Hey bees!

We've been having some on-going conflicts with mil and sil, and in general, I'm of the mind that dh manages the relationships with his family. He's gotten way better at communicating with his mother (not his sister, since she refuses; we just aren't speaking to her now but that's a different issue, sort of). Like, he had a big talk with mil not long ago about issues that have bothered us for awhile. But the thing is, I'm still annoyed about it. I haven't talked it out with her, even though he has. It would be redundant for me to have the exact same conversation with her, and really it's that I'm annoyed on dh's behalf (the issue is really her taking advantage of him and then not reciprocating when we asked for help)...But it's still nagging at me. We don't live in the same place, so it's not like we even see her often or have the opportunity to talk to her together (they had their big talk while I was busy taking care of lo...). I think I just need to let it go since it's about dh's relationship with her more than mine, and trust that dh has my back as a united front.

I'm curious, though, how do you all manage family conflict? Does one person hash it out and then everyone moves on, or is that unrealistic?