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Given how it sounds like how YOU feel, it seems like you are emotionally prepared to give it one more shot. So I think you should give it one more try.
For me, I would just go ahead with IVF, because the waiting and the likelihood of an unhealthy child (if I read that correctly?) would drive me nuts with wonder and worry. And I'm impatient.
Ultimately, whichever you decide, trust yourself and best of luck! {hugs}

I can't imagine what choice I would make, but you are prompting me to go off and do the research I was meaning to do...

Ok, I've wall posted but my questions are similar to brownie's. What if an affected baby survives to delivery but has a very short lifespan or is able to survive profoundly impaired?
Or what if your child has to face making the same decisions as you do as a balanced translocation carrier? Do these change the calculus for you? Or does it remain the same?

I voted only based on what I think I would do not what I think you should as it's a huge decision and jacks and brownie pose done good questions. IVF is not for me so if it was between that and naturally, I would choose naturally.

I voted solely based on what I would do, and I chose IVF right away . But only because of my age. (33) How old are you?

Ultimately I think you should go with your gut!

I may have misunderstood the odds but I voted to try one more time naturally. If you get pregnant will you likely miscarry or have a healthy child or is there a higher risk of giving birth to a terminal baby? I think I could deal with trying again if I was fairly certain I would have a healthy child if I carried to term.

(I'm not sure if I'm reading the numbers you posted correctly, but), if I only had a 25%-40% chance of carrying a healthy baby to term, I think I would go the IVF route.

However, this is *your* body, your pregnancy and your decision. If your heart tells you that you want/need to try one more time naturally, then I think you should make whatever choice gives you the most long-term peace. Good luck with whatever decision you and your family make.

Honestly, I'd go straight to IVF if this were my situation. After 2 losses, I can't imagine going through it again. Though you're at least prepared for it, but other posters ask valid questions, what if its not just a simple m/c? In the end, do what you feel is right.

I think the worse case scenario is actually not a miscarriage but carrying a gravely ill baby to term only to lose him/her shortly after or have a baby that has a very low quality of life because of illness. If those are real risks for you them I would go for IVF.

This is such a difficult decision and I'm so sorry you have to make it.
I agree with mamamoose. If naturally conceiving and carrying a baby to term does not guarantee you a healthy baby, my inclination would be to do the IVF.
Big hugs.

IF a baby that you carried to term was going to be healthy, AND you conceive fairly easily, I'd personally keep at it. As someone barely able to conceive on her own, I'd personally have to go straight to the IVF. But if you know that you can conceive another in a reasonable time frame AND that baby (if it sticks) is likely to be healthy, that is the route that I would personally take.

Everyone has their tolerance for pain. I think that I, given the choice, would choose another miscarriage or two over the emotional and financial pain of IVF.

I would say try one more time because of your gut feeling. But that is only if the genetic issue you discovered causes EARLY miscarriages. If it carries a risk to the pregnancy THROUGHOUT the pregnancy- so you'd never feel "ok" about it and secure about the child you were carrying, then I would say do IVF so you can be more sure that the baby has a "normal" chance of being carried to term. I think I remember both of your miscarriages were earlier though? If that's how the genetic issue works then at least you'd know by a certain point if you were successful.

Either way- sending you so many happy sticky baby vibes!!!!

Personally, I would do IVF. I couldn't live with those odds you mentioned, or live in constant fear/expectation of something being wrong with the baby. It takes a lot of joy out of pregnancy if you're always waiting for the other shoe to drop. And for me, having had one miscarriage, I don't think I could do with another one, especially later in pregnancy. But this choice is all about what *you* can live with.

@SweetiePie: beautiful lady, if you weren't scared, I would say you're either crazy or lying. But it's obvious that your faith is strong, and I feel strongly that you will make the right decision, whatever that may be. And please know that there are so many of us cheering you on!!!

@SweetiePie:

Like others have said... We're not in your shoes. But as a person of faith do you think your instinct to try once again could be a divine nudge? Sometimes our gut instincts are worth listening to.

FWIW-- I have a balanced translocation, too. Though my chances are better-- something like 25% healthy baby, 50% baby with my translocation, and 25% chance of passing on a trisomy that usually results in miscarriage, and if not, death within hours of birth. (These numbers aren't exactly accurate, but close enough.) The rate of passing on the trisomy increases as I age, but since I'm still under 30, odds are still in my favor. (I've since started testing for a 2nd infertility issue, but let's not go there for this...)

SO, the point of all this-- For us, rolling the dice is worth it, because the odds were/are still in our favor as long as the only issue is the translocation-- I'm still pretty young, and for us, IVF + PGD is not an option.

Translocations are tricky, because it's just a matter of how many miscarriages you can handle, and possibly what your age is. In my head, I'm prepared for a few- a small handful of miscarriages during my lifetime. It goes with the territory of having a translocation. (I may change my mind after a few times though...) So what should you do? I think it's just a question how many more miscarriages you can handle. If one more, and you think your husband is on board, I'd say go ahead and see what happens. But your chances are lower than mine, and if IVF + PGD is an option, don't put yourself through more miscarriages than you feel like you and your husband could handle.

If you do end up pregnant naturally, and decide to do the CVS, feel free to message me. We had ours at 11.5 weeks-- and it wasn't the greatest experience, but totally worth it.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. What a hard decision IVF is so expensive, too (and that would be the reason I would probably continue to roll the dice, at least for a bit). Going into a pregnancy with the preparation that something could happen is....a lot different than being surprised. Just from a personal standpoint.

If you feel like your gut is telling you to give it another shot, just prepare yourself for it. My CVS itself wasn't bad, but it was an incredibly stressful week.

I wonder if mini-IVF Is an option for you? I know it is cheaper than regular IVF but i don't know all the details