LO is 13 months old and already capable of throwing full-on rolling-around-on-the-ground tantrums. (Apparently, he didn't like when I took the skin off of his avocado - even though I let him know I was going to help him peel the skin off). I thought this was a terrible-two thing, but apparently, it is a NOW thing for him. I've read about providing a safe place for him to let it out and to ignore it, but was wondering if this advice was just for an older LO. What do/did you do for your younger tantrum-throwing LO?
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E started throwing these kind of tantrums around then also and is still going strong at 15 months. I set him on the ground a few feet away from me and ignore him until he settles a little bit. Then I'll go get him, or more often he walks over to me, and we " talk" about it.
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I do the same as @kiddosc. At that age, they don't know how to communicate what they want or how they feel, so sometimes I feel it's best to just let her throw that tantrum and ignore her until she gets it out of her system and calms down a little bit.
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Same, he still acts more wild animal than human at 19 months in many ways, so I move him if he's in the middle of somewhere public (like last week at a soothing butterfly garden) or somewhere dangerous (like a parking lot) and let him get it out of his system. Then even though he doesn't understand, once he's calm I sit down at his level and talk to him about the issue.
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In general I tend to agree with the others, the only other thing I can suggest is to sit down a few feet away and start doing something else and narrating a bit ("Hmm, I think I am in the mood for a smoothie, maybe I will put in some strawberries etc.") Often they will be interested enough to pull it together and I feel like it serves as a stepping stone to being able to control those big feelings on their own. I think super direct distraction can sometimes be a crutch and almost becomes more like bribery-- offering a banana to peel and a cookie to "distract" isn't quite the same to me
. Good luck!
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I have to agree. C started around the same age and is still going at almost 17 months. Its definitely very frustration-based for her.
Generally, Ilet her have it out for a few minutes and then sit on the floor with my arms out so she can come to me if she wants. I dont say anything except her name. I want her to know that Im not going to tolerate the behavior, but I also want her to know that Im there.
Distraction works really well too. If I do something she thinks isinteresting, normally she calms down and comes to see.
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My ten month old is just starting to get into the "frustrated" phase and I can definitely see tantrums in our future! I try to remember that she doesn't have the tools or necessary development to deal with or communicate her emotions and frustrations and that I just need to be patient and empathetic with her.
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My 11 month old has been throwing tantrums but I don't really want to ignore tantrums, especially at this age. They are still learning to trust us and the world, and they do it because they dont have words, not because they are trying to manipulate us... or at least that is my understanding. I just try to distract her... Don't know of any way to stop them... I think it's just a developmental thing.
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My son does that too. His tantrums are getting worse, he even hurt his lip. He likes to ram his head into things during tantrums. He stop him when he gets violent, but we let him calm down a little if he is just crying. He is 18 months old
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My LO was a couple months older when she started having the who knows why you're crying tantrums. If comforting or distracting or trying to figure what was going on didn't work then occasionally when she wouldn't calm down I'd just put her in her room and either stay with her or just let her have some time to chill out. She likes her room so usually she just finished yelling about whatever and then started playing with her toys. So it was I guess a bit of a way to distract her in a safe place, our kitchen has tile floors so I always worried when she was downstairs throwing a fit that she'd throw herself down on the hard tile. I was a bit worried it would make her not like her room to go there when she was having a fit but luckily it never became a problem. But we tried to make it so it wasn't a punishment spot but more we'll cool our jets in here spot and its not very often that she gets that angry that she needs to cool down.
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My LO is 14 months, and yeah...the terrible 2's start early! Like many other posters have said, I basically let her cry it out. I'm not going to run and coddle her every time she throws a fit because that only reinforces that fits get results. So, I ignore her or use a combination of ignore and distract. For example, I'll ignore the tantrum and go and get a book and start reading out loud to myself and saying like "oh look, I'm going to read X book now. Wow! It's so exciting when X happens! Wow, look at this, can you believe it?!?" and when she sees me into something, she'll usually stop crying and come right over to see what "cool" thing I'm looking at. Tantrum averted.
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My son has never really done the full on tantrum rolling on the floor inconsolable kicking and screaming, but he does have his moments.
My reaction depends on the kind of tantrum.
If it is out of anger, I tend to ignore until he calms down.
If I see that he is frustrated with something, I go to him and ask him questions "why are you crying?", "do you need help doing that?", "is X thing making you made/sad?", etc. and I really think it has helped him calm down quickly, verbalize, and accomplish whatever it was he was trying to do in the first place.
. Good luck!
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