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It wasn't bad. I talked to my mom and she loved the card and magnet I sent her. One of my cousins sent me the sweetest text message. I have been meaning to share it today.

"Happy Mother's Day beautiful. I know that one day you'll celebrate today with your little one in your arms but until then just know you have a huge family support group praying and believing :)"

That seriously made my day.

Sorry just realizesd this thread pertained to Infertility. So sorry to post!

I wanted to have DH take a nice photo of me with my dog but I woke up feeling itchy and rashy so that didn't happen. But I did take a nice walk with her!

I also got to have a nice long convo with a good friend of mine. It was the first time anyone was genuinely interested in hearing what I've been going through and what effect it's had on me, which was deeply cathartic.

Mine kinda sucked. I went to the fertility clinic in the morning (oh, the irony). Most of the people in the waiting room did not look happy. Then DH last minute decided to invite MIL over to our house upstate), and she is still here (was supposed to leave this morning). I am on the second day of IVF hormones and having major side effects and just feel like I need my space!

@justdarling: Ugh, that was my Mothers Day last year - SIL announced just before so they had a nice big party without us. This year now that she has her baby they didn't even invite us, knowing what we've gone through with the IF and loss. It's one thing to say "I can understand if you don't feel like being there" but to totally ignore us, wow. It sends the message that you're not a person until you can procreate. I sure hope your grandma is doing better today! And you as well!

@raintreebee: That must have been an unpleasant surprise. You're so patient to put up with it!

it wasn't a great day, but for other reasons. we went to visit my aunt with my parents, it was nice to see them. it was my first mother's day without my nana, her birthday would also have been last week. i think as long as my mom is still here ( a long, long time i hope!), it will be a day about her, LO or no LO.

@spaniellove: That's just horrible. I hate when people assume infertiles won't want to be at something. At least give us the option.

It went well and I was surprised by that. Unrelated I can see that my MIL is waiting to hear we are pregnant again. She doesn't know we are getting IF treatments and though she understood the pain of miscarriage, I'm finding so few understand the ups and downs of IF.

Hi! I'll apologize in advance for the novel that follows. I needed to tell someone about all this (DH doesn't even know the specifics of the MD items below.)

Sunday was rough for a variety of reasons. My husband's small business suffered a huge loss with a fire on Friday night. We didn't get any sleep. I worked all day Saturday to communicate to his customers about contingency plans.

I was exhausted but felt I needed to keep my MD plans which was to go with my mom & siblings see my 88 year old grandmother who lives out of town. I only see her a few times each year.

I am sure I am overly sensitive but my mom chose to ride squished in the back seat of a car between two car seats so that she could spend time with my niece and nephew. She sees them at least one whole day a week but only sees me for a few hours every few weeks. When telling me she was going to ride with them instead of in the empty back seat of my car she said "there's something (grandkids) here that you don't have in your car." I know she just wanted to spend time with her grandkids but the way she said it really hurt. Thanks for the reminder that I don't have kids mom!

So later in church the minister prays for "mothers...... and those who have struggled to be mothers this year and want that more than anything else..." Yeah, I lost it. I cried pretty quietly throughout the prayer but then had to leave and go to the restroom to compose myself. Finally as we were leaving, my sister, who knows all our struggles was hugging everyone goodbye and wishing them a Happy Mother's Day, she comes to me and just automatically says the same thing, realizes her mistake and says "Happy Aunts Day".

I know that neither my mom or sister meant to hurt my feelings but it was a tough day, particularly given my exhaustion. It is my deepest wish that each of us are mothers, pregnant, or paper pregnant (adoption process) by next Mother's Day! Hugs to you all and thanks for listening to my story!

@bluestriped bee: Thanks! Glad your MD wasn't bad, particularly with a social media break! Yay for shopping and nice messages from friends.