Good morning Ladies, long time lurker looking for advice / opinions!

Our LO is 2.5 and as I am no spring chicken we are feeling (mostly self imposed) pressure to decide on whether to be one and done or try for a second LO.

I adore my son, but like many, I am not a big of the newborn period, I don't like the chaos that comes with the early years - I know some people really embrace and lean into that season, but if I'm being honest with myself, it's just not my personality (or my husband's for that matter- we like order!) Yet, I know those years are short.

I don't have a deep longing for another - it's really nice to think about, but the reality of two - the chaos, sick days, lack of time for our marriage (which is a huge one for me) makes me reconsider.

We live far from family and although we have made some friends, I wouldn't say we have a great support network - our friends are all balancing their own lives so we would be doing it basically alone.

We travel internationally each year (family live abroad) which is expensive and logistically a lot, even with one, but is something I really don't want to cut out as I feel I would be depriving LO of his extended family and heritage so that is another issue.

So considering all of that - one seems to be the best option right? But I can't get away from the nagging feeling that we are depriving our LO of a sibling. I am very close with my siblings and would love that relationship for him - but is it enough of a reason to have another child? My logical mind of course says "no - you have to want to raise another child, not merely a sibling" - that logical woman is very smart, but emotionally, it just doesn't feel that simple.

So if you were in my shoes, do you think the obstacles to another are too large? Is a sibling a solid reason in your opinion? How did you decide to be one and done, or go for another? Any advice at all would be amazing!