when my 3 year old starts to get tired (a few hours before bedtime) he loses all self control. consequences don't seem to matter, I assume because he isn't developmentally capable of thinking ahead like that. I can deal with him making a mess, but there's a lot of hurting people, throwing things in dangerous ways, etc.

if you have/had this problem, how do you deal with it? I'd love to have a consistent response but just don't have it figured out.

I know part of it is time . . . but hoping for some words of wisdom! I already feel stretched to have the energy to deal with this (I SAH and solo through bedtime a lot during the week) and we're having #3 this summer which will make it even harder to be able to focus on it.

also would love any recommendations for books or discipline methods that might help. thanks!!