight (I was adopted). I posted a thread about it. I just feel like I never get a break.
One of my friends gave me a willowtree figurine when I had the m/c - I keep it by the bedside and look at it every night. @MaryM: I just don't think men can totally "get" it! We're here for ya though
@FliegepilzHut: So sorry for the lack of new info, but at least this phase is over. Hugs!
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@ValentineMommy: I wonder if men don't get it...or if we just can't get men!
I'm really sorry to hear about your birth father
Losing parents is really hard.
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@MaryM: I think it's both - we don't get each other!!! lol Thank you for the sympathy. It's been a rough morning.
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Hi ladies! Back from vacation, but haven't had much time to read what's been happening with everyone. You were all so active while I was gone! I hope things are starting to look up for everyone.
DH, LO and I all got sick over vacation which was a total bummer, and I couldn't get my blood drawn until today for my testing. Holy blood draw. I had 32 vials of blood taken that my RE ordered. I'm glad she ordered so much testing to rule everything out, but wow was that a lot!
AF is also here today, so I have to give my RE a call to schedule an ultrasound. I'm feeling a whole lot more optimistic than I was last week...I also think I was so depressed b/c I was PMSing. Darn hormones.
@Tidybee: I just saw that you've had a CP. I'm so sorry and hope that they're able to figure things out soon for you as well. Sending lots of love and prayers
Sorry, that does suck.
this cycle. So onto cycle 3 I guess. I feel so bummed about it because although I have fertility issues and long spells (years) without ovulating I got pregnant twice easily, once we had me ovulating again. That was when I was with the fertility clinic and now I don't have them anymore. Makes me wonder if something else is going on. I know I'm being ridiculous and it can take many more months and I should really stop complaining. I just wish I was still pregnant and most of all I feel like I let my LO down because even though she didn't know she was going to be a big sister, now she isn't going to be and she would have loved that baby so much.
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